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A Man’s Guide to Wearing Jewelry
Posted By Antonio On March 20, 2012 @ 6:50 pm In Accessories,Dress & Grooming | 191 Comments
I wear my wedding ring on my right hand.
The reason? I married my wife in a Ukrainian Orthodox church and have never felt the need to move it even though we live in a country where 99.99% of people wear it on the left hand.
My ring is a small silver metal band that maybe cost $20. Nothing to brag about. Yet it has been the subject of hundreds of conversations over the last 8 years because of its placement.
That’s the power of jewelry–for better or worse it sends signals about who we are, what commitments we have made, and our status in society.
Step outside the norm and people notice. Depending on your goals, this may be a good thing or a bad thing.
The goal of this article is to help you understand the guidelines to wearing jewelry so you can better control the signals you send. Because these tiny pieces of metal and stone can have a big effect on the opinions of people we’re trying to work with or get to know, you want to make sure you’re sending the right visual message.
Please note – this is one man’s perspective. I am aware that different cultures around the world view the wearing of jewelry differently. I would love it if in the comments below you expand on your view of male jewelry and its role in your environment.
1. Keep It Simple
When in doubt, keep it simple. Start with a classic leather-strapped silver watch; if you regularly wear a watch and can afford it, consider a sportier diving watch with a stainless steel band as well. Next branch out to tie accessories and cufflinks.
Once you’re comfortable wearing these generally accepted pieces, then you can start to introduce other jewelry pieces like necklaces if you choose. For a quick visual guide, visit Joe’s awesome chart over at Dappered. 
2. Match Metals
Most men’s jewelry is metallic. Gold and silver tones are the most common. Your outfits should only feature one metal tone at a time.
The exception to issues of color matching are wedding bands and heirloom pieces. A man can always wear his wedding band; if it doesn’t go with your other metal pieces, don’t sweat it. It’ll just draw a bit of attention, and there’s nothing wrong with having people notice the visible symbol of your commitment. As for heirloom pieces, try to match but assuming the piece is non-attention grabbing (such as a small ring or watch), the clash of metals is acceptable.
If you’re going to be buying jewelry soon–make sure to first read my primer here on buying male jewelry  where I explain metal and stone details in further depth.
3. Understand Jewelry’s Symbolism
Jewelry has meaning.
You can’t get away from this. Despite it taking up only a tiny percent of your visual presentation, people zero in on jewelry thanks to its flash and uncommon usage by men.
To further complicate the matter, people can interpret the meaning of the same piece of jewelry very differently. To some, ornamental rings symbolize success and wealth; to others they signal organized crime affiliation. Here’s a great discussion about this in the Art of Manliness’ community forum .
That means a man has to be careful when wearing jewelry pieces outside the norm. It’s easy to appear flashy when you start including nondescript jewelry in your daily getup. However, jewelry can add a helpful bit of color and uniqueness to an outfit. So how does a well-dressed man balance it?
4. Jewelry and Dress Codes
In the business world, company dress codes can severely restrict male jewelry. Often phrased in a politically correct tone such as, “Men should only wear tasteful pieces of jewelry,” you’ll find in practice that this means not rocking the boat and conforming to the status quo. So if you’re hired at AT&T corporate, be careful about trying to wear as many necklaces as Mr. T.
Seriously–the burden of appropriateness is always on the man who chooses to wear jewelry. Know this and be restrained when you’re in any kind of professional setting. You can express yourself after work. Jewelry is, by its nature, small enough to slip into a jacket pocket after all.
Businesses that request “modest” or “tasteful” or “appropriate” jewelry, or other words along those lines, prefer things be limited to the traditional “masculine” styles of jewelry. This includes tie accents, watches, cuff-links, wedding bands, and lapel pins. Over the last decade most companies have expanded this to include bracelets, earrings, and ethnic jewelry as well.
Piercings (other than earrings) are dicey even in casual outfits. If your office and social circles are comfortable with nose or lip piercings, that’s great, but it’s still going to seem off-putting to some strangers that you interact with–clerks at stores, taxi drivers, what have you.
Unfair? Absolutely, but that’s reality unless you live in a counter-culture friendly city like Austin, Boulder, or Portland. If your goal is to appear well-dressed and trustworthy to most, look to stay within the bounds of accepted male styles.
The following is a condensed list of every piece of male jewelry I could think of; here’s a more in-depth look at the core pieces of male jewelry if you’re looking for more info. 
Wedding bands – A common piece of jewelry for over half a century, wedding rings are normally made from gold, silver, and platinum and are simple in design.
Watches – A functional piece of jewelry, watches are as safe as wedding rings and acceptable to wear in all circumstances except black tie events (although this is an old rule followed by few). In general the simpler the watch, the dressier it is. A plain black leather strap and simple silver timepiece with Arabic or Roman numerals is versatile and classic. Metal watches are fine for suits and sport jackets, while cloth bands and plastic watches should be reserved for casual wear.
Blazer Buttons – When a man buys a blazer it normally comes with simple brass buttons. He then has the option to upgrade them to gold or silver buttons. Horn and mother of pearl are options here as well, but the key is the blazer jacket is clearly distinguished by the ornamentation of the buttons.
Companies such as Ben Silver have built a strong reputation thanks to their wide selection of quality blazer buttons .
Cufflinks & shirt studs – Cufflinks and shirt studs are functional jewelry pieces that hold the cuffs and front of a dress shirt in place, normally where buttons would have been. Shirt studs are most commonly associated with black tie attire, while cufflinks only require French or double cuffs. Metallic cufflinks made from precious metals in simple designs are the most formal, while any cufflink using a novelty design is more for fun around the office. Silk knots are a simple alternative to metals, and are a favorite with younger men.
Tie accents – a tie accent serves the practical purpose of keeping your tie in place. This is commonly accomplished in three ways: with a tie pin, a tie bar, or a tie chain. Tie bars are simple strips of gold, silver, or other metal that clip onto the tie horizontally and hold it in place using the shirt as the anchor. Tie chains serve the same purpose as the tie clip but remain unseen, while the tie tack accent is best avoided as it sticks a pin through the tie.
Rings – Rings come in a wide variety of forms: class rings, fraternal rings, championship rings, and decorative rings. As mentioned previously, wedding rings are always acceptable, but other rings should be worn with more caution in the US. Class and fraternal rings are in most cases acceptable, while championship rings are best left for celebrations with old teammates or fights in a back alley. I have many European friends that wear decorative rings; within their ethnic circles in cities like Chicago and New York this is normal.
How many rings can a man wear? My answer is as many as he can confidently pull off. For most of us this is one or two rings–our wedding ring and perhaps a university or fraternal ring. We’ve been raised in a society that frowns on showing off success and wealth in this manner. But there are many men–especially travelers and immigrants–who can confidently wear 3 to 5 rings and not come off as a sleazy used car salesmen.
Lapel pins – They can be ornamental, collectable, or reveal a group affiliation. Lapel pins have been around for half a century, although the recent headlines would make you think they originated from American politicians looking to display their patriotism. Their history actually lies with the USSR and China where portraits of communist leaders were worn to display loyalty. Nowadays pin designs come in all shapes, colors, and meanings.
Belt Buckles – In the American West, trophy belt buckles have been around since the 1920s, handed out to rodeo and other contest winners. Not practical for normal work wear (although some wear them when dressing up), they became more common in the 1950s as Hollywood influenced their demand and acceptance. The rules on wearing a western buckle are this: if it’s a prize buckle, you or a descendant should have won it. Otherwise leave them on the shelf. As for western buckles in general–wear them if they fit your personality and meet your needs.
Bracelets – Decorative, functional, cause-related, and medical alert. Men of royalty have worn ornamental bracelets for thousands of years, but more common today are cause-related bracelets such as Livestrong, functional ones such as parachute cord bracelets, or medical alert bracelets with a man’s vitals in case he loses consciousness.
I personally feel a man should be very careful with decorative bracelets; cause bracelets are another story. Despite their recent overuse, I think if a man is a true advocate of the cause, they are great conversation starters that can lead to greater awareness. As for survival bracelets–well, I have yet to hear a true story of a man surviving on account of his paracord bracelet. But feel free to enlighten me in the comments.
Necklaces – Decorative, functional, medical, or religious. As a military man I wore my dog tags for 6 years–never really got used to it though as I’m not a necklace wearer. I know other men who love their gold chains, and wear them 24/7 even on the beach. Necklaces are an easy piece of jewelry to wear because they can be hidden under the clothing. Since only a sliver can be seen by others, they create a feeling of curiosity and can thus be a great conversation starter. As for length and number to be worn–less is more. Two is about the most I recommend. For length, at least six to eight inches above your navel is a good standard.
Earrings – The most accepted piercing for men. They have gained wider appeal over the last 30 years and nowadays do not garner much interest in large cities, although in smaller communities and conservative businesses they are still frowned upon by many. Ear piercings’ main advantage is that the earring can be easily removed if required for work.
Other Piercings – Nose, brow, and other. Facial piercing and the jewelry associated with it have not reached mainstream acceptance. There are cities (and cultures) where this type of ornamentation is normal; however, it is perceived by many in the US as a sign of rebellion.
Ethnic jewelry – As varied as the people of this planet, the key with wearing ethnic pieces is to remember your surroundings. What works in northern Thailand won’t necessarily fly in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. However, tasteful pieces such as tribal bracelets can help you stand out from the masses  and help tell the story of your family’s journey.
Military Jewelry – Warriors have adorned their uniforms with pieces of medal and ribbon for thousands of years. If this doesn’t dispel the myth that jewelry is feminine, I don’t know what will.
Religious Jewelry – Prayer beads, rosary beads, Japa mala, medallion necklaces, and scapulars. Wear them in accordance with your faith’s teachings. And be respectful of the importance others place on these items even if you are not of their religion.
Jewelry to Avoid – Grills, anklets, toe rings, belly piercings, engagement rings, armlets………no,no,no, never, no, and no.
So what are your thoughts on jewelry? I know we have readers from all over the world, so let’s hear from you below in the comments!
Written by Antonio Centeno
Founder, Real Men Real Style
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URLs in this post:
 Joe’s awesome chart over at Dappered.: http://dappered.com/2012/03/the-man-jewelry-difficulty-scale/
 read my primer here on buying male jewelry: http://www.realmenrealstyle.com/mans-guide-buying-jewelry/
 great discussion about this in the Art of Manliness’ community forum: http://community.artofmanliness.com/forum/topics/man-jewelry
 in-depth look at the core pieces of male jewelry if you’re looking for more info.: http://www.atailoredsuit.com/mens-jewlery-tailored-suit.html
 wide selection of quality blazer buttons: http://www.bensilver.com/Ben-Silver-Jewelry-Blazer-Buttons-and-Cufflinks.html
 Image: http://www.kadydesign.com/
 tribal bracelets can help you stand out from the masses: http://streetetiquette.com/2009/08/04/accessories-are-a-neccesity-vol-1/
 Click Here To Grab My Free 47-Page Men’s Style eBook: http://www.realmenrealstyle.com/free-ebook/
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