The Nature and Power of Ritual Series Conclusion: On Ritual Resistance

by Brett & Kate McKay on January 28, 2014 · 7 comments

in A Man's Life, On Manhood

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Ritual is one of the oldest and most universal forms of human expression in the world. Over the last couple of months, we have explained the reasons for its persistence and ubiquity by detailing its many and varied benefits, including the ability to carve out pockets of the sacred in a profane world, solidify bonds, and drive personal progress.

But if ritual has such a transformative, life-enriching power, why do societies, as they modernize, invariably move away from it? In the introduction to this series on the power and nature of ritual, we briefly mentioned two reasons for our current culture’s spurning of it: the high value placed on completely unfettered personal freedom and a worry over the way ritual could be employed for nefarious purposes that grew out of the aftermath of World War II. Now, as we conclude the series, we’d like to suggest a few more elements at the root of modern-day ritual resistance:

Suspicion of ritual’s link to magic. One of the key attributes of ritual is that it is an action that lacks a “practical relationship between the means one chooses to achieve certain ends.” It’s not rational to believe a rite of passage can make a boy into a man or that placing various totems around your office (a la Steven Pressfield) is going to help you write better. Thus to believe in the efficacy of these rites is to believe in a kind of magic.

People tend to have a knee-jerk reaction to the word magic, but I would encourage you to define it as Ronald L. Grimes does: as “ritual work.” Grimes argues that if a “rite not only has meaning, but works, it is magical.” Or for a modern pop culture take, it’s only weird if it doesn’t work.

Maybe putting a penny from your grandfather in your sock before every football game helps you play better because his spirit really is there helping you, or maybe the ritual simply settles your mind and gives your more confidence. Either way the ritual works. Whether rituals are effective because they invoke supernatural powers, or simply psychological ones, many really do have their intended effect – even scientific studies have shown this to be true. So if a ritual works, does it matter why it works? And if something is proven effective, is it really irrational to try it?

Even the most stridently logical and secular amongst us are highly irrational creatures; psychologists have shown that every human being is subject to numerous cognitive biases, some of which cannot be overcome even when we try to think them away. So to my mind, the only truly irrational man is he who cannot admit he is irrational. And the wisest man is he who admits he is irrational, is completely aware of it, and intentionally decides to sometimes take part in technically irrational behaviors for the benefits he knows they accrue him.

Ritual boredom. As you’ve been reading through this series, you may have thought to yourself, “This sounds great in theory, but I’ve done some of the rituals mentioned, and I haven’t experienced any of these amazing supposed benefits.”

Dr. Tom F. Driver calls this common modern experience “ritual boredom.” While he argues that it is caused by rituals being kept too rigidly and not evolving to be more relevant to modern culture, I don’t personally believe that tradition itself is the problem. Two other factors seem more salient to me:

The first is an atrophied attention span. What feels like boredom to some is experienced by another as a meaningful exploration of truth. The first person, confronted with repetition and a current of stimuli much slower than what is experienced on their phone and computer, does not feel there is enough to hold their attention and their mind drifts off to that week’s grocery list. The second person, who has a keen and genuine curiosity, is able to focus in on what is happening and dig deeper into it, asking questions like, “Why do we do this at this point? What does this symbol mean? How are these things connected?” The more they dig, the more the ritual reveals to them, and the more meaningful and interesting the ritual becomes.

Second, ritual boredom can be traced to the postmodern gap between the signifier and the signified. That is, we see rituals and symbols as meaning different things to everyone, or really not meaning anything at all. Take something like Christmas. Originally a Christian holiday (and yes, before that, based on pagan celebrations), it is now something celebrated even by some Jews and atheists. The symbols of Christmas were designed to point towards something, but now symbolize nothing more than a certain time of year and “fun” and “family.” If you don’t believe there are deeper meanings to rituals, then you won’t believe they carry special forces. And in the absence of these elevating and electrifying powers, the ritual is experienced as just boringly going through the motions.

Take New Year’s celebrations. For primitive tribes, they truly believed that each new year they re-founded the world and that in reenacting the primordial deeds performed by the gods during the period of creation, their rituals released some of the potent, transformative power that was present at the very beginning of time. That’s heady stuff. On our New Year’s Eve, we drink, watch a ball slide down a pole, wryly discuss the pathetic statistics for how many people actually keep their resolutions, and go to bed with a sigh, feeling more blah than rejuvenated. The revelry isn’t connected to the gods or mythical ancestors, to mythology or history, or even a strong sense of tradition. We do it because, I dunno, Party City says we should? Because the ritual does not re-create anything, the juices that infuse creative acts, that makes magic and transformation possible, that open up pockets of the sacred are absent, and instead of the ritual feeling extra-ordinary, like a break in the everyday, it feels excruciatingly flat, one-dimensional — like just more of the same.

Cynicism. Rituals create shared worlds of possibilities, shared visions of how things could be. Envisioning this world involves the ability to see our current world as not the only possible reality, and thus requires a certain degree of idealism. A ritualist must be able to imagine something beyond the status quo, and have the courage to share that vision with others.

I think every young man who’s ever watched Dead Poets Society felt a pang of longing, wishing he could have a club like that with his friends. Yet no young man wants to be the one to say, “Gee, fellas, what would you think about us all gathering in the woods from time to time and reading poetry to each other?” This young man would like to propose his vision of a shared world where he and his mates could be bosom buddies, but keeps the idea to himself out of fear it will be met with derisive cynicism and mocking.

Ritual is work. Building relationships and unity in a fragmented world, constructing pockets of possibilities, turning chaos into order – the process of world creation – involves a great deal of work. Continual work.

Have you come home from a formal event, one where you had to dress up, mind your manners, and watch what you said — and promptly loosened your tie, plopped on the couch, and let out an exhausted sigh? You weren’t physically fatigued, but were instead tired from the role you had just played in ritually creating a shared world with others. At such a moment, you might curse this need to “put on airs” and decide you’d rather skip out on such things in the future — to stay at home in your sweatpants just “being yourself.” And this seems like a good idea for a while, until inevitably, life starts to feel inexplicably dull and flat.

The paradox of ritual is the same paradox at the heart of all work. When we’re working at our day jobs, we dream of taking an endless vacation. But if we do take a while off, pretty soon our expected enjoyment is replaced by a feeling of restlessness and boredom. In the same way, even if we’re getting something out of our participation in certain rituals, we periodically feel like we don’t want to be bothered and would rather just skip out. But then we feel a lack of something in our lives, and re-connect with the ritual. And on the cycle goes.

Oftentimes when we lament the flatness of our modern world, and wonder “is this all there is?” we think, consciously or not, that the remedy will simply come into our lives. Or we think that there’s nothing we can do about this listlessness anyway, so why bother? But like all good things, texture and meaning – a rich, multi-layered life – doesn’t just happen. We create the texture by carving pockets of the sacred in the profane, by creating new structures for being inside different worlds of possibilities. The act of creation is always work. It never comes easily or naturally. If we want more out of life, we must go seeking it out instead of waiting for it to come to us.

Read the Entire Series: 
The Rites of Manhood: Man’s Need for Ritual
The Power of Ritual: The Creation of Sacred Time and Space in a Profane World
The Power of Ritual: Building Shared Worlds and Bonds That Transcend the Everyday
The Power of Ritual: The Rocket Booster of Personal Change, Transformation, and Progress
The Nature and Power of Ritual Series Conclusion: On Ritual Resistance

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1 Alexander January 28, 2014 at 10:48 am

Excellent series of articles, sir. I wholly agree that ritual is a very important part of a man’s life that he now has largely forsaken. You have a talent for putting clearly into words what is on many a man’s mind and I thank you for that. One thing that I would like to point out is that Christmas was not originally a pagan holiday. The day of Christ’s birth was moved to December 25 to combat the darkness celebrations of the pagans and to show that “the Light of the world” (Jesus Christ) was coming to us. The tradition of gift giving stems from St. Nicholas and the wonderful care that he took of the poor. The Christmas tree, however is adopted from a Germanic pagan holiday tradition. Again, an excellent article and I look forward to future posts.

2 Andra C. Taylor January 28, 2014 at 11:47 am

I’ve really appreciate this series of articles, especially after join the Freemasonry. Freemason is deeply connect with the procedures and rituals for becoming a man and relating to the community that I live in.

3 A6 January 28, 2014 at 12:34 pm

“….In the same way, even if we’re getting something out of our participation in certain rituals, we periodically feel like we don’t want to be bothered and would rather just skip out.”
WOW! Going through some of this right now as I’m anxiously pondering whether or not to attend this meet-up at Google headquarters in NYC tomorrow; what the “appropriate” attire should be and more importantly what I will decide to wear. If there were ever ANY post on the AOM that directly correlated to my current life situation it’s this one. Keep up the good work Brett and Kate!!

4 Jason J. January 28, 2014 at 12:55 pm

Plus One +1 on FreeMasonry. I wonderful combination of Ritual and Fellowship that produces very positive results.

5 Daniel January 29, 2014 at 7:17 am

@Alexander,

December 25th was a roman holiday – a late roman holiday, of Sol Invictus, the unconquerable sun. This date was then taken by the Roman Christian Church, along with many other things (ranks, administrative divisions) when the Church was offically endorsed by the State, and the early official church was very, very, VERY militant in anti-pagan efforts. What better way to destroy connotations with the old gods than to take what is theirs and redo it for the new purpose?

6 Dustin January 29, 2014 at 9:03 am

I agree that many rituals provide real and tangible benefits that many modern people scoff at because of its illogic. Rituals enrich the lives of many and leave their partakers refreshed with more positive outlooks on their life and imbue a sense of hope for the future. However, I think the series on rituals drips nostalgia. The part of this post about ritual boredom particularly bothered me, because the idea that rituals lose effectiveness over time by not evolving (perfectly reasonable) is quickly dismissed and the author slips back into old habits by blaming the instant gratification modern culture and the cheapening of previously meaningful things, which I thought was both disappointing and too easy.

If people are bored and unaffected by a ritual, then that ritual is fundamentally not doing the only thing it’s supposed to do. It should not be automatically assumed that the fault lies with whoever was participating because they lack the attention span or the ritual has been “watered down”. The problem with rituals is that because they are completely illogical, it is usually only a matter of time before they become unhinged from reality and start losing efficacy. Firstly, rituals become outdated faster than most things as they are typically resistant to changing. Since there is no logical basis for what is done in a ritual, there is no logical reason to change it as the world changes. There is also the effect of the ritual becoming ritualized itself; to use the author’s example of a grandfather’s penny in the sock, over time the ritual can devolve from keeping the spirit of your grandfather alive with you while you compete to simply always having a lucky penny in your sock. Take graduation ceremonies, for example. The real ceremony was about your being recorded in the records of the university as having been awarded a new degree, which was a practical consideration of the time to prevent just anyone from claiming to be a graduate. Today, between plastic gowns and mortarboard hats that date back to the 15th century, the slow pacing in lines to the tired warble of Pomp and Circumstance, and the long-winded unnecessarily lofty speeches about “teaching you how to think” and the “benefits of a liberal arts education”, the ritual has become more about following the form of what a graduation ceremony looks like instead of what a graduation ceremony is. While a certain amount of suspension of disbelief and willingness to try is required for it to have effect, it is preposterous to suggest to someone who didn’t feel the effect of a ritual that they aren’t mulling over the deep symbolism of the ritual enough or that they lacked the attention span to even be present for it.

Rituals are also innately dangerous. The lack of logic can cause people to act in ways that they otherwise would not have if not for the ritual. Take the idea of going out to the woods to read poetry with your friends once a month. It starts as just an event where you and your closest friends get together and share some deep thoughts about life. What if others want to join? Sure, so long as they’re friends. What if there are too many people and you lose the intimate feeling you previously had? You restrict membership, perhaps? The event becomes less seclusionary and more exclusionary. What if someone suggests no more poetry and maybe talk about their thoughts on life or philosophy in general? Some may feel it goes against the ritualized purpose of the meeting. These types of things can easily move almost to a secret club, exclusive, with intense peer pressure to maintain the integrity of the group by always having good attendance, following the form of the meeting, etc. Many times there is no real problem, but it’s not difficult in the slightest to find examples in history of how ritualization has evolved into something dark, such as the People’s Temple mass suicide or the Branch Davidians.

Rituals rot, and I think the penultimate article in the series ought to have been about how to keep the good core of old rituals alive in a modern world by refining the old with the new to continually reinvent and renew the power of the ritual. We are not the same society we once were even a decade ago, why should we stubbornly cling to the same rituals?

I like that this blog challenges the modernist viewpoint that just because something is new doesn’t mean that it’s better or that just because something is old doesn’t mean it isn’t relevant. Many of the articles point out evidence to show how old ideas and ways of doing things are still practical and applicable today, which is refreshing. This article, as well as the others in the series, is starting to sound like a traditionalist viewpoint. Just because something is old doesn’t mean it’s automatically better or just because something is new doesn’t mean it is frivolous or silly. Some rituals deserve to be forgotten, regardless of rich history or long tradition.

7 Stefanos January 31, 2014 at 4:31 pm

Having just now finished Jeffrey Meyers’ Biography of Ernest Hemingway, i want to comment on the description of him being “a great teacher of ritual”. This comes about from Hemingway’s lifelong beliefs in courage, bravery and “grace under pressure”. He believed in rites of passage in the form of war (WW1,WW2, Greek-Turkish War, Spanish Civil War), hunting, boxing, fishing and bullfighting among others. Such experiences are, he believed, fundamental in the development of a man, especially a writer, and infuse a person with qualities that would otherwise take a lifetime to acquire.

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