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Fighting FOMO: 4 Questions That Will Crush the Fear of Missing Out

by Brett & Kate McKay

FOMO. It’s an acronym of recent coinage which stands for the Fear of Missing Out. The inherent cutesy-ness of acronyms has a tendency to make me roll my eyes. But in this case, I think it describes a very real malady — one that can sap your happiness if you’re not careful. FOMO is the […]

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What They Left and What They Kept: What an Antarctic Expedition Can Teach You About What’s Truly Valuable

by Brett & Kate McKay

“Do you hear that? We’ll none of us get back to our homes again.” Tom McLeod, member of the 1914 Imperial Trans-Antarctic Expedition, stood anxiously on the deck of the Endurance. He looked out on a nearby ice floe where ten Emperor penguins stood wailing a mournful cry. None of the ship’s twenty-eight member crew […]

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The Diary Habit

by Brett & Kate McKay

Editor’s note: We’ve talked before about how and why to become a regular journaler/diary writer. (I like to call it a journal myself, but “diary” didn’t used to have the feminine connotations its acquired in the present day.) Writing in my journal every night is something I strive to do, although I am not always […]

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Self-Efficacy and The Art of Doing Things

by A Manly Guest Contributor

Editor’s Note: This a guest post from Ian Walker. A Thing I Didn’t Do In Lethbridge, Alberta, where I went to university and lived for five years, there is a very large, very long, and very high train bridge. It stretches across a giant valley that has been carved away by the Oldman River. It’s […]

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How to Hack the Habit Loop [VIDEO]

by Brett

` In this week’s video we take a look at how you can change your habits by hacking the habit loop. If you’re looking for more info on changing your habits, pick up the book that inspired the original post and the video: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. What bad habit do you […]

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The First Key to Mastery: Finding Your Life’s Task

by A Manly Guest Contributor

Editor’s Note: This is an excerpt from Robert Greene’s book Mastery. Last time he talked about the importance of the Apprenticeship Phase in gaining mastery over a skill or knowledge domain. Equally important is the need for an unbridled passion that will fuel you through the drudgery of your Apprenticeship. To gain that passion, the skill you seek to […]

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7 Tips for Successfully Completing Boot Camp, or Any Intense Training Experience, Courtesy of WWII Marines

by Marcus Brotherton

Picture yourself. You’re 18-years-old. It’s Monday morning, December 8, 1941, the day after Japan attacked Pearl Harbor, and you’re furious. You and your friends are standing in a long recruiting line along with every other able-bodied young man in your hometown, and you’ve got a huge goal ahead of you—you want your family and all […]

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How and Why to Become a Lifelong Learner

by Brett & Kate McKay

  For the first twenty-two years or so of our lives, our main “job” is learning. The bulk of our time is spent in classrooms acquiring new knowledge. And then, once we graduate, we feel like the education phase of our lives is done and now it’s time to go out into the world. Have […]

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Got Thumos?

by Brett & Kate McKay

Last week we explored Plato’s allegory of the chariot, which the ancient philosopher used to explain the tripartite nature of the soul or psyche. In the allegory, a chariot (representing the soul) is pulled by a rebellious dark horse (symbolizing man’s appetites) and a spirited white horse (symbolizing thumos). The charioteer, or Reason, is tasked […]

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What Is a Man? The Allegory of the Chariot

by Brett & Kate McKay

What is a man? What sort of man should I be? What does it mean to live a good life? What is the best way to live and how do I attain excellence? What should I aim for, and what training and practices must I do to achieve those aims? Such questions have been asked […]

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Personal Responsibility 102: The Importance of Owning Up to Your Mistakes and How to Do It

by Brett & Kate McKay

Yesterday we discussed the cognitive blind spots our brains generate that can make it difficult for us to honestly assess our actions and determine our responsibility for those actions and their consequences. We discovered the way in which our brains are inclined to flatter and shield our egos from blame when we make mistakes. Despite […]

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Personal Responsibility 101: Why Is It So Hard to Own Up to Our Mistakes?

by Brett & Kate McKay

“All this has been my fault. I asked more of my men than should have been asked of them.” –Robert E. Lee, after heavy Confederate losses at Pickett’s Charge “I had the opportunity and the information and I failed to make use of it. I don’t know what an inquest or a court of law […]

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Quit Being a Pushover: How to Be Assertive

by Brett & Kate McKay

Your boss consistently asks you at the last minute to come into work on the weekend. You say “yes” every time even though you have family plans. You stew with resentment as you pore over TPS reports on a Saturday. You order an expensive steak at a restaurant, but when the waiter brings it to […]

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12 Vintage Instructional Films Worth Watching

by Brett & Kate McKay

Maybe you’ve seen the classic Civil Defense film “Duck and Cover” as part of a documentary about the postwar period, a clip of an unintentionally hilarious hygiene film while watching Mystery Science Theater 3000, or a vintage film we ourselves included in a post like this one. Have you ever wondered where these short instructional […]

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How to Use Reddit to Become a Better Man: 25 Subreddits for Personal Improvement

by Brett

Reddit. You’ve probably heard of it. The mega-site has a cult-like and ever-growing following, especially among twenty-somethings. If you aren’t familiar with it, reddit is a social news website where anybody can submit links to interesting stuff they find around the web. Users (called “redditors”) can also ask questions of the community or share experiences […]

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What’s Your 20 Mile March?

by Brett & Kate McKay

Nine years ago, business authors Jim Collins and Morten T. Hansen, along with a team of 20 researchers, set out to answer this question: Why do some companies thrive in uncertainty, even chaos, and others do not? The group analyzed seven companies that performed not just better than their industry, but ten times better. They […]

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Gaining Mastery: The Three Vital Steps of the Apprenticeship Phase

by A Manly Guest Contributor

Editor’s Note: This is an excerpt from Robert Greene’s new book Mastery that he’s kindly allowed us to republish here on AoM. We’ve talked about mastery on the site before, and the one aspect of gaining mastery in any skill that gets overlooked by young men is what Greene calls the “Apprenticeship Phase.” It’s the time […]

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The George Bailey Technique: Mentally Erase Your Blessings for Greater Joy and Optimism

by Brett & Kate McKay

Lately, I’ve been looking at ways to be less cynical. Not that there’s anything wrong with a bit of healthy cynicism, I just have a tendency to go overboard with it so that it devolves into bitterness, pessimism, and passivity. I’m sort of morose by nature, so I’m constantly battling my inner Oscar the Grouch/Eeyore. One thing I’ve […]

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Unlocking the Science of Habits: How to Hack the Habit Loop & Become the Man You Want to Be

by Brett & Kate McKay

For better or for worse, our habits shape us. A good habit is a strong ally in our journey to becoming the men we want to be, while a bad habit acts like a millstone around our necks. (Want to know why? Read this Manvotional.) To achieve our goals, whatever they may be, it’s necessary […]

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