{"id":83970,"date":"2018-05-17T16:04:38","date_gmt":"2018-05-17T21:04:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/?p=83970"},"modified":"2026-10-05T09:00:00","modified_gmt":"2026-10-05T14:00:00","slug":"how-to-make-small-talk-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/social\/social-skills\/how-to-make-small-talk-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Podcast #406: Why You Need to Embrace Small Talk"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019re like a lot of people, engaging in small talk can feel awkward and tedious. Consequently, you avoid it as much you can. But my guest today<\/span> argues that if you want to get ahead both personally and professionally, you need to embrace these little exchanges. Her name is Debra Fine and she’s the author of The Fine Art of Small Talk<\/a>. <\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

Today<\/span> on the show, Debra explains why small talk is actually a big deal and isn\u2019t just a waste of saliva. She then shares the biggest obstacles people have to engaging in small talk and the two mindset shifts you need to make to get over those obstacles. Debra and I then discuss specific tactics you can start using today<\/span> to start conversations, keep them going, and end them gracefully. Lots of actionable advice that can immediately improve your day-to-day life, so take notes.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019re like a lot of people, engaging in small talk can feel awkward and tedious. Consequently, you avoid it as much you can. But my guest today argues that if you want to get ahead both personally and professionally, you need to embrace these little exchanges. 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