| March 21, 2017

Podcast, Relationships & Dating

Podcast #288: Love is Overrated

Do you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over again in your relationships? 

For example, do you have a tendency to ignore red flags and constantly end up in relationships that aren’t healthy for you?

Maybe you end up in relationships where the initial chemistry is good, but a few months later, you’re looking for any way out. 

Well, if any of those descriptions describe you (or a friend who needs some advice!), then give this podcast a listen. 

My guests today argue that your problem is that you let yourself get suckered by love. Their names are Michael and Sarah Bennett. Michael is a psychiatrist. Sarah is Michael’s daughter and a comedy writer. I had them on the show previously to talk about their book F*ck Feelings. In their latest book, F*ck Love, they focus on the most messed up feeling of all: love

Despite the irreverent title of their book, the Bennetts provide surprisingly solid and old-fashioned advice when it comes to establishing long-lasting and fulfilling relationships. They discuss why our emotions can lead us astray in relationships and why men are actually more prone to being bamboozled by romantic feelings than women. They then share both the red flags and the positive qualities you should be on the lookout for in a partner if you want a happy relationship. They also discuss what you should do in a relationship in which you’re not happy and why couple’s therapy is often not very useful. 

This is a podcast full of laughs, as well as some seriously helpful insights on how to navigate relationships effectively.

Note: Even though the title of the book contains “F*ck,” there’s no swearing in this episode. 

Show Highlights

  • Why love (and romance) is overrated, and how it leads us astray
  • Why you should follow your brain, not your gut
  • The part that romance does play in a relationship
  • Why the Bennetts’ approach to relationships is actually old fashioned
  • Instead of searching for a soul mate, why you should think of yourself as a “romance recruiter”
  • What to look for in a long-term partner
  • Why you shouldn’t enter into a relationship thinking that you can change people characteristics
  • The “Liz Lemon Dealbreakers” to look for in a relationship
  • How to battle the feel-good chemicals that blind us to bad relationships
  • The importance of having a friend who can tell you the truth about your relationships
  • Attributes that we think make for a good partner, but really don’t
  • How charisma can get in the way of a relationship
  • Why Jane Austen would enjoy F*ck Love
  • How communication in a relationship is actually overrated
  • Does your familial relationship predict anything about your romantic relationships?
  • The potential relational downsides of being physically attractive
  • Why someone who isn’t as physically attractive shouldn’t lose hope about dating and relationships
  • Advice for folks who are already married or in a long-term relationship
  • How to think of your partner’s annoying habits or undesirable characteristics

Resources/People/Articles Mentioned in Podcast

Just like their first book, F*ck Feelingsthe Bennetts provide solid, down-to-earth insights while making you laugh along the way. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, you’re going to find something useful in F*ck Love.

Connect With Michael and Sarah Bennett

The Bennetts’ website

The Bennetts on Twitter

The Bennetts on Facebook

The Bennetts on Instagram

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