Comments on: Look ‘Em in the Eye: Part II – How to Make Eye Contact the Right Way in Life, Business, and Love

By: Alex

Alex — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 21:33:03 +0000

Honestly I didn’t know anything about the eye contact thing until this one guy who goes to the same church with me started trying it on me. At first he just stared at me. Then after a while I started looking back at him, cuz I noticed that he’s totally trying to do something. So he did this for a pretty long time and every time I saw him in church i caught his stare. He still is kinda trying this,or not, i don’t know, but now almost a year passed and I actually started being attracted to him. And it looks like he started having feelings for me too. Several times he came up to my sister and asked how am I doing, or every-time I shake his hand he makes it feel nice and soft, he still looks at me a lot and i always see that nice and relaxed smile which i totally am in love with. But there’s just one little problem I am not sure if he actually likes me or is just trying stuff on me. It looks like he’s not but I know him already for 6 years and he is really good at hiding stuff so… That’s kinda the only thing i can’t figure out.

By: mike

mike — Thu, 28 Feb 2013 18:11:23 +0000

I really enjoyed your article. I am going to try some of the ideas the next time I see someone. PS, my experience tells me that when a woman (ex-wife) stares at you with that look of 100% she is not the deer in the headlights…YOU are. !

By: Alejandro

Alejandro — Sat, 26 Jan 2013 18:24:55 +0000

What a superb article!!

By: Ramzy

Ramzy — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 09:13:10 +0000

Words cant describe how much this has benefited me. Thank you for your words.

By: James

James — Sat, 29 Dec 2012 03:08:03 +0000

I’ve realised I have a bad habit of looking sideways and off at something in the distance while talking to people sometimes! In many ways it’s my odd way of gathering thoughts as I talk, but often I notice people I’m talking to sitting opposite me leaning sideways to try and catch my eyes or even read my lips! Must be very annoying for the other person at times, even when I mean no disrespect by it – it’s just my own quirk!

Re the eye contact with women, one thing I’ve proved many times, now I’m in my 4th decade, is that a woman who meets \ sees you for the first time and gives you a stare like a deer caught in the headlights is 100 percent interested!! It might not happen to you often or might be a brief 2-3 second thing that could easily go over the top of your head if not paying attention, but mark my words that is very clear interest. Pupils obviously dilate too, but sometimes you can’t notice that specifically. It’s more just the look in general.

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 04 Oct 2012 00:49:41 +0000

This is a very helpful article on eye contact: something you’d think should be instinctual, but isn’t always

By: Henrik

Henrik — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 11:25:14 +0000

There are two points that have not been addressed/clarified/mentioned in this article:
1) shifting your gaze in the triangle eye-mouth-eye signals a wish to kiss the person, and should therefore only be done with someone you would like to kiss.
2) if you are a man walking down a street locking eyes with other men, this comes off as aggressive. So unless aggression and/or rivalry is the message you would like to convey, don’t do it. It could land you in unfortunate situations depending on culture.

As mentioned these are cultural differences, but i think the two points above apply internationally.

By: Jonathan Gerber

Jonathan Gerber — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 00:45:37 +0000

Excellent article!

I’ve utilized eye contact a great deal in the last few years. As an employee at a grocery store, a smile and good eye contact does wonders in lightening a customer’s mood. Also, I’ve employed the eye contact in a crowd method. As someone else mentioned, life is so much more fascinating when observing humankind through their eyes, rather than seeing them as hindrances to one’s end destination.

I will most definitely make use of the eye contact with the ladies. The visual cue of whether she’s interested or not is truly extraordinary. It makes complete sense though!

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By: Buddy

Buddy — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 13:15:50 +0000

This article was invaluable, I knew my eye contact was limited, but not this bad. However things are a changing NOW…