{"id":82145,"date":"2018-02-20T13:19:48","date_gmt":"2018-02-20T19:19:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/?p=82145"},"modified":"2026-10-06T11:20:57","modified_gmt":"2026-10-06T16:20:57","slug":"podcast-381-gift-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/social\/fatherhood\/podcast-381-gift-failure\/","title":{"rendered":"Podcast #381: The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children Is Failure"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019re a parent, you likely want your kid to flourish and succeed. And according to my guest today<\/span>, the best way to do that is to let your kid fail.<\/span><\/p>\n

Her name is Jessica Lahey and she\u2019s a teacher and the author of the book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed<\/i><\/a>. Today<\/span> on the show, Jess gives us a quick overview of the history of parenting in America and why it\u2019s gotten more protective and more involved in the past few decades. We then discuss the many downsides of helicopter parenting and why letting your kids fail is so important for their long-term development. Jessica then gets into the nitty gritty of areas where you should let your kid experience failure and how to make sure these failures become learning experiences. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019re a parent, you likely want your kid to flourish and succeed. And according to my guest today, the best way to do that is to let your kid fail. Her name is Jessica Lahey and she\u2019s a teacher and the author of the book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":195539,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[253,156,42379],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82145","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-fatherhood","category-podcast","category-social"],"featured_image_urls":{"large":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/381-538x280.png","medium_large":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/381-768x432.png","aom":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/381-372x230.png","reactor-320":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/381-320x180.png","reactor-640":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/381-640x360.png"},"yoast_head":"\nThe Gift of Failure \u2014 Jess Lahey Interview | Art of Manliness Podcast<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"If you\u2019re a parent, you likely want your kid to flourish and succeed. 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