What Does It Take To Feel Like a Man?

Found this old Army recruiting ad in a 1963 Popular Mechanics.

So, what do you think it takes to feel like a man in today’s world?

{ 22 comments… read them below or add one }

Michael Dykes February 10, 2011 at 10:22 am

Pancakes, coffee and good friends.

James February 10, 2011 at 10:27 am

The tone of the ad doesn’t sound much different than recruitment ads for many fast food companies that are currently in print. Words like “flexible”, “pride”, “passion”, and “training”abound in these ads, enticing you into a career of hard work with low pay.

Maybe it takes a job like that to be a man.

Jaime Centeno February 10, 2011 at 10:33 am

I have been reading your website for quite a while now and i have nothing but to offer congratulations on what is probably the best virtual escape a man can have in this day and age. I think that the question is quite broad. After coming scathed from a divorce, bankruptcy and loss of job not to mention the death of my beloved dog, feeling manly seemed more of an egotistical state of mind than an overall good feeling. I learned quickly then that to feel like a man one only needs to do one thing….be one…which means be good to your family, your friends, your kids and the environment around you. Live your life honestly without regret and stand up for the less fortunate for the right things in life…and always be the last one standing for what you believe in….

Mike Halo February 10, 2011 at 10:40 am

Not one to put much stock in “feelings”. However, if you want to feel like a man, do something, build something, organize something and then finish it. Then move on. The real deal is men get things done. Don’t stand around waiting for someone to thank you or congratulate you. Men have better things to do than stand around impressed with how awesome they think they are. That is what little boys do. If you actually are a man, you don’t have the time or energy for that nonsense. You have things to do.

Cedrik February 10, 2011 at 10:57 am

It takes family, good friends and a job you like. You also need physical activity and mental challenges to keep your body and mind alive.

Will February 10, 2011 at 11:01 am

I have to agree with Mike: if you want to feel like a man, do something well and finish it. A real man takes pride in his work because he has done it well, has done it with integrity, and doesn’t need congratulations to validate that. Have to say I like the ad though.

Joshua February 10, 2011 at 11:17 am

The same thing, but a different setting. We may not be in the military, but let’s not forget that when it comes to our family, friends, church and job, we are all “the man on point”.

Gary February 10, 2011 at 11:18 am

To feel like a man one must be authentic. This means be aware of his emotions and express them with honesty and integrity. In doing so he will set his boundries and let others know when they are pushing the boundries.

He is true to others but most of all to himself.

Robert Van Daele February 10, 2011 at 11:21 am

When you can make the choice between right and wrong, good and evil, you become a man. But, a good make makes the right choice.

Manuel February 10, 2011 at 12:13 pm

In my opinion a man is someone who stands up for what he believes is right, is kind to everyone, doesn’t judge others, helps out whenever and whoever if he is needed, tries to be a better man every day, does things because of the right reasons, treats everyone the same, looks out for others that can’t help themselves and puts others always before himself.

Jordan allen February 10, 2011 at 2:13 pm

A little responsibility.

Ariel February 10, 2011 at 3:44 pm

-To have a good reason to live for and being aware of it.
-To help other people when they need so and you are able to.
-To have a serious, deep, manly conversation among manly friends.

Mato Tope February 10, 2011 at 3:46 pm

“To even step into the ring of life shows guts enough.
To keep picking oneself up off the canvas; no matter how many blows sustained, ignoring the pain to both flesh and pride, to draw upon that indomitable spirit that never brags or showboats but just turns up and gets the job done.
That’s resilience.
To gather all reserves of fortitude; conjuring every last drop of strength from bone and sinew and go beyond what you thought was possible.
That’s courage.
To rally the scattered rays of attention and concentrate on the task before you, honing the mental faculties with laser precision on those high aims for which you draw your very breath to achieve.
That’s focus.
Dig deep within and let these towering virtues flow out.
Be a man.”

Extract from “Apotheosis.”

Eric Nguyen February 10, 2011 at 5:12 pm

I think that all it takes to be a man is believing that you are one. If you don’t believe in yourself, then no one will. Even if you don’t really have what it takes to be a “man”, if you have confidence, then I think you will develop the characteristics that you yourself identify as a man.

DENNY MARTIN February 10, 2011 at 5:33 pm

To always be in control of one’s emotions and not’stereotype’ manliness with rugged macho displays of behavior.Macho is for low self esteem guys who want to be control freaks on a passive/aggressive level.True strength is found in the passion for humility,compassion and understanding others by knowing and developing one’s own senses to their fullest talents and sharing of one’s self in a loving,giving selfless manner…That’s what I’d like to be more of…more of the man I want to be…

sairy_gamp February 10, 2011 at 10:45 pm

fully owning yourself

Rob February 11, 2011 at 1:27 pm

If you are asking yourself that question, you need to ask yourself a lot of other questions.

greatzamboni February 13, 2011 at 1:44 am

Great zamboni knows answer to this…you have to feel “in your power” and to do that, there should be no apologies needed. You do not what you want, but what you need to do. And in that you find purpose. You look people in the eye because you can. You impress yourself first, others second.
Thats a start, the rest you find on your own.

Jimdaddy February 14, 2011 at 12:04 am

Feeling like a man comes when I know my family feels safe and under the protection of their strong dad. I make sure my son knows his dad has some nice size biceps. That gives him security knowing his dad isn’t a moron.

E T Cetera February 15, 2011 at 10:16 pm

Win. Dominate. Own. Repeat. Until dead.

P Zeigler February 17, 2011 at 3:45 pm

IF
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
IF YOU CAN FILL THE UNFORGIVING MINUTE
WITH SIXTY SECONDS’ WORTH OF DISTANCE RUN
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard Kipling

Tom Lipari February 19, 2011 at 2:18 pm

Really cool Poster ad from 1963. One of the things that caught my eye was the man in the background was holding a M-14 M1A. Most people today are only familar with the look of the M-16. The M-14 was a superb weapon. It fired the 7.62 NATO round (308 cal.) , had a 20 round Mag. and the stock was made of wood. The rifle was very accurate for a semi auto. The M-14 was also extremely rugged and reliable. When you pulled back the charging handle to chamber a round that thing would go Bang-Clang! You knew you had a weapon in your hands!. There was also a whole series of exercises you performed with it. Holding a M-14 over your head or straight out in front of you with both arms extended built strong shoulder and upper body strength. Over time the M-14 felt like a feather and became a part of you .

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