If you’re like most people, you’ve probably got some habits you’d like to change: maybe you want to quit smoking or eat better or check your phone less. And if you’re like most people, you’ve probably tried making those changes, and failed. And after failing again and again, you just gave up.
My guest today is a psychologist who specializes in helping people make real, lasting change in their lives. His name is Sean Young and he’s the director of the UCLA Center of Digital Behavior and the author of the book Stick with It: A Scientifically Proven Process For Changing Your Life—for Good. Today on the show, Sean explains why most of our approaches to personal change fail, and the scientifically proven process he and his team have developed to help people make lasting change. Sean shares several tactics that — when used in combination — can help you finally make those changes you’ve long desired.
We discuss why creating small wins is important in habit change and what we can learn from cults on how to effectively change ourselves. We then discuss how we can alter our environment to facilitate transformation, as well as “neurohacks” that can shortcut the brain’s hardwired instincts. At the end, Sean ties all these concepts together to provide listeners with a roadmap to finally sticking with a habit change.
- Why do a lot of our efforts at sticking with things — especially when it comes to life change — fail?
- Why motivational and self-help books don’t work in the long run
- Why information alone doesn’t work in helping people change their habits
- How bad habits and behaviors cost taxpayers, and even affect public policy
- A, B, and C behaviors — not all behaviors and actions are the same
- The S.C.I.E.N.C.E. framework to creating lasting change
- What’s a “stepladder” and how is it an effective tool in changing our habits?
- The important differences between steps, goals, and dreams
- What cults can teach us about lasting change
- How to make something that should be important to you, actually important
- How we can make change easier for us
- Change your environment, change your behaviors
- What are neurohacks, and how they can foster change?
- Why motivation and inspiration are way overrated
Resources/People/Articles Mentioned in Podcast
- Podcast: Hacking the Habit Loop
- Podcast: Shock Yourself Into New Habits
- Podcast: How to Live a Rich Life
- How to Hack the Habit Loop
- How to Create Habits That Stick
- Become a Self-Starter: What the U.S. Marines Can Teach You About the Skill of Motivation
- The Lean Startup by Eric Ries
- Inspiration is for Amateurs
- What to Feel Like a Man? Then Act Like One
Stick with It takes different ideas you may have read about habit change and puts them together in a system that’s been scientifically studied to produce lasting change. You won’t regret reading this book.
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Last updated: August 11, 2017