{"id":59076,"date":"2016-08-30T10:50:50","date_gmt":"2016-08-30T15:50:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/?p=59076"},"modified":"2026-10-20T11:54:32","modified_gmt":"2026-10-20T16:54:32","slug":"podcast-230-how-to-deal-with-aggressive-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/social\/social-skills\/podcast-230-how-to-deal-with-aggressive-people\/","title":{"rendered":"Podcast #230: How to Deal With Aggressive People"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve had guests on the show to talk about how to defend yourself from violent attacks, but what can you do to de-escalate potentially violent confrontations so things don’t come to fist blows? How do you deal with people who get in your face and act in verbally belligerent ways? My guest today has spent his career studying the psychology of aggressive people and how to handle them. His name is Shawn Smith, and he’s a psychologist, and the author of the book Surviving Aggressive People: Practical Violence Prevention Skills for the Workplace and the Street<\/em><\/a>. Today on the show, Shawn and I discuss why you need to worry more about aggressive attacks from people you know rather than from strangers, the difference between desperate aggression and expert aggression, and tactics you can use to prevent tense social situations from escalating to violence.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I’ve had guests on the show to talk about how to defend yourself from violent attacks, but what can you do to de-escalate potentially violent confrontations so things don’t come to fist blows? How do you deal with people who get in your face and act in verbally belligerent ways? My guest today has spent […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":195768,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[156,42379,42293],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-59076","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-podcast","category-social","category-social-skills"],"featured_image_urls":{"large":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/230-538x280.png","medium_large":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/230-768x432.png","aom":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/230-372x230.png","reactor-320":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/230-320x180.png","reactor-640":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/230-640x360.png"},"yoast_head":"\nPodcast #230: How to Deal With Aggressive People | The Art of Manliness<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/social\/social-skills\/podcast-230-how-to-deal-with-aggressive-people\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Podcast #230: How to Deal With Aggressive People | The Art of Manliness\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I’ve had guests on the show to talk about how to defend yourself from violent attacks, but what can you do to de-escalate potentially violent confrontations so things don’t come to fist blows? 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