The 2-Hour Cocktail Party: How to Build Big Relationships with Small Gatherings<\/em><\/a> \u2014 Nick is going to lay out exactly how to throw a party that’s low stakes and low effort, but will be highly successful in helping you build all kinds of connections.<\/p>\nToday on the show, Nick shares what he’s learned from throwing hundreds of parties and refining his hosting technique to a T. He explains why cocktail parties are better than dinner parties (and don’t have to involve actual cocktails), the best night of the week to throw a party, why the party should only be two hours long and have a firm end time, how many people to invite, and who to invite when you don’t yet have any friends. And he explains why he’s a big fan of two things you might be hesitant about \u2014 name tags and icebreakers \u2014 and why two of his favorite things to include in a party are grapes and a harmonica.<\/p>\n
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