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The popular idea out there is that women are more social than men and men are more competitive than women. What\u2019s more, these tendencies are socially conditioned rather than biologically innate. <\/span><\/p>\n

But what if it\u2019s the other way around?<\/span><\/p>\n

My guest today<\/span> is a psychologist who has spent thirty years researching the differences between how boys and girls socialize, and she\u2019s discovered that many ideas that people have on the subject are completely wrong. Her name is Joyce Benenson and she\u2019s the author of the book Warriors and Worriers: The Survival of the Sexes<\/a>. <\/i>Today<\/span> on the show Joyce and I discuss the biological origins of male and female socialization, why men prefer all-male groups, and why women can be just as, if not more competitive, as men. We also discuss how men compete to cooperate and why men can make up much faster with an enemy than women can. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The popular idea out there is that women are more social than men and men are more competitive than women. What\u2019s more, these tendencies are socially conditioned rather than biologically innate.  But what if it\u2019s the other way around? 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