Comments on: Quit Being a Pushover: How to Be Assertive

By: Neil

Neil — Mon, 17 Jun 2013 01:14:39 +0000

I can’t always be assertive because I feel like it will lead into a pointless argument. And I also feel that some people will think of me as this person with a short fuse.

By: Davis Nguyen

Davis Nguyen — Mon, 10 Jun 2013 21:14:04 +0000

Before, it was feeling people would see you as a jerk. But now I realized, being assertive doesn’t mean that you have to be a jerk.

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Sat, 08 Jun 2013 18:15:19 +0000

I am so happy that I found this. Even though I am a woman, I feel like this whole excerpt pegged me out to a T. I have always been the people pleaser especially the last few years and this has given me the confidence to try something else. I’ve also just gotten into a relationship and notice that my passiveness wasn’t really getting us anywhere. He’d suggest something as simple as where to go to dinner and I would just follow suit knowing that I didn’t really want to go or didn’t have an opinion. We had a discussion and noticed that behavior wasn’t a good one for me to have. Not only for us but just in life in general. I know that I need to stand up for myself and stop being the doormat to my friends, family, coworkers and even strangers that might want to take me for a loop, sometimes unknowingly. I know it will take practice but this piece is such a great launching pad to teach people that what they want out of life matters and it should matter to them. If we really want something we just need to really go for it and not be so concerned with what others might think. Im so grateful for this!

By: Vicky

Vicky — Tue, 04 Jun 2013 00:49:46 +0000

Thanks for the article! The one reason that I struggle to be assertive is my poor skills in judging when to be assertive. The question list from Robert Alberti and Michael Emmons will definitely help!

By: kyleh

kyleh — Sun, 02 Jun 2013 22:54:59 +0000

This has been an eye opener for me. I have been with my partner for about 6 months and just recently he has been unhappy. He feels I don’t challenge him. Not in the IQ department but period. I am a pushover. I am passive and way too easy going. Thank you for putting this article out. It will be something I read daily.

By: Alistair

Alistair — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 15:04:09 +0000

I am going through a shocking time at the momment due to being such an easy going happy go lucky passive guy.I am dealing with depression,something i have had since i was 13(i’m now 32).In my life i have got places by people pleasing which i well know is a big disablement of myself and eventually leads me to go back to a very dark and dangerous place.I don’t know if i can get through this current ebb of depression but as i’m reading these sort of positive blogs know that i must be in a kinda good place.Hoping to get better keep the blogs coming!

By: Gareth

Gareth — Thu, 11 Apr 2013 10:54:28 +0000

Fantastic article, Brett and Kate. Assertiveness is an essential skill for any man.This post is very comprehensive, well-balanced and helpful. I particularly liked the section on dealing with people who are used to ‘Mr Doormat’. I think anyone who tries to become more assertive will meet with some resistance from others (who are used to getting their way) and so it’s important to ‘stay the course’.

By: Noah

Noah — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 03:32:36 +0000

Wow, you have no idea how much this article has lifted my spirit. Thank you very much.

By: Alberto Guadarrama

Alberto Guadarrama — Sun, 10 Mar 2013 07:37:51 +0000

This article is the reason I decided to Subscribe. Absolutely beautiful and powerful for a successful relationship with anyone!
As a college freshman, this will definitely come in handy!

By: Zach

Zach — Mon, 04 Mar 2013 01:14:10 +0000

Thanks for this post. Our modern culture needs this. This has been one of my problems. I have been assertive, but let it go. It was even worse going back to the passiveness. I am going to implement these suggestions and want to encourage others to do the same.