| January 31, 2017

Podcast, Relationships & Dating

Podcast #274: Building Your Band of Brothers

Surveys show that adult men are suffering a friendship crisis. Most adult men don’t have a single friend they could turn to in a time of need. Many sociologists suggest that this dearth of friendship is one of the contributing factors in increased mental disorders and suicide rates among men. 

But close male friends don’t just keep you from suffering a mental and emotional breakdown. They’re also vital in shaping you into a better man.

That’s the argument my guest today, Stephen Mansfield, makes in his latest book, Building Your Band of Brothers. Today on the show, Stephen and I discuss the bleak statistics on male friendship, the myth of the lone alpha male, and why making friends in adulthood is so hard for men. We then discuss what he means by a “band of brothers,” why men’s accountability groups usually fail, and how a close-knit group of friends can help make you a better man. We end our discussion by delving into exactly what you need to do to develop a band of brothers and what to do when you get together. 

If you feel like you’ve been lacking in the friendship department, this episode is for you. You’re going to walk away with some tactics you can put into action right away to begin developing your posse of pals.

Show Highlights

  • Why it was necessary for Stephen to write this book on male friendships in the first place
  • Why is it important for men to be part of a band of brothers?
  • The illusion of the American alpha wolf male
  • The crisis of adult males who don’t have deep friendships
  • Why it’s easier for boys to make friends than adult men
  • The history of male friendship
  • “Rusty friends”
  • Stephen’s own experiences and troubles with male friendships
  • The history of the phrase “band of brothers”
  • How is a band of brothers different from any other men’s group?
  • The “free fire zone”
  • The essentials to creating a band of brothers
  • How many guys does it take to form a strong band of brothers?
  • How do you find men to buy into this idea?
  • “3B-ing” a relationship
  • How to have a band of brothers even in the midst of a busy life
  • How to “tend your fields,” and why that’s the heart of manhood
  • How a band of brothers makes you a better husband and father
  • Sustaining a band of brothers

Resources/People/Articles Mentioned in Podcast

If you’re looking to form a band of brothers, Stephen’s book provides concrete, actionable steps to help get you started. Pick up a copy on Amazon.

Connect With Stephen Mansfield

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Last updated: February 6, 2017

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