{"id":55833,"date":"2016-04-18T14:21:27","date_gmt":"2016-04-18T19:21:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/?p=55833"},"modified":"2026-10-22T11:53:20","modified_gmt":"2026-10-22T16:53:20","slug":"podcast-193-fck-feelings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.artofmanliness.com\/character\/self-improvement\/podcast-193-fck-feelings\/","title":{"rendered":"Podcast #193: F*ck Feelings"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s become an article of faith in our modern world that if you’re feeling depressed, unmotivated, angry, or anxious, what you need to do is think really hard about why you’re feeling that way. The idea is that once you figure out the roots of your problems, they’ll magically disappear.<\/p>\n

But what if thinking about your feelings all the time actually makes your problems worse?<\/p>\n

Well, that’s the argument my guests today make in their book. It’s called F*ck Feelings<\/em><\/a>, and yes, that “F” stands for what you think. Michael Bennett is a psychiatrist, Sarah Bennett is a comedy writer, and together this father and daughter teamed up to write, despite the controversial title, one of the most straightforward, practical, and hopeful books about managing your psychology and your emotional life that I’ve read.<\/p>\n

Today on the podcast, Michael, Sarah, and I discuss why you shouldn’t think about your feelings so much, what to do about anger, what to do about anxiety, and how to approach self-improvement so that it’s actually productive and not masturbatory. And don’t worry — even though the book is called F*ck Feelings<\/em>, we don’t swear in this podcast.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It’s become an article of faith in our modern world that if you’re feeling depressed, unmotivated, angry, or anxious, what you need to do is think really hard about why you’re feeling that way. The idea is that once you figure out the roots of your problems, they’ll magically disappear. 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