4 Personal Finance Principles That Would Make Your Grandfather Proud

by A Manly Guest Contributor on September 20, 2011 · 114 comments

in Money & Career

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Baker of Man Vs. Debt.

“Look back to learn how to look forward.” -Joe Girard

Our grandfather’s generation wasn’t perfect. They had their own set of flaws and weaknesses.

But they got a lot of things right. And one of those things is how to handle your finances.

Grandpa learned his financial lessons from the school of hard knocks. He lived through the Great Depression, which taught him to live leanly, to save, and to be grateful for what he had. And he lived in a time where staying out of debt was a matter of independence, pride, and self-reliance, something he believed reflected on a man’s most precious resource–his character.

We’ve unfortunately forgotten many of Grandpa’s lessons on finance. But they’re just as true as they ever were. So today let’s dust them off and re-discover these tried and true principles.

1. Resourcefulness

“If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.” -Henry Ford

One of the things I respect most about my grandfather’s generation was their resourcefulness.

And let me point out here that resourcefulness is not simply being cheap. Nobody enjoys a cheapskate.

But while my grandfather was far more thrifty than I am, he wasn’t cheap. He was just a lot more resourceful.

To put it simply, resourcefulness is the intersection of self-sufficiency and creativity.

This combination can help our finances in several key ways:

  • It fosters a “use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without” mentality. If something breaks, try to fix it yourself. Use up your belongings until they no longer work–just because a new version of something came out, doesn’t mean you need it. Borrow instead of buy. Trade goods and services with family and friends.
  • It makes employees irresistible. As an employer, one of the first traits I look for in a team member is resourcefulness. I care far less for credentials and experience. Show me someone who can creatively solve a problem and I’m sold!
  • It’s essential for the self-employed. Business owners don’t have a choice in our current environment. It’s adapt or die–and constantly practicing resourcefulness will give you the flexibility to survive.
  • It’s a fundamental principle of negotiating. We’ll get into this below, but the more flexible and resourceful you can be in a negotiation, the more likely you’ll be able to arrive at a desirable outcome.

2. Awareness (The Pocket Notebook)

“Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.” -Albert Einstein

Einstein was right. It’s impossible to take back control of our financial life unless we become more conscious.

My grandfather had a particular habit that made it almost impossible for him to forget the details of his life. He never went anywhere without his pocket notebook.

The Art of Manliness has explored the pocket notebook’s manly history and the famous men who used them. Carrying a little notebook with you is useful for brainstorming, writing down ideas, and keeping track of goals. They’re also handy when it comes to our finances, as they can be leveraged to help track our everyday spending.

When John D. Rockefeller got his first job as a young man, he bought a small red ledger book for 10 cents. He called it Ledger A and took it with him everywhere. Within its pages, he kept track of every single penny he spent or donated. Once Ledger A was filled up, he bought another and called it Ledger B, and continued this habit throughout his life as he rose from assistant bookkeeper to corporate titan. He considered his ledgers to be among his most prized possessions, and he taught all his children to keep track of their expenditures just as he had done.

Men from all walks of life and levels of wealth did likewise. But eventually the idea of tracking your spending in a pocketbook was replaced by the use of checkbooks. Everyone was carrying checks anyway, so it made great sense to track spending, check balances, and keep notes in the same place.

But over the last 40 years or so, the emergence of plastic cards has once again changed the way we stay aware of our spending. Credit cards have ushered in the era of “Swipe and Analyze.”

We charge all of our purchases with no tracking or monitoring and analyze them 30, 45, or 60 days later when the bill comes (or sometimes not at all). This is no way to take charge of your finances!

The extinction of the pocket notebook and the checkbook has caused us to lose touch with our everyday spending. Credit card spending causes us to be detached from our money in the same way using chips at a casino encourages us to lose more.

We all love the convenience of spending with plastic, but we need to take steps to ensure we stay aware and on top of our spending.

If you haven’t given it a try, bring back the pocket notebook into your life. Its benefits stretch far beyond just your spending and financial life.

3. Comfortable Negotiating

“Let us never negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate.” -John F. Kennedy

Negotiating is a skill that’ll earn you hundreds of thousands of dollars over the course of your life.

And, no, you don’t have to be a slicked-back used car salesman–or have a pushy, aggressive style. In fact, that garbage always backfires.

What you need to be is confident. Not pushy, controlling, manipulative, or cocky. Just confident.

Generations of men before us were far more comfortable and confident when negotiating. They knew the truth of the matter: We all negotiate every day of our lives.

Negotiation is simply when communication and problem solving collide. Anytime there is a problem–and you use communication to solve that problem–you are negotiating.

We *all* do that multiple times in any given day, and there’s no reason it should make our palms sweat and our heartbeat go crazy.

Negotiation is learned through practice. Practice will make you more comfortable. Comfort will breed confidence. And confidence will shatter any fear you have around it.

My grandfather understood that:

  • Value is constantly fluctuating. The true value of any item is what someone is willing to pay for it at any given time.
  • There are far more opportunities to negotiate than most people think. Most people associate negotiation with only a few specific life events… buying a house, job hunting, asking for a raise, and buying a car. However, it’s the opposite. There are few times in life when you *aren’t* negotiating.
  • You have the right to negotiate. You’ve worked hard for your money–and most vendors would rather have you communicate with them than have you walk out the door empty-handed.

Once you realize there are plenty of opportunities, that you have the right to negotiate, and that value is constantly fluctuating… negotiating doesn’t seem that scary.

4. Non-Entitlement Attitude

“Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” -Raymond Chandler

An older male mentor of mine used to say to me: “You deserve nothing. Remember that.”

At first, I dismissed it as the preaching of a generation that really had nothing for a long-time. But as I grew older, I realized that his repetition of that saying was meant to remind me to be thankful.

He was steering me away from the trap of an entitlement attitude. He was urging me to see how blessed I really was.

In our current society of “I’ll take everything and I want it yesterday,” it’s great to have a constant reminder of just how fortunate we really are.

The men and women of generations past combined this blessed attitude with an unwavering work ethic. It’s a combo that we simply rarely see these days.

In the same vein, there used to be an admirable pride to owning property, transportation, and possessions without leveraging debt. Loans have existed for a long, long time, but they were sparingly used and paying them off was a primary goal.

Our modern, daily reliance on debt and financing was simply unheard of.

Whenever I let my entitlement attitude creep back in, I find myself complaining, procrastinating, blaming, whining, and moaning.

It’s times like these I remember the fundamentals of my grandparents.

They thanked, praised, hustled, and plowed forward.

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I’m interested to hear what quality you most admire in your grandfather’s generation!

What other traits can inspire us to take back control of our financial lives?

Share your thoughts in the comments below!

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For the last three years, Baker has shared his young family’s journey to pay off debt, sell their crap, and travel abroad over on Man Vs. Debt. Registration is now open for You Vs Debt, Baker’s 6-week online class with daily videos, challenges, and accountability forums to empower you to passionately take back control of your financial life.

{ 114 comments… read them below or add one }

101 George September 20, 2012 at 1:54 pm

Regarding bringing back the notepad: although it’s no way near as cool and old-school, chances are you’re carrying a phone or Ipod of some sort with a ‘notes’ facility to type things- thus saving packet space.

102 Joe November 22, 2012 at 9:20 pm

My grandfather always told me to take a public speaking class/be comfortable with public speaking. He said that in life he has been successful because he was able to talk with people and to groups of people.

103 Jon February 10, 2013 at 10:30 am

My GrandFather used to say “Make hay while the sun is shining” as a farmer he understood timing was essential. put the hay up while it is wet and it will mold and be useless. Leave it in the field too long and the winter snow will cover it. This applies to me in my daily life all the time. when there is opportunity for overtime at work, make the most of it. later when there are budget restraints we will not be so fortunate. Take advantage of every oppurtunity when it presents itself, you may not get another!

104 John September 16, 2013 at 1:29 pm

My Grandfather always said this about taking initiative.

“Do something. Do anything! Even if it is wrong, do something, we can always fix it later.”

I keep that saying posted to the wall of my office, and to this day, I never get mad at any employee who takes the initiative to do something – even if it costs me money.

105 Rusty September 19, 2013 at 12:39 pm

So with the exception of the notebook, this article contains no advice on how to acquire these qualities. So I should be resourceful… What’s that MEAN exactly and how do I become resourceful if I’m not? How do I know if I’m not?

I should also “be comfortable negotiating.” If I’m not comfortable negotiating how do I acquire that quality? It’s about the most gut wrenching and difficult thing I have to try and do in life. In part because I find it distasteful to “haggle”. The fact that I have to struggle to be treated fairly, rather than have people treat me fairly by default (as I do them) makes me sick down to my soul.

106 John Weru September 19, 2013 at 1:35 pm

Hello AoM,

I love your articles. I’m reading them from the heart of Africa. Your description of resourcefulness describes my grandfather to the detail. I’m only beginning at age 34 to fully appreciate the awesome heritage that I’ve received from two generations of men. Thanks for this. JW

107 David V September 19, 2013 at 2:02 pm

a phone or i-pod is not the same as a pocket notebook.

108 MP September 19, 2013 at 2:09 pm

My grandfather would have $10 in his pocket, would spend it slowly on multiple things – and enjoyed those smaller things (mainly food items). By the time he was done, you would have thought he dropped a $100. He found enjoyment in little things.

109 John Maness September 19, 2013 at 4:19 pm

Don’t forget a good pen. Not an expensive, the “I would die if I left it somewhere” writing device. Just an inexpensive click pen, without a separate cap (less chance of getting ink on your shirt). I don’t mean cheap like 10 pens for $1 , but a dependable pen. You would be surprised how often it comes in handy for you or someone else. Like the guy in front of you in the checkout line and nobody has a pen, yet you are held up waiting for the manager to produce one. Goes good with the notebook as well.

110 Alexander September 19, 2013 at 7:36 pm

“Family takes care of family.”
That was my grandfather’s motto until the day he died. It is his and my father’s wisdom that I carry and attempt to build upon as I begin my life.

111 Wraith September 20, 2013 at 9:10 am

I’m a bit disappointed in your last point, there. It would of course be the ideal to be able to operate without debt. But in a United States where wage growth has been flat for 20 years and inflation has been rising, the price of things has become such that trying to operate entirely from savings just plain is not possible.

112 Drew. September 20, 2013 at 11:36 pm

Wraith, where there is a ‘but’ there is an excuse. the mentality you present is a reason that chart splits and debt skyrockets and savings plummets.

my grandfathers were resourceful to their core. I didn’t fully realize it until they were gone. Always work toward a goal, any goal, and you can be debt free living too.

113 Jonas September 21, 2013 at 12:16 am

There is a great financial tracking app for free called Eeba. It works like a cash envelope system and using it has done wonders for our budgeting efforts.

114 Rhonnie October 16, 2013 at 7:35 am

I like John’s Grandfathers saying. Coincidentally it is the motto I live by. Always found myself afraid to make a move lest I fail. But I slowly and with a lot of struggle, shed that off during my teen years.
As of today, I never get angry when say… someone in a group suggests something and it ends up being wrong. They were brave enough to try, and I encourage them. I also take the helm without letting the fear of failing stop me. Over the years, I have been shocked at how so many people would rather give you the space to try and fail, than fail themselves.
“Do something. Do anything! Even if it’s wrong, do something…”

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