Great article. I’ve actually been a fan of artofmanliness.com for a while and even enjoyed some great Christmas presents from my wife thanks to the gift idea post.

It’s interesting that one of the topics and one of the directions in the comment threat went towards pornography. At Candeo we don’t care if it’s officially classed as an addiction or not, we care about what a few of you have said. That it’s a “weight” you’d rather not have. We call it an unwanted behavior. The brain is amazing, but part of it’s wonder is it’s neural-plasticity.

Look, I honestly don’t care if you click a link, I’m just glad to see a conversation that involved some straight talk about pornography. Keep up the conversation, here or anywhere.

I’m definitely going to apply the “i dont trust myself” guide.

Really appreciate the whole AOM website, you guys are awesome at helping us chaps become gentleman.

I, and I’m sure any other religious guys on here, completely understand what you’re dealing with.

At some point, your motivation has to come from somewhere other than yourself, in “the moment,” fighting yourself. For instance, if you know that it’s going to result in your girlfriend feeling terrible, then you need to build your self control out of a love for her and her heart.

With that being said, I would recommend legitimate, in-your-life accountability. Voice to each other what you want your standards to be and why, then each of you should find someone to hold you accountable.

If all else fails, avoid the situation that triggers the result — the car, in your case. If you don’t trust yourself, then don’t trust yourself.

Best of luck to you.