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The Rites of Manhood: Man’s Need for Ritual
Posted By Brett & Kate McKay On December 16, 2013 @ 6:16 pm In A Man's Life,On Manhood | 65 Comments
Does modern life ever feel excruciatingly flat to you? A bleak landscape devoid of layers, rhythm, interest, texture?
Are you ever haunted by the question “Is this all there is?”
Have you ever looked at an old photo and felt that the scene held such an inexplicable richness that it seemed you could practically step right into it?
The barren flatness of modern life is rooted in many things, including mindless consumerism, the absence of significant challenges, and the lack of shared values and norms, or even shared taboos to rebel against. But what is the solution?
Many would be quick to say faith, or philosophy, or relationships. All good answers.
But what is it that vivifies beliefs to the extent they can transform your perspective not simply for an hour on Sunday, but also in the mundane moments throughout your week? What can move an understanding of abstract truths from your mind into your very sinews? What can transform superficial ties with others into deep and meaningful bonds?
The answer I would suggest is ritual.
Our modern world is nearly devoid of rituals – at least in the way we traditionally think of them. Those that remain – such as ones that revolve around the holidays – have largely lost their transformative power and are often endured more than enjoyed, participated in as an obligatory going through of the motions. Ritual has today become associated with that which is rote, empty, meaningless.
Yet every culture, in every part of the world, in every era has engaged in rituals, suggesting they are a fundamental part of the human condition. Rituals have even been called our most basic form of technology – they are a mechanism that can change things, solve problems, perform certain functions, and accomplish tangible results. Necessity is the mother of invention, and rituals were born out of the clear-eyed perspective that life is inherently difficult and that unadulterated reality can paradoxically feel incredibly unreal. Rituals have for eons been the tools humans have used to release and express emotion, build their personal identity and the identity of their tribe, bring order to chaos, orient themselves in time and space, effect real transformations, and bring layers of meaning and texture to their lives. When rituals are stripped from our existence, and this fundamental human longing goes unsatisfied, restlessness, apathy, alienation, boredom, rootlessness, and anomie  are the result.
In the coming year we plan to do in-depth posts on some of the rituals that have been most central to the meaning and making of manhood, such as rites of passage, initiations, and oaths. This week we will be laying the foundation for these posts in two articles; the first will set up a definition of ritual, and the second will explore the many ways rituals are so vital for a full and meaningful life.
Today we’ll provide a little context as to the nature of ritual and why it has largely disappeared from modern societies.
According to Catherine Bell, professor of ritual studies and author of the preeminent textbook on the subject, ritual has been traditionally defined as an action that lacks a “practical relationship between the means one chooses to achieve certain ends.” For example, shaking hands when you meet someone can be considered a ritual as there is no real reason why grabbing another’s hand and shaking for a second or two should lead to acquaintanceship. It is a culturally-relative gesture; we might very well greet each other with a pat on the shoulder or even no physical contact at all. As another example, washing your hands to clean them is not a ritual since there exists a clear practical relationship between your action and the desired result. But if a priest splashes water on his hands to “purify” them, that’s a ritual, since the water is largely symbolic and not really meant to rid the hands of bacteria.
Bell lists six attributes of rituals:
The more of these attributes a behavior/event/situation invokes, the more different from everyday life and ritual-like it will seem. The fewer of these attributes present, the more casual and ordinary it will feel.
For a more simple definition of ritual, here’s one that works: thought + action. A ritual consists of doing something in your mind (and often feeling something in your heart), while simultaneously connecting it to doing something with your body.
Rituals fall into a wide variety of categories. Theorist Ronald Grimes lists 16 of them:
The important thing to understand about rituals is that they are not limited to very big, very formal events. Rituals can in fact be large or small, private or public, personal or social, religious or secular, uniting or dividing, conformist or rebellious. Funerals, weddings, presidential inaugurations, church services, baptisms, fraternal initiations, and tribal rites of passage are all rituals. Handshakes, dates, greetings and goodbyes, tattoos, table manners, your morning jog, and even singing the Happy Birthday song can be rituals as well.
In many traditional societies, almost every aspect of life was ritualized. So why is there such a dearth of rituals in modern culture?
The embrace of ritual in the Western World was first weakened by two things: the Protestant Reformation’s movement against icons and ceremonialism and the Enlightenment’s emphasis on rationalism.
Historian Peter Burke, argues “the Reformation was, among other things, a great debate, unparalleled in scale and intensity, about the meaning of ritual, its functions and its proper forms.” Many Protestants concluded that the kind of rituals the Catholic Church practiced gave too much emphasis to empty, outward forms, rather than one’s internal state of grace. They rejected the “magical efficacy” of rites to be able to do things like change bread and wine into the literal body and blood of Christ.
The magical efficacy of ritual was attacked from the other side by Enlightenment thinkers. As discussed above, ritual is inherently nonrational since there is no practical relationship between the action and the end result. It is not rational to think that painting one’s body before battle will offer protection, that a rite of passage can turn a boy into a man, or that smoking a peace pipe can seal a treaty. Thus, ritual began to be associated with the superstitions of primitive peoples.
Suspicion of ritual again grew after World War II, in the wake of the way in which ritual ceremonies had been used to solidify loyalty to the Nazi cause.
Cultural embrace of ritual then really began to unravel during the social movements of the 1960s, which emphasized free expression, personal freedom, and individual emotional fulfillment above all. Rituals — which prescribe certain disciplined behaviors in certain situations, and require a person to forfeit some of their individuality in service to the synchrony and identity of the group — constrain spontaneity and the ability to do whatever one pleases. Ritual thus came to be seen as too constraining and not sufficiently “authentic.”
For these reasons, the use of and participation in rituals has been greatly curtailed. Or perhaps as historian Peter Burke argues, we’ve just replaced old rituals with new ones: “If most people in industrial societies no longer go to church regularly or practice elaborate rituals of initiation, this does not mean that ritual has declined. All that has happened is the new types of rituals—political, sporting, musical, medical, academic and so on—have taken the place of the traditional ones.” But the new rituals – watching sports, attending music festivals, checking Facebook, shopping, visiting a strip club on your 18th birthday — are light on nourishment and do not satisfy. Traditional rituals provided a mechanism by which humans could channel and process that which was difficult to grapple with – death, maturation, aggression – allowing the participant to discover new truths about themselves and the world. New rituals, if they can even really be called such, attempt to deny anything ugly in life (lest that lead you to close your wallet) and present a shiny, glossy façade — “confetti culture ” – that facilitates passive consumption and turning away from examining given assumptions.
In our next post, we will argue that despite the cultural disdain for ritual, it is a human art form and practice which should be revived. It is true that ritual can be used for good or for ill, yet its benefit is so great that fear of the bad should not lead us to throw out the baby with the bathwater. Even if a man sees no place for ritual in his faith, he can have great use for it in other areas in his life (indeed, if his faith is completely unritualized, he has all the more need for other kinds of rituals). We will argue that even the most rational man might make room in his life for some “magic,” and that while ritual may seem constraining, it can paradoxically be incredibly empowering and even liberating. How that might be so, is where we will turn next time.
Read the Entire Series:
The Rites of Manhood: Man’s Need for Ritual 
The Power of Ritual: The Creation of Sacred Time and Space in a Profane World 
The Power of Ritual: Building Shared Worlds and Bonds That Transcend the Everyday 
The Power of Ritual: The Rocket Booster of Personal Change, Transformation, and Progress 
The Nature and Power of Ritual Series Conclusion: On Ritual Resistance 
Ritual: Perspectives and Dimensions  by Catherine Bell
Liberating Rites: Understanding the Transformative Power of Ritual  by Tom F. Driver
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URLs in this post:
 anomie: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/03/21/the-bucket-list-generation-in-the-age-of-anomie/
 wish to see themselves as characters in a larger narrative: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/07/11/heros-journey/
 confetti culture: http://www.jack-donovan.com/axis/2013/05/confetti-culture/
 The Rites of Manhood: Man’s Need for Ritual: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/12/16/the-rites-of-manhood-mans-need-for-ritual/
 The Power of Ritual: The Creation of Sacred Time and Space in a Profane World: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/12/19/the-power-of-ritual-the-creation-of-sacred-time-and-space-in-a-profane-world/
 The Power of Ritual: Building Shared Worlds and Bonds That Transcend the Everyday: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/01/06/the-power-of-ritual-building-shared-worlds-and-bonds-that-transcend-the-everyday/
 The Power of Ritual: The Rocket Booster of Personal Change, Transformation, and Progress: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/01/28/the-power-of-ritual-the-booster-rocket-of-personal-change-transformation-and-progress/
 The Nature and Power of Ritual Series Conclusion: On Ritual Resistance: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/01/28/the-nature-and-power-of-ritual-series-conclusion-on-ritual-resistance/
 Ritual: Perspectives and Dimensions: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0055NCU6O/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B0055NCU6O&linkCode=as2&tag=stucosuccess-20
 Liberating Rites: Understanding the Transformative Power of Ritual: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1419642103/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1419642103&linkCode=as2&tag=stucosuccess-20
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