Personal Development

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How to Make Small Talk With Strangers [VIDEO]

by Brett & Kate McKay

Your video tutorial on making small talk with anybody, anywhere. Click here for a more detailed and incredibly useful article on the subject. Be sure to subscribe to our YouTube channel to get new videos as soon as they’re posted. If you’re viewing this in your email, click this link to watch the video. Filmed and Directed by Jordan Crowder […]

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4 Manly Lessons from the Minor Leagues

by A Manly Guest Contributor

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Vance Albitz, AAA Infielder, St. Louis Cardinals. Take away the high salaries of the major league ballplayers and the sold-out crowds that watch them play, and it’s no wonder why many people say that the true passion for baseball lives in the Minor Leagues. Now, go talk […]

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How to Become an Early Riser [VIDEO]

by Brett

Your video guide to becoming an early riser. For a detailed text version, also check out our article on how to become an early riser.  Be sure to subscribe to our YouTube channel to get new videos as soon as they’re posted. If you’re viewing this in your email, click this link to watch the video. Editing by Jordan Crowder

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Want to Become a Better Writer? Copy the Work of Others!

by Brett & Kate McKay

As Jeremy detailed on Monday, many colleges are turning out graduates who, even after four years of higher education, have cognitive skills that are still sorely lacking. Of particular note is a seeming decline in grads’ writing abilities; one-third of students see no improvement in their writing skills from freshman to senior year, and 80% […]

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Live Life at the Limits: How to Hack Your Flow

by A Manly Guest Contributor

Editor’s Note: This a guest post from Steven Kotler, author of The Rise of Superman. Researchers define flow as an “optimal state of consciousness,” a peak state where we feel our best and perform our best. Some of us know this state by other names—runner’s high or being in the zone or being unconscious—but whatever […]

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One App to Rule Them All: 30 Ways Evernote Can Improve Your Life

by Jeremy Anderberg

Update: This article is NOT a sponsored post. We received absolutely nothing from Evernote in exchange for this post and have never communicated with anyone at Evernote. Even though we put this disclaimer below as well, we thought we’d put it up here too because some folks missed it and claimed this recommendation was paid for. […]

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Your Concentration Training Program: 11 Exercises That Will Strengthen Your Attention

by Brett & Kate McKay

In this series on mastering your attention, we have emphasized the fact that attention is not just the ability to focus on a single task without being distracted, but in fact is comprised of several different elements that must be effectively managed. But this doesn’t mean that single-minded focus is not of paramount importance. Yesterday […]

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Become the Supreme Commander of Your Mind: How to Effectively Manage Your Attention

by Brett & Kate McKay

In our last post we provided a big picture overview of what attention is and how it works. We explored the fact that while many people only think of attention in terms of the ability to focus on a single task, there are in fact several different types, each with their distinctive benefits and drawbacks. […]

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Attention, Please! What Every Man Ought to Know About Focus

by Brett & Kate McKay

“Pay attention!” “If you just focused more, you’d be more successful!” We’ve all probably heard these kinds of admonishments from a teacher or a parent. And most of us probably castigate ourselves on a daily basis for our inability to concentrate on the task at hand. It seems in our distracted world of texts, tweets, […]

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20 Aphorisms That I Thought Were Dumb as a Boy But Now Appreciate as a Grown Man

by AoM Team


This post brought to you by Old Spice. Use new Re-Fresh body spray and spray goodbye to your boyhood.. 20 aphorisms and sayings that I thought were lame as a boy, but now appreciate as a man.

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Jumpstart Your Journaling: A 31-Day Challenge

by Jeremy Anderberg

There’s been plenty of talk on AoM recently about journaling with our articles on The Diary Habit as well as 9 habits young men should adopt. Seeing a few of the comments confirmed a notion I already had about the practice of journaling: many men would like to, but few men do to the extent […]

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Beyond “Sissy” Resilience: On Becoming Antifragile

by Brett & Kate McKay

What’s the opposite of a person or organization that’s fragile? If you ask most people this question, they’ll likely say “robust” or “resilient.” But philosopher Nassim Nicholas Taleb would say that’s not the right answer. He argues that if fragile items break when exposed to stress, something that’s the opposite of fragile wouldn’t simply not […]

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A Case Study in Charisma from Tender Is the Night

by Brett & Kate McKay

Editor’s Note: Though the character falls apart in the end, at the start of F. Scott Fitzgerald’s novel Tender Is the Night, Dick Diver (and his wife as well) is described as the very embodiment of charisma. Having finished up our series on the three components of personal magnetism yesterday, we wanted to offer some […]

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The 3 Elements of Charisma: Warmth

by Brett & Kate McKay

For the last few weeks we’ve been talking about the three components of personal charisma. First we explored the importance of Presence – giving people your full attention. Then we covered Power – demonstrating confidence that you can affect the world around you. Today we will discuss the last element of magnetism: Warmth. When you […]

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The 3 Elements of Charisma: Power

by Brett & Kate McKay

According to Olivia Fox Cabane, author of The Charisma Myth, there are three components to charisma: Presence, Power, and Warmth. Last week we talked about the nature of real Presence and how to develop this vital quality. Today we’ll tackle that second element: Power. Charismatic individuals are powerful people. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean they’re […]

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The 3 Elements of Charisma: Presence

by Brett & Kate McKay

Are you a senior in high school running for Student Council President? Are you an entrepreneur looking to make a successful pitch and attract investors? Are you a military officer working to win your men’s loyalty? Are you a salesman trying to land some new clients? Are you a college professor wanting to get through […]

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Dig Deep: You’re Stronger Than You Think

by Brett & Kate McKay

Awhile back I was doing a HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) workout over on a nearby running/biking trail. Along the trail there’s a fairly steep hill that takes about a minute to sprint up at full speed. For my workout, I would charge up the hill as fast as I could, walk/jog back down, and […]

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Hack Your Mind Like a Twenty-First Century Soldier: Using Biofeedback to Become More Resilient

by Brett & Kate McKay

Two important skills for any man, and especially any would-be sheepdog are 1) managing stress 2) and remaining resilient in the face of extreme adversity. In our post about managing stress arousal for optimal performance, we broke down what happens to the body and mind as it deals with increasing levels of stress. Basically, as […]

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The Eisenhower Decision Matrix: How to Distinguish Between Urgent and Important Tasks and Make Real Progress in Your Life

by Brett & Kate McKay

Do you sometimes feel like you spend all your time managing crises? That your life is basically spent putting out one proverbial fire after another? At the end of the day do you feel completely sapped and drained of energy, and yet can’t point to anything you accomplished of real significance? Yes? Then you, my […]

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