Two years of living house to house, desperately making ends meet, I finally met the end when I found myself living in a car for another two years. When I look back, I’m amazed how much they took from me when we’re weren’t even married. It shouldn’t have come to loosing that much, but it did. Now 25, living in a small apartment I have been trying to find my inspiration since the previous one seems dead. It is now that I read this article that speaks to me in a level I wouldn’t think would happen with such an article. Thanks for this amazing read! I felt the urgency before, now I know it wasn’t just desperation to just find something.

Really enjoyed this article a lot. Just turned 25 and not thrilled with the way things are turning out. However, you made me take a look back at what I accomplished in just this year and I did a lot! Just to mention a few things, I received my degree, traveled to new places and even made it to Vegas for the first time in my life. Had a few relationships along the way, nothing that stuck but definitely don’t regret them. Yet, currently just stuck in this rut of a lame job and not meeting new people just hoping days will pass me by! I want so much but fear is definitely a culprit for me! Technically I should be invinsible, I have nothing to lose and a very supportive family that will always have my back. But personally the idea of failure just kills me and it has had an effect on many areas of my life from women and even sports. Your article put it nicely, take small steps and win little victories and maybe it will multiply into success and not an epic fail. I look forward to reading more from you and I plan on slowing down a bit to get a different perspective on things! Thanks!!!

Much respect to Tyler for posting a well-written article on a difficult subject, and I’ll have to check out your website because I like the sound of it. But what I read just didn’t resonate with my expectations.

The question that I want to ask is. I feel that I’m ready to move on, not relationship wise, but how exactly can I utilize the concepts you wrote in my situation?

“But don’t get so lost up your own ass with dimestore zen that you feel it’s your duty to lead the rest of us out of our apathetic fog.”

Anyone who sees it as their duty to help another (whether that be by offering encouragement or helping confront restrictive apathy) is not up their own ass. But what do I know? Apparently I have no idea what life is about. I have lived in one of the poorest countries in the world surrounded by poverty, death, disease, and war. I have worked with marginalized teenagers who are surrounded by gang violence and abuse, never knowing what it mean to be loved a day of their lives. I have helped babies be born and have treated patients who’s lives are withering away from chronic illnesses. But because I have only been alive for 25 year I have no wisdom to give and “haven’t put in enough time to know what the hell life is about.”

I am encouraged though. Since wisdom comes from age alone I know that in 25 more years I will have earned the right to put young ambitions fools in their place and will have obtained “sage wisdom” that comes with a number.

Interesting that all of the writers on the site are under 35 and this site was created by a man in while he was in his twenties…

Your life’s pace is what it is – sometimes it’s fast, sometimes not. It seems fast during your kid’s birthday parties and torturously slow sitting vigil at a hospital bedside but you know what? It’s really all the same.

And that one path bullshit? Let me tell you all something…no-one but a true narcissist, trust-fund baby, or complete asshole plows one path to their own personal nirvana. If the word ‘sacrifice’ isn’t in your vocabulary, you are NOT a real man. Enough with the whiny boo-hoo stories of breaking up with a girlfriend leading to some transcendent epiphany – suck it up, learn from it, fall in love all over again, and exploit the hell out of the new path you got knocked onto.

Am I bitter? You bet. I’ve lived a very full life thus far. I’ve played by all the rules (breaking a few here and there), achieved financial success by anyone’s standards, loved more times than I probably deserve, had three beautiful kids (hands down the absolute best thing in my life), but am frightfully aware of the heavy days ahead, and I resent it. And I resent some kid (yes, 27 still makes you a kid in the big scheme of things) rolling out life experience crap like it’s some big funny fortune cookie. Newsflash – it’s not.

Life is hard, life is great, life is life – and re-examining it regularly isn’t just laudible, it’s essential. But don’t get so lost up your own ass with dimestore zen that you feel it’s your duty to lead the rest of us out of our apathetic fog. This is a wonderful site, with sometimes great advice and a keen eye towards pathos and humor. I enjoy it immensly but this particular article really struck a nerve.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone…let the bitter old man comments commence…