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If you\u2019re a man on the precipice of marriage or have marriage as a life goal, one worry you likely have is \u201cWill my marriage last?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

While divorce rates have been decreasing<\/a> since they reached their peak in the late 1970s and early ’80s, there’s still a perception out there that marriage is just a crapshoot — a game of Russian roulette — and that the odds favor you ending up in a family court, or at best in a sad and loveless relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

My guest today argues that doesn\u2019t have to be your fate as long as you take a proactive approach to marriage. With some thought and intentionality, you can help ensure that you have a happy, loving, fulfilling relationship that lasts until death do you part. His name is Les Parrott and he\u2019s a clinical psychologist specializing in marriage and family. He, along with his wife Leslie, who’s also a marriage therapist, have written a book to help couples prepare themselves for matrimonial commitment. It\u2019s called Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before \u2014 And After \u2014 You Marry<\/a>. <\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

Today<\/span> on the show, Les and I discuss how a man can know if he\u2019s personally ready for marriage, the myths people have about marriage that set them up for disappointment, and the conversations you should be having with your future spouse to help ensure you have a happy life together. While the conversation is geared towards soon-to-be-marrieds and newlyweds, even if you\u2019ve been married for a couple decades, you\u2019re going to find some useful advice and insights in this show.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019re a man on the precipice of marriage or have marriage as a life goal, one worry you likely have is \u201cWill my marriage last?\u201d While divorce rates have been decreasing since they reached their peak in the late 1970s and early ’80s, there’s still a perception out there that marriage is just a 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