Creating a Positive Family Culture: How to Plan and Lead a Weekly Family Meeting

by Brett & Kate McKay on February 14, 2014 · 34 comments

in Fatherhood, Relationships & Family

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Does your family life seem chaotic?

Are you worried that your children aren’t learning and incorporating the values that are important to you and your wife?

Do you feel like your family is just a bunch of strangers who happen to live in the same house and share the same last name?

Well today we’re going to share a secret that successful and happy families use to increase solidarity, reduce stress, and inculcate values.

It’s regular family meetings.

I know. I know. I can hear the collective groans emanating across cyberspace.

Just as with family mission statements, most folks balk at the idea of having regular family meetings because they seem so forced, structured, and well — let’s be honest here — super freaking cheesy.

I get it. My church encourages everyone to have a weekly family night that includes a fun activity and a short lesson or devotional on some virtue or scripture, and growing up I thought the idea was pretty goofy.

But now that I’m a dad, I’m starting to whistle a different tune. I want to create a positive family culture within my own family. I want my kids to feel like they’re part of a team that has their back no matter what. I also want to instill in them values and skills that will serve them well and help them develop into contributing members of society.

But that sort of stuff doesn’t just happen. If you want to foster a successful family, you have to father with intentionality.

While a family mission statement can provide the big-picture vision for your family, regular family meetings are how you take that vision and turn it into action. It’s where the rubber meets the road.

All families, regardless of your beliefs and background, can benefit from making regular meetings one of your family traditions. Below we share the benefits of family meetings, as well as offer tips on how to get started with creating and carrying out your own.

The Benefits of a Family Meeting

There has actually been a surprising amount of research on the benefits of regular family meetings. Below we highlight some of them:

Solves problems. Instead of having a family that walks on eggshells around an obvious problem that never gets resolved because no one wants to talk about it, weekly meetings can be used to eliminate the tension and hash out the issue. Besides working through problems that the family is facing as a group, family nights are also a great way to help individual members with whatever issues they might be dealing with.

Reduces stress. By providing an opportunity to sync calendars and get everyone in your family on the same page about what’s going on in the household, weekly meetings can greatly reduce the stress that often plagues modern families.

Builds family solidarity. A family that meets together stays together. Dedicating time each week to teach, plan, and have fun as a family will build a firm foundation of solidarity that’s able to withstand life’s storms.

Boosts fathers’ confidence and purpose. In his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families, Stephen Covey referenced a study of the benefits of family meetings. The thing that surprised its author the most was how big a boon family meetings were to fathers in particular. Not only did fathers in the study report feeling closer to their families, they also felt a renewed sense of confidence and self-regard. It makes sense. Many men want to be a leader in their homes, but aren’t sure how, and family meetings allow men to exercise this leadership in a concrete and tangible way.

Reinforces family culture and values. Remember: a good family culture doesn’t just happen. You have to constantly work at it. Family meetings are an effective way to reinforce your family’s culture and values. They offer a regular opportunity to explicitly teach the principles you want to instill in your children as well as discuss how to apply them in real-life situations.

Teaches children vital life skills. Just by taking part in regular family meetings, your kids will pick up important life skills like problem solving, planning, conflict resolution, and communication. If you let your kids take turns leading a lesson or discussion during your family night, they’ll also learn valuable teaching and public speaking skills. Besides helping them develop these soft skills, you can also dedicate family nights to teaching specific life skills like how to budget, how to take care of a car, how to be civically engaged, and of course, how to throw a tomahawk.

How to Plan and Execute a Family Meeting

You can be as formal or informal as you want with your family nights. Every family is different, so use your discretion to decide what will work best. Here are some general tips and guidelines to help get you thinking about how you’d like to plan and execute your family meetings.

Take the lead. I realize it’s not considered kosher to say things like “head of the household” anymore, but in my experience, many, many women would still love for their husbands to take a leadership role in the home. Wives and mothers take charge of so many other details at home and at work, that they’re grateful for you to take the reins on some things. Make planning and executing regular family meetings one of those things.

Shoot for once a week. Aim to have a family meeting once a week. Pick a time that doesn’t conflict with anyone’s schedule. For some families that might be Sunday night; for others it might be Saturday afternoon. We do ours on Tuesday night, and I’m sure it will change as the kids get older and our commitments change.

Make it a priority. Even though you should take your schedule and kid’s activities into consideration when choosing a regular time to hold your family meetings, once you have done so, make following through and having your kids attend as non-negotiable as possible. Schedule other activities around it whenever you can and don’t toss it out the window just because you’ve had a long day or are tired. Commit to consistency.

Establish a general agenda. Having a rough outline of what you’ll do at each meeting will make planning easier. And knowing what to expect makes the meeting more bearable for your family. Below we provide a template. There are no set rules here – you can follow this to a T, adapt certain elements, or do something completely different.

  • Open the meeting. Create a ritual you always use to open the meeting. Start with a prayer or a song, or read your family’s mission statement aloud.
  • Teaching time. Each week dedicate 15 to 30 minutes to teaching or discussing a topic important to your family. Below we provide a section dedicated to what you might talk about during this time. No need to be heavy-handed with the teaching — keep it engaging for everyone. Also, don’t worry if it appears your rugrats aren’t paying attention. You’d be surprised how much kids pick up while they’re picking their noses.

Ideas for Teaching Time

Many parents hope their kids will simply pick up on the values and virtues that are important to them. And truly, teaching by example is the most effective way to pass on your principles. But it’s also good to talk explicitly about them to you children – so you can have a real discussion. Don’t assume you’re on the same page and they see things the same way you do. Allow your kids to ask questions about your beliefs and air doubts. As you share your viewpoint, listen to their perspective on it.

If you’re religious, you’ll likely want to discuss tenets of your faith during the teaching time segment of your weekly family meetings. Talk about the meaning of a scripture or a lesson to be found in a Bible story. If you can come up with a hands-on activity that ties in with the lesson, all the better.

Teaching time isn’t just for religious families though, and can be a great tradition for secular families too. And even if you are religious, you can expand the topics discussed beyond faith; I know I plan to devote our family meetings not simply to gospel topics but to talking about good character in general and civic virtue as well.

What are some good secular resources and ideas for instilling character and competence in your kids? Here are a few suggestions:

  • Share and discuss a poem.
  • Read a book together as a family and devote family meetings to a book club-type discussion.
  • Ask each member of the family to share one thing they learned that week.
  • Talk about current events.
  • Talk about how the government works and how your children can be good citizens.
  • Discuss critical thinking skills and how your kids can evaluate the information they come across.
  • Discuss the role of technology in your lives, its pros and cons, and what would be good limits to place on it.
  • Teach your kids a basic life skill like how to create a budget or change a tire.
  • Discuss different principles of etiquette and how to act in a dignified manner in various situations.
  • Talk about the importance of nutrition and exercise.
  • Play classical music and have each person discuss which selections they like.
  • Have each family member share three things they’re grateful for.
  • Discuss different ethical quandaries and ask your kids how they would handle them.
  • Read and discuss a selection from Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations
  • Pick one of Benjamin Franklin’s 13 virtues each week, discuss its meaning and how to implement it into day-to-day life, make it a goal to work on it that week, and then discuss how you did with that goal at the following meeting.
  • Pick a story from William Bennett’s Book of Virtues (or The Children’s Book of Virtues) and discuss what it teaches about character.
  • If you have sons, share and discuss an excerpt from Manvotionals. Some of the selections in the book apply to young women as well.

Anything that edifies should be on the table for teaching time. The possibilities are limited only by what values you want to impart to your kids.

  • Sync calendars. After the lesson, take some time to sync calendars. Each member of the family lets each other know what they have on their agenda for the coming week. You might consider creating a shared Google Calendar for just family stuff so everyone is on the same page. Besides syncing calendars, sync to-do lists. Assign chores and tasks for upcoming family projects.
  • Family review and retrospective. In The Secrets of Happy Families, author Bruce Felier took a lesson from tech startups and tried implementing “agile development” into his family’s weekly meetings. Agile development is a system that many software development companies use to get constant feedback on how projects are going in order to make adjustments on the fly. An important principle of agile development is the weekly “review and retrospective” in which teams get together to discuss issues and make action plans based on changing circumstances. Felier incorporated this idea into his family meetings by spending time discussing these three questions:
    • What worked well in our family this week?
    • What went wrong in our family this week?
    • What will we work on this coming week?

    By regularly discussing these questions, everyone should have a good idea of what’s working well and not so well in your family, as well as have a constantly updated plan of action for what to do if things go awry. The key thing to remember with the family review and retrospective questions is to focus on how you’re doing as a family. Don’t use this time to discuss individual problems or grievances. You’ll have time for that later.

  • Ask if anybody needs help with anything. After discussing problems that you’re family is facing as a group, dedicate some time for individual family members to bring up personal problems they could use some help on.
  • Have fun! Every family meeting/night should end with something fun. What constitutes fun will vary from family to family. Play video or board games together. Take a walk. Shoot slingshots. Make pizzas. Whatever floats your family’s boat. Including, quite literally, root beer floats.
  • Close the meeting. Have a closing ritual too. Sing a song, do another prayer, have a family hug or cheer, or do a combo of such things. Always try to end on a positive note.
  • Eat a treat. Knowing a delicious cookie or bowl of ice cream awaits at the end of the meeting gives everyone something to look forward to, and for kids can be used as an incentive for having good behavior during the meeting.

Be flexible too. While having a regular agenda is helpful, there will be times when you’ll need to dedicate more time to a specific category. You don’t have to plan or solve problems at every meeting; sometimes you should just dedicate the entire family time to having fun. On the other hand, there will be times when you’ll need to dedicate the whole meeting to resolving problems and forego the fun. Be flexible and adapt as circumstances necessitate. The treat part is non-negotiable though.

Get everyone involved. Don’t make family meetings a one-man show. Try to get everyone involved as much as possible. When discussing issues, make sure everyone gets a say. Get your kids’ input on activities you should do or topics you should discuss.

As your kids get into their elementary school years, assign them responsibilities during the family meeting. For example, you could assign one person to be the secretary and write down “minutes” during the family review. You can also assign kids to teach a lesson, make the refreshments, or plan the fun activity. Remember, one of the goals of family meetings is to instill important life skills in your kids. Don’t deny them these opportunities by being a family meeting tyrant.

Vary the length depending on how old kids are. It’s tempting to decide you won’t have family meetings until the kids leave the toddler phase, but I think it’s good to start instilling the tradition, even if in a compressed form, while they’re young. Right now our family meetings are really short — only about 10 minutes — because that’s about all a 3-year-old’s attention span and level of cognition can take. But Gus already knows that Tuesday night is family meeting night.

As your kids get older, you can increase the length of the meeting but try not to go longer than an hour at the most. If you and your wife need more time to plan and sync calendars, you can do that with just each other at a later time.

Don’t have high expectations. The big issue I’ve seen with people incorporating family meetings into their own families is that they have unreasonably high expectations going into it. Parents have this image in their minds of their kids sitting quietly on the floor paying rapt attention to dear old dad smoking a pipe while dispensing sage advice on life next to a fire. Afterwards the family laughs and laughs as they eat banana splits.

Of course that’s not how it goes.

Kids moan and groan about coming to the meeting. Instead of discussing family issues calmly, pandemonium ensues. When you’re trying to teach some important principle, your toddler is sticking Legos up his nose.

Because the meeting doesn’t line-up with their idealized version, many parents just give up on the project because what’s the use.

Don’t fall into that trap. Even if your family meetings are less than idyllic, there’s still value in holding them. First, you’d be surprised how much your kids are picking up on even while they pummel each other on the carpet. Second, even if your kids moan and groan about them now, when they’re adults they’ll probably appreciate and even look back fondly at your family’s weekly meetings.

Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Go into your family meetings with reasonable expectations. Expect a little chaos from time to time and just do what you can. Just because you don’t see a benefit immediately, doesn’t mean you haven’t sewn some amazing seeds that will bear the fruit of family love and personal character down the road.

Read the other posts in the series: 
Fathering With Intentionality: The Importance of Creating a Family Culture
Creating a Positive Family Culture: How and Why to Create a Family Mission Statement
Creating a Positive Family Culture: The Importance of Establishing Family Traditions
60+ Family Tradition Ideas

{ 34 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Alex Shorts February 14, 2014 at 6:41 pm

Great article. Since it appears that you are of biblical faith background, I wanted to alert you to something that has been going on for centuries in the faith. Sabbath dinners. Now before you dismiss this saying that the law has been done away with, I encourage you to look into this tradition. I am a gentile and not a jew and we celebrate this. Essentially a Friday night dinner in which to acknowledge the Lord and to teach the word through food and community to the children. Here is a simple guide that we started with and as our understanding grew we have branched out some. Go to disciplecenter.com and then the article archives and navigate to “Sabbath for Christians.”
It has turned into a great family night and foundation to our family culture. Yes it may seem to be a little out of place in today’s Christianity but it was common place in the time of the apostles. The read is definitely worth your time even if you disagree.

2 Haden February 14, 2014 at 11:33 pm

I’ll tell you, I was super grateful our family did weekly family nights. I really got to see the importance of them and the impact that it created, especially when I moved out. I realized how important and close to me my family is.

3 Chris February 15, 2014 at 2:03 am

I haven’t read the whole article yet, it’s bookmarked for later. I assume you’re talking about FHE.

4 Claude February 15, 2014 at 2:59 am

Fantastic blog and perfect timing. I have been looking for something like this.

@ Alex Shorts. Love your suggestion too.

5 Helen February 15, 2014 at 7:41 am

Great article!

6 Nikola Gjakovski February 15, 2014 at 9:03 am

I’m not a parent still a kid, but I’m approving every sentence of it. Family needs to work as one, as unity. Although I’ve never had lunch with my family and I’m not glad with that, but for the next generations I firmly recommend this post .

7 charles February 15, 2014 at 9:06 am

As an Eastern Orthodox, I.e. Christian, we have those traditions built into our calendar. When I was attending a conservative baptist seminary, we never thought about traditions, just ways of avoiding traditions. What many of us young bucks failed to realize is that we are always following a tradition. Every tradition is active and fully at work. If you aren’t spending time with your kids, you are creating a tradition of no family time, and that’s what you are teaching your kids, too. Its also called liturgy.

ICXC

Charles

8 Chris February 15, 2014 at 11:14 am

Thanks for the reminder. I had family meetings quite consistently for a while and then backed off. I actually use a Trello board to help keep track of what we talk about. My kids keep asking me “when are we going to have a family meeting.” I needed some encouragement to start back up. This article helped me. Thanks again!

9 Aaron February 15, 2014 at 4:02 pm

As an atheist, I think having a mission statement and set values reaffirmed in a weekly family meeting to be perhaps even more important. Atheists do not have a holy text to refer to, as each atheist determines on their own what they value and what is important. Again, this weekly affirmation could be very important to us as an atheist family. Granted, our baby girl may not grow up to be an atheist, and that’s ok. At least we will be able to give her a strong moral viewpoint given that we don’t follow any religion.

10 Kenneth February 16, 2014 at 1:10 am

As a Messianic Jew, our family celebrates Shabbat(Sabbath) and conducts a weekly family meeting. On Shabbat, we address spiritual issues and topics. During our family meetings, we discuss different topics, in addition to planning for the week ahead. The family bonding is amazing, because there is an opportunity to give, receive, and demonstrate behaviors, such as unconditional love, benevolence, and humility.

11 Reid February 16, 2014 at 8:32 am

Oh my gosh, I LOVE this! I am battling cancer right now, and not only do I feel my family wanting to avoid the subject, but the schedule is getting the best of us. We are going to institute this right away! What a wonderful article!

12 Lori February 16, 2014 at 5:04 pm

We’ve been holding a weekly family meeting for many years…usually on Sunday evenings so that we can get the school/work week off to a good start. Our boys are now well into their teens, and we still hold it (yes, we’ve heard many moans over the years, but kept at it). We have a small erasable white board with a few “categories” that we cover each week (this board hangs on the fridge during the week). We go over schedules, sign any upcoming birthday cards so they are ready for mailing, discuss any problems to be solved, talk about how we each have helped someone during the past week, share what we’re reading and we each set two goals (one related to work/school and the other a fun one). Those who achieve their goals during the week get to choose a dessert for the following week (we don’t usually have dessert, so goal achievement assures treats). Although my husband started out running family meeting, we changed the format and rotate, so each family member takes a turn. This has worked out really well. Highly recommend family meeting!

13 Jon February 17, 2014 at 1:36 pm

Thank you for this article! I am a father-to-be and I remember our family meetings when I was growing up. I loathed them and couldn’t wait for them to be over. Now in my 30s, I recognize the value that the meetings had in my life and my family’s. Having the meetings made me accountable for my actions and kept me on task (as much as an 8 or 9 year can be “on task”). I want to instill these same values in my child(ren).

Thank you for reminding me of another great way to build a strong family, strong morals, and stay organized!

14 Ethan February 17, 2014 at 2:56 pm

Dig the website and the post. As a younger man, family planning is still a ways away but forming a knowledgeable foundation before the time comes is a must so thanks for the advice.

15 Trevvor February 17, 2014 at 5:50 pm

As a still-new father of a 13-month-old son, I’m quickly realizing the conscious effort it will take for my wife and I to instruct and train our son over the course of his time in our home. Thanks for this insightful and helpful series, y’all – I’ll be referring back to it frequently for ideas and encouragement!

16 Jordan February 17, 2014 at 5:52 pm

William Bennett’s “The Book of Virtues” and “The Moral Compass” are great books, even for adults. I periodically read “The Book of Virtues” when I was young and continue to now. It’s hard to find literature nowadays that espouses strong traditional values, but they’re all here!

17 Gary February 17, 2014 at 5:55 pm

Fantastic Article, this is exactly the kind of writing that I respect about AOM. You would never see wisdom this valuable in Esquire or GQ. Keep up the good work and keep up the family meetings!

Regards,

Gary

18 Andrew Cagle February 17, 2014 at 7:39 pm

We have maintained regular family meetings, so that we can get a good start. Our children are now well into adolescence, so a family meeting will enable us to better communicate. At the meeting we will discuss and solve many problems. This is a good way to contact all members of the family. So I strongly recommend a family meeting!

19 Nik Rice February 17, 2014 at 11:24 pm

My wife and I had family home evening tonight. I have to admit that we don’t have it more than we do. With a 21 month old and a 7 month old pair of boys, it’s tough to do much.
However, before we even had any kids, we bought a legitimate trophy at a trophy store which we decided to allocate to whoever in the house had been the closest to our mission statement that week. This trophy has a gold guy holding a star above his head so we decided to inscribe “Rice family star of the week ” on it.
I know it’s silly but I am super excited to see our children compete for it. The trophy will be awarded on family night.

Thanks for making me feel like I’m on track!

20 Christopher February 18, 2014 at 2:38 am

Great article! I’m a religious man. LDS (Mormon) to be exact. I don’t think turning my comment into a religious statemant/discussion would be appropriate, but surely i can testify that weekly family meetings are so good for family morale. I love it. It’s helped my wife and I grow so much closer. A tradition that I will continue with my kids.

21 Phil M. February 18, 2014 at 11:58 am

First and foremost, this is, as always, a well-written piece.

And FWIW, I absolutely LOATHED my family meetings growing up. To the point that I consciously skipped them as often as possible. I still get on great with my family, 20-some years later. Just wanted to note that not all things work for all people.

22 Mark February 18, 2014 at 12:14 pm

What I like best about your article is the encouragement to be intentional about parenting. It’s this kind of intentional investment into the next generation that will ALWAYS pay positive dividends. This is great advice to take to heart and to church.

23 Danmark February 18, 2014 at 12:50 pm

Though I am single, family/future/kids/marriage is becoming a more important subject on my mind. So I appreciate articles like this. Intentionality, I agree, is the key.
Ideally, home schooling would be best. But if reality comes along and derails those plans, my future wife and I can at least supplement our children’s education at home as best we can. Which does not mean sending them off to more tutors. But passing on skills and morals for which public schools do not, and should not, take responsibility.
“No paid employee will ever care for your children as much as a parent can.”

24 Andreas Ahrlund February 19, 2014 at 1:56 am

“Discuss the role of technology in your lives, its pros and cons, and what would be good limits to place on it.”

I dont think you necessarily need to limit it differently from any other vice.

Just master it like you would food or alcohol. How much of what can I have?

25 jimmy February 19, 2014 at 7:09 am

Hi! Brett, Kate & everyone at AoM

My partner and I are expecting our first baby in July, and these posts on AoM regarding Fatherhood and Family Culture are something I find great as great guidance and inspiration.

Now, Michelle and I have intentions of instilling our values in our children, i guess what I’m asking is is it reasonable to set time aside to have family meetings already? as to get in to the swing of things for when our baby gets older and our family grows?

thanks

~JImmy

26 Ryley Bresee February 21, 2014 at 6:36 pm

Holding weekly meetings was a common theme in mine and my wife’s families. These meetings included family coordinating, sharing of the previous week, and a lesson of some moral or spiritual matter. As I have grown up in a religious home these family meetings were encouraged by my church and so that is the reason that they began, but now that I am older and have my own family I can understand that there is much more reason to hold family meetings. This article goes over a lot of the reasons but I feel that stressing one other is important. The father leading the meetings is a chance for him to be a major part of his children’s lives. Sometimes it is hard for children to feel an attachment to their father since mostly all fathers are gone at work all day. So if the father can lead and be a big part of the meeting he can secure that relationship with his kids. I am beginning to see this in my own home. It has also been great observe the differences in mine and my wife’s families and see the differences in our fathers. I can say that my wife’s father had a more leading presence and I definitely can see the benefits.

27 FitzRoy February 22, 2014 at 2:46 am

What a wonderful piece – been on my To Do List for more than six (6) years now since we had our first daughter. Now we have a two year old son too and l have had many false starts. Readers, thanks for praying for me to get this right – l know it will make such a big difference in my family. Thanks for the article, God bless!

28 Kevin W. Bridges February 24, 2014 at 1:43 pm

I’m not in disagreement with the piece. And it was a good post with helpful information. But…kids catch far more from what you do than what you say. You said “But that sort of stuff (values and skills) doesn’t just happen.” Actually it does, whether we intentionally meet or not. I had regular family meetings growing up where parents spouted ideals and values and then we left the meeting time and my father taught the opposite through his actions. He might talk about patience and love in a family meeting and then curse a driver on the roadway. Which lesson implanted greater values, his words or his actions? Meetings are fine, if there’s congruence between what parents say in those times and do in real life. Otherwise, they are a complete waste of time!

29 Eric February 24, 2014 at 3:42 pm

We’ve implemented a partial family meeting in my house. Right now, it’s just with my wife and I – kids are 3 & 1.

It’s been crucial and life giving to us, though we need to tweak it a lot.

For example, this week we noticed that we had a great “vision” talk because we had not discussion about calendar. Seems like calendar/budget and vision may work best as separate meetings for us.

Love the idea of having a short group meeting with the 3 year old to build his stamina for future meetings.

30 andarb February 24, 2014 at 5:41 pm

I’ve been struggling to remind myself to do this for a while now. It’s currently just me, the wife, and her severely handicapped son (essentially stuck at a three-year-old’s development level in most areas.) I have a reminder set on my phone, but it seems like every Tuesday night rolls around and I am distracted. It doesn’t help that our son can’t really add much to any meeting, he just wants to watch tv and play with his toys, or talk about what color his clothes are today. The wife and I talk closely every day, sometimes too much I think.

Articles like this make me sad, though. I desperately want children, but we’re not sure we can.

31 Steve February 24, 2014 at 6:38 pm

I like this idea too. If you want to avoid kids groaning, give them an active role, like an assignment centered on something they enjoy and want to share with the family. Kids of all ages love show and tell. Maybe have a check-in like we do at my men’s group, stating what was good about the last week and what was not so good.

32 ken February 28, 2014 at 2:09 pm

we had our first family meeting last night. just the wife and I. we have a son, but he’s a year and a half. we were able to air some grievances that neither of us knew about form the other. started with a talk about temperance, moved into the good the bad and the ugly of our week, ended with a craft for the kid (i made a pintrest account … still boggled that i did that) and a dessert.

something i’m going to continue with the goal of covering the 13 virtues and ultimately creating a family mission statement. i never thought of fathering with ‘intentionality’ before reading your articles. thank you.

33 A Wife and Mother March 5, 2014 at 7:44 am

Dear Fellow Readers,
I would like to establish family meetings. My husband does not want to lead them, but he will be part of them if I insist. I’ve been thinking about how to do this without “emasculating” him. It makes sense to me to go around the table and ask, one by one, STARTING with him, what went well in our family this past week, what needs to change, and what everyone else needs to know re: upcoming events this week (schedule, etc.). That is really simple and just invites everyone to discussion. I think it will give my husband an opening to express his desires and concerns, and I think he will eventually think ahead and find this is an opportunity to express things he wishes for but does not know how to bring up. What do you readers think? Do you have additional suggestions?

34 Nina March 13, 2014 at 10:25 am

@ A Wife and Mother
as the mother, at home, YOU are the head of the family anyway, it is only fair that you lead the meetings. You should have a serious pep talk with your sensitive husband if you think this would emasculate him. Please, be reasonable and show some backbone.

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