
The relationship between fathers and their children is one of the most important and influential of all human connections. Children want to be like their fathers, or their complete opposites. They can feel protected, smothered, or abandoned by their dads. Dads can wonder if they’re doing fatherhood right, struggle to express their love to their children, or regret the things they didn’t say or do.
Any way you slice it, the father/child relationship can stir up a lot of emotions, so it’s no wonder these emotions have sometimes been channeled by musicians into songwriting gold. Fatherhood doesn’t get as many songs penned about it as romantic love to be sure, but there have definitely been some dad-themed gems put out over the decades. In honor of Father’s Day this Sunday, here are ten of my favorites. I know there are many more — so be sure to share your picks with us in the comments!
“Father and Son” by the Artist Formerly Known as Cat Stevens
This 1970 folk rock classic by Cat Stevens captures an exchange between a young, idealistic man looking to break away and live a life of passion, and an old, but wise father telling his son to “Just relax, take it easy.”
While many assume that the bearded, pre-Muslim conversion, hippie Cat Stevens identified only with the freedom-seeking son, in an interview in Rolling Stone, Stevens said: “Some people think that I was taking the son’s side. But how could I have sung the father’s side if I couldn’t have understood it, too? I was listening to that song recently and I heard one line and realized that that was my father’s father’s father’s father’s father’s father’s father’s father speaking.”
“Love Without End, Amen” by George Strait
Country music is filled with songs about dads, but George Strait’s “Love Without End, Amen” is surely the best of the bunch. Ever since becoming a father, I’ve definitely been learning about “the secret about a father’s love” of which good old George Strait croons.
“Papa Was a Rolling Stone” by The Temptations
“Papa Was a Rolling Stone” is a strange musical combination: truly doleful lyrics set to a funky groove. This 1970 dance hit by the Temptations tells the tale of a man discovering that his dad was a lazy, womanizing, good-for-nothing. The song teaches us that if your dad was a bad example on how to be a man, learn from him by doing the opposite…and then get up off your thing and dance until you feel better about it.
“Daughter” by Loudon Wainwright III
I can thank Judd Apatow’s Knocked Up for introducing me to this gem of a song. Whenever I hear it, it makes me want to have a daughter. But even if you have a pack of boys (or a wild and crazy Gus), you can still relate to the pride and love that Loudon Wainwright feels for his little girl. When Wainwright sings, “Everything she knows I taught her,” the truth of how much influence you have on your kiddos really hits you. Wainwright also has another song about fatherhood called “Being a Dad” that’s pretty good too.
“Cat’s in the Cradle” by Harry Chapin
The heartwrenching-est song about fathers and sons ever written. The song is based on a poem written by Harry Chapin’s wife. The couple often worked on each other’s writings, and when Harry first read the poem, he tried setting it to music, but the result didn’t grab him. It was not until his son was born that Chapin felt inspired to give turning the poem into a song another try, and “Cat’s in the Cradle” was the result.
The song tells the story of a man too busy with his career to actually enjoy the people that matter the most. He works to provide for his family, but doesn’t make an effort to build a relationship with his boy. By the time the father realizes what he’s let slip away, and wants to spend time with his son, life has come full circle — his son is too busy for him now. “My boy was just like me.”
Every time I hear this song, I start reflecting on the time I spend with my own boy and how quick he’s going to grow up. Men, if you want a relationship with your son (or daughter) when you’re old and gray, put the smartphone down, leave work at home, and go out and throw the ball around with him when he asks.
“Color Him Father” by the Winstons
Stepfathers often fill the role of the evil villain in books, movies, and music. The Winstons’ 1969 hit “Color Him Father” is a refreshing exception. The sentimental soul song is about a young boy’s love for his super stepdad who married his widowed mother and took on the father role for seven children that weren’t biologically his. The man in “Color Him Father” exemplifies the Art of Dad-liness: he works hard for his family, takes an active role in parenting, and loves his children’s mother.
“A Boy Named Sue” by Johnny Cash
Sometimes an epic bar brawl is just thing a father and son need to mend their relationship. In “A Boy Named Sue,” Johnny Cash recounts the tale of a deadbeat dad who gives his son a girl’s name (Sue) before hightailing it out of town. The boy grows up ridiculed and taunted for his feminine name and vows to find and kill his father for branding him with this indignity. When the boy, now a man, finds his dad in a Tennessee bar, a knife and gun fight ensues (see what I did there?), but by the end, the dad explains why he named his boy Sue, and Sue comes away “with a different point of view.”
I wonder how many dads have named their sons Sue after hearing this song? Any male Sue’s out there?
“My Father’s Eyes” by Eric Clapton
Understanding the backstory of this song makes it all the more poignant. Guitarist Eric Clapton grew up not knowing who his father was. In 1991, Clapton’s four-year-old son fell to his death from the window of Clapton’s Manhattan apartment. “My Father’s Eyes” was Clapton’s way of exploring the grief of not knowing his father and the tragic loss of his own son. He shares in his autobiography that the song describes “the parallel between looking into the eyes of my son, and seeing the eyes of the father that I never met, through the chain of our blood.”
Clapton also wrote “Tears in Heaven” in honor of his dead son. He no longer plays both “My Father’s Eyes” and “Tears in Heaven” during concerts because they’re too emotionally draining.
“Just the Two of Us” by Will Smith
In his debut solo album, Will Smith laid down the best song ever recorded that accurately describes putting in a baby’s car seat for the first time. In all seriousness, “Just the Two of Us” is a great song about being a dad. Smith perfectly captures what a man feels when he sees his baby for the first time or when his kid starts cutting up. Thanks to the Fresh Prince, I find myself singing in my head “Tru dat tru dat, uh ah why you do that, I try to be a tough dad, but you be making me laugh,” whenever Gus gets into mischief.
“The Living Years” by Mike + the Mechanics
There’s a reason “The Living Years,” feels so real and poignant. Not only had the man who penned the lyrics lived the song — BA Robertson’s father, with whom he had a strained relationship, had died three months before his son was born — but Mike Rutherford had also recently lost his father and had a child, and Paul Carrack, who sang lead vocals on the song, had lost his father when he was 11 years old. Put those men’s experiences together, and now you know why the song hits you right in the heart.
“The Living Years” is a gentle reminder to pick up the phone, or better yet, write a letter, to tell dad how much he’s meant to you…while you still can.
What are your favorite songs about fatherhood? Share them with us in the comments!







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Blood Brothers by Iron Maiden. Steve Harris wrote this song after the death of his father.
I’ve Been Watching You, Rodney Atkins
Dennis Neylon mentioned it but didn’t provide a link. Here’s IMO the best song about dads, “My Old Man” by Steve Goodman, but covered by John Prine.
Enjoy
http://youtu.be/voGE5hLHBUg
This is a bit of an “alternative” choice as it isn’t about a typical Father/Son relationship.
Andrew Jackson Jihad – Who Are You?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z2qV-WDif88
It’s a song about how the singers dad left him when he was young and even though he resents him for it, he understands he had to and is thankful for the fact that his choices were solely in the interest of his child. He was an alcoholic and left so it didn’t destroy his family.
Paul Westerberg wrote a song that I like about his dad called, “My Dad”. Jerry Jeff Walker used to sing this song called “Desperadoes Waiting for a Train” that wasn’t about a dad and a son but about a boy who was friends with an old man that I like.
Dang it. Sentimental fools like me should not read/listen to stuff like this at their desks.
Rod Stewarts “Forever Young” is a good one:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yGEe_zpddNI
I did a presentation at my Son’s Boy Scout Eagle ceremony using this song-wasn’t a dry eye in the place.
La Mar – The Beautiful Girls
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h9Me4KIiPLU
A touching and beautiful song about an old man near the end of his life who is passing on his thoughts on life to his son. How about these lyrics:
I’ve tried to teach you well son,
all of everything i knew.
Of how to live this life be true.
Don’t bow your head to no one,
and no matter what you do,
if you start then see it through.
Daddy’s Hands must be on this list.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nOAjAWToYMI
Highway 20 Ride, by Zach Brown. About a son and his Dad after a divorce. Heartwrenching song.
There are so many.
Always liked
“My Dad” Paul Peterson
And there are many like
“Daddy’s Girl” by Red Sovine
Patches
“Song for Dad” by Keith Urban is probably my personal favorite.
Creed-with arms wide open
“Daddy Don’t You Walk So Fast” by Wayne Newton
“My Boy” by Elvis (Presley, that is. Uh hunh.)
I’ve been making a list and looking these songs up on iTunes: maybe I’ll make a CD mix and give it to my dad for Father’s Day. I’m not even listening to them and I’m still choking up!
Another one to add: “Watching You” by Rodney Adkins, as he realizes that his little boy is watching him and wants to grow up to be just like him. I remember so clearly wanting to be exactly like my dad, and now I have two little boys of my own, whom I know are watching me just as closely.
“Take a Picture” by Filter is one that really hits me for some reason.
george strait and “that’s my job.”
also, “she thinks we’re just fishing” by trace adkins. those both always bring me to tears.
This is a great list! I would possibly add one song — “Poppa Don’t Take No Mess” by James Brown. I’m an older man, and I don’t agree with ALL of the words in the song, of course — “Poppa didn’t cuss/ He didn’t raise a whole lotta fuss/ But when we did wrong/ Poppa beat the hell out of us!” –
It is really an ode to those old school dads who worked hard, took care of their families, and it is simply funky! Probably the most sampled record in music history.
Richard Harris’s my boy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wfrs11h5KEM
We had a group here in Australia called Weddings Parties Anything and they had a fantastic song called Fathers Day. It was about life as a single father. Wonderful song that makes dads of all persuasions feel good, even if the theme itself is a bit sad. ‘Every day is like Fathers Day when she calls me dad’.
pretty good list… i’ve listened to Wainwright’s “Daughter” many many times; it got much harder once my sweet pea was born about 20 months ago
Leader of the Band by Dan Fogelberg
Great Article Brett
Thanks
Bob Carlisle “Butterfly Kisses” is a great father/daughter song.
i stronly recommend anyone who reads this to listen to yesterday by atmosphere. i cant really say much without giving it away. so enjoy.
also, little man by atmosphere which is actually written from the slug’s(rapper from atmosphere) point ofview in where he writes a letter to his son, father, and himself.
Luther
Dance with My Father Again
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_mzw2MdIFY
Definitley Watching You by Rodney Atkins is one of my all time favorites.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqYUns2YQik
“Watching Scotty Grow” by Bobby Goldsboro
and Harry Nilson’s ” My Best Friend”, better know as the theme to Eddie’s Father starring Bill Bixby.
First post on this great website. Personal favorite song: Brad Paisley “Didn’t have to be”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GUdGJJqgr2g
Chet Atkins “I Still Can’t Say Goodbye”
It was listed early on but wrong artist…” That’s My Job” by Conway Twitty, I know what your probably thinking but if your a Papa like I am it will get ya.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L7XK_zNq930
Luther Vandross – Dance With My Father
Paul Overstreet – Seein’ My Father in Me
Must not leave out “The Best of Times” by Dream Theater, awesome song!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wG7r32tQTak
“Deeper Water” by Paul Kelly.
Australian track about a man growing up, finding a wife, her dying of cancer and taking his child swimming out past the breakers. Strangely an upbeat track for so serious subject matter. Sorry, but no YouTube as I’m posting from work.
Atmosphere – Yesterday
Probably the hardest song for me to listen to.
http://youtu.be/qEHTTFOwsDs
I have to agree with the one who said “Leader of the Band” by Dan Fogelberg. What a great song about an aging father.
“Independence Day” by Bruce Springsteen
The story of the son who recognizes that despite their similarities, he and his father would never stop arguing, and leaves home.
“Papa, go to sleep now, it’s getting late…”
Another vote for the country song, “Daddy’s Hands”.
Mayonnaise and Marmalade by NRBQ
I can’t believe no one has put this on. The lyrics are deliciously strange but heartfelt and. At least, any song where the singer wants to propose to his dad is strange to me.
I can’t believe you guys missed “The Things We’ve Handed Down”, by Marc Cohn. This is a gem of a song from a much overlooked artist. Here it is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9KvlZWQzRA&feature=related
Don’t miss your life – Phil Vasser. It speaks the truth to all modern day over-working dads.
The Car – Jeff Carson. I think at one time in out lives every guy lived this song in parts. Still gets to me every time I hear it.
Don’t miss your life – Phil Vasser. It speaks the truth to all modern day over-working dads.
The Car – Jeff Carson. I think at one time in out lives every guy lived this song in parts. Still gets to me every time I hear it.
The Car – Jeff Carson. I think at one time in out lives every guy lived this song in parts. Still gets to me every time I hear it.
“The Best Day”, by George Strait
Everything I own – Bread. Written by David Gates in 1972 as a tribute to his father who had passed.
It was playing on the plane as my dad flew home for his father’s funeral.
On a less somber note, how long can you last?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KoXJ-Wgo03I
Duuuuuuude….. What about I got a name by Jim Croce?
Also Jimmy Buffett’s “The captain and the kid” – about him sailing with his grandfather.
My dad died when I was only two and my mom was seven months pregnant with their seventh child, born two months after his death (and–without my dad around to humbly object–finally named Ralph, after my dad). So by far my favorite father song has always been “Dance With My Father Again” by Luther Van Dross. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvW6nuQ2B0s
Another great one that I haven’t seen mentioned here yet is Marc Cohn’s “Silver Thunderbird”: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bt5J9dT8edk
“The Leader of the Band.” John Fogelberg
“Dance With My Father” – Luther Vandross.
Makes me cry everytime,
For a song that really stays true to the relationship between a father and son: Steven Lynch’s “Talk to Me.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rHoO-4W8dg
Seriously though, “Things My Father Said” by Black Stone Cherry.
“Father Son” by Peter Gabriel
Daddy’s hands – Holly Dunn
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GTZWXrVWtvg
The End of the Rainbow by Richard and Linda Thompson. A bit sour but lucid.
To add a bit of good Aussie Rock to the mix, Fathers Day, by Weddings Partys Anything.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYKNqftCkSQ
I’m also surprised no-one has yet mentioned this Lonnie Donegan classic:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7GeZ3YmONw
“The Rooster,” by Alice in Chains. Not about fatherhood per se, but written by guitarist Jerry Cantrell to honor his father’s experience in Vietnam. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rooster_(song)
Lmno – clutch, a great ode to his step dad
The Walk by Sawyer Brown
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7i3pqJ2jqLo
My Dad grew up during the Depression and served in World War 2, so the Confederate Railroad song “When He Was My Age” really resonates with me. If I had a nickel for every time my Dad said “When I was a boy…”
Paul Simon’s Father and Daughter is another great song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzMh7zHir1I
Drive by Alan Jackson always hits a cord with me… My dad and I spent my youth working on anything with a motor.
“Father” by Manowar, and it’s not specifically a song about dads, but “Time in a Bottle” by Jim Croce always reminds me of my father because he used to sing me to sleep with that one when I was little.
The Randall Knife by Guy Clark is one of the best songs ever about fathers… and luckily it works OK as a stand alone poem as well. Warning: this only works if you can hear it in your head spoken by a man with a deep and plodding south Texas drawl:
My father had a Randall knife
My mother gave it to him
When he went off to World War II
To save us all from ruin
Now if you’ve ever held a Randall knife
Then you know my father well
If a better blade was ever made
It was probably forged in hell
My father was a good man
He was a lawyer by his trade
And only once did I ever see
Him misuse the blade
It almost cut his thumb off
When he took it for a tool
No, the knife was made for darker things
And you could not bend the rules
He let me take it camping once
On a Boy Scout jamboree
And I broke a half an inch off
Trying to stick it in a tree
I hid it from him for a while
But the knife and he were one
He put it in his bottom drawer
Without a hard word one
And there it slept and there it stayed
For twenty some odd years
Sort of like Excalibur
Except waiting for a tear
My father died when I was forty
And I couldn’t find a way to cry
Not because I didn’t love him
Not because he didn’t try
I’d cried for every lesser thing
for whiskey, pain and beauty
But he deserved a better tear
And I was not quite ready
So we took his ashed out to sea
And poured `em off the stern
And threw the roses in the wake
Of everything we’d learned
When we got back to the house
They asked me what I wanted
Not the lawbook, not the watch
I need the thing he’s haunted
Oh, my hand burned for that Randall knife
There in the bottom drawer
And I found a tear for my father’s life
And all that it stood for
Great songs on the list, only I cannot agree with Harry Chapins “Cats in the Cradle” being the most heart wrenching-est song about a father and son ever written. It’s clearly “Tears in Heaven” by Eric Clapton…
Poppa Was a Rollin’ Stone.
Really?
Something to be proud of. Montgomery Gentry
Little Miss Magic – by Jimmy Buffett. Song about a father marveling at his infant daughter and what she may be. “Little Miss Magic, what you gonna be? Little Miss Magic, just can’t wait to see.”
I wouldn’t say that all of these songs “honor” fathers. And, I agree “Leader of the Band” by Dan Fogelberg should be on this list. Also, “I sang Dixie” by Dwight Yoakam.
When Love Burns Bright (I see my father)
By Dan L. Carter
What about To Sir With Love by LuLu?
Oh and another great one – Seein’ My Father In Me by Paul Overstreet.
Cruel, Crazy Beautiful World
Johnny Clegg and Savuka
By Johnny Clegg
Written for his son Jesse
always loved this little ditty from a simpsons episode (NRBQ: Mayonnaise and Marmalade) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCekAo_WKi0
Great list – I especially like “My Father’s Eyes”, “The Living Years”, and “Cat’s in the Cradle”.
I have 2 songs to add:
“For Your Babies”, by Simply Red
“Kentucky Rose”, by Michael W. Smith (not exactly about fathers, but about an inspiring father figure in the community)
“Desperados Waiting for a Train” by the Highwaymen (Cash, Jennings, Kristofferson, Nelson)
Perfect songs, manly fellows.
I suggest you, gentlemen’s, to listen “Brother” by Steve Vai.
“Keep it Between the Lines”
By Ricky Van Shelton
“The Best Day”
By George Strait
Also,
“Daddy Never was the Cadilac Kind”
I’ve uploaded the majority of these tunes in a playlist on Spotify: http://open.spotify.com/user/whoafatt/playlist/4x6mejdp2jFDiJcu4vddsg
Silver Thunderbird – Marc Cohn
Padre, Still have a hard time calling you “Father” since we grew up together and I knew you as a cop. I showed Terry the picture you and I took at Denali in 1987!
I still have, and regularly use, the green nylon windshell jacket you gave me at Denali in 1987!
Fathers day will be tough being away from my two kids.
There’s an excellent song by Queensryche called “The Bridge”. It’s about a father who wants to repair a broken relationship with his grown son.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxxrKSUkPQc
Another favorite of mine is “House of Pain” by Faster Pussycat. Excellent song!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v1ntsBXdK88
“My Old Man” as sung by John McDermott. It’s about a son remembering his father after he died.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNL_wGZgV5Q
Late to the thread, but definitely check out “My First Child” Nil Lara, one of the best of an already talented musician:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEW5YdMNvDk
Find it here:
http://www.amazon.com/Nil-Lara/dp/B000005GZ2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nzm_5BTAEcU
Straight Edge Dad by Wisdom In Chains..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRncFgiM4gc
Lyrics(because it’s shout growled not sung):
Sxe Dad lyrics
I gotta tell you some things before you get to old
Nothing makes me happier than playing in the road
We play basketball and skateboard morning noon and night
Throwing the football and learning how to fight
She’s my hardcore girl, she’s strong and beautiful
He’s my hardcore boy, never listens to the rules
You’re my hardcore kids and even when you bad
You make me proud to be your straight edge dad
I love you so much, I wanna teach you everything I know
About Hardcore, Punkrock, Rap and Rock’n'Roll
Stay away from drugs and always stick together
When the world turns it’s back you can count on each other
That’s real.
Sunday With My Son – Wayne Scott
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TMMmEnuFHSU
Our Father’s Son by David Lynn Jones-
A true patriot and fantastic song writer and musician that would never sell out to the big record companies.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3V0IGWpbtU0
Atmosphere- Yesterday
Listens to it to the end, you won’t regret it
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qEHTTFOwsDs&feature=youtu.be
I also think of my Dad when I hear Oh Very Young by Cat Stevens:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bP6B9HttRI8
Sometimes you can’t make it on your own, bu U2 . A song about why fathers and sons fight, and the regret he feels
Robin Mark’s “Men of a Certain Age” always hits me hard. It’s written from the standpoint of my generation, the last of the boomers – the “men of a certain age” who are getting tired and weary and grumpy, until the next generation; our children challenge us saying “But, who told you to quit? Pick up the baton and get back in the race.” and “Men of a certain age are heroes, at least in their children’s eyes.”
“Outfit” by Drive by Truckers
Nothing but good advice from true southern gentlemen.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HyJ9JfWbKLE
“The Living Years” was released the same year my dad passed away and we all think of him and get tears in our eyes every time we hear it. Take it from someone who lost his dad when he was only 7 years old…cherish the time you have with him and let him know how much you love him this Father’s Day.
“He Didn’t Have to Be”, by Brad Paisley
The song is about the singer’s love and respect for his stepfather, who was the first man to stay with his mother after finding out she had a child. It then goes into the singer’s hope to be a great father to his newborn, and how he had a great example to go by through his stepfather. The final line of the chorus sums it all up rather definitively. “I hope I’m at least half the dad that he didn’t have to be.”
“Drive” by Alan Jackson
“Soliloquy” by Frank Sinatra
Someday Never Comes-CCR
Randy Travis, ‘He Walked On Water’
link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCVw8Qjeg84
A great song about grandfathers…
Stealing Cinderella by Chuck Wicks
I have 2 girls and this song always gets to me. I think of them every time.
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