Tru-isms from Dad: The Char-Broil Quantum Infrared Grill Giveaway

by Brett & Kate McKay on June 14, 2011 · 1,852 comments

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Maybe your dad is like mine. He’s never been much for sitting me down for a formal meeting in order to dispense fatherly advice. Instead, he dishes it out in bits and pieces whenever the moment is right. I’ve racked up a catalog of these little tru-isms my dad has shared with me over the years. Yeah, a lot of them are cliche, but they’ve stuck with me because of the context in which they were imparted.

One that sticks out is the bit of advice my dad gave me after I totaled my first car. It happened just two weeks after I turned 16. Rear-ended a guy. Man, I took it hard. I didn’t go to school for two days because I felt so sorry for myself. I had taken my first steps towards freedom and independence, but in a matter of seconds I was back to relying on my parents to haul me around.

In the middle of one my pity parties, my dad just told me, “This too shall pass.”

And you know what? As simple as it sounds, his piece of cliche advice made me feel better. Now, whenever things get bad and I think they couldn’t get any worse, I hear my dad’s voice in my head saying, “This too shall pass.” And it always does.

In honor of Father’s Day and dads who dispense tru-isms about life, Char-Broil Grills wants to give one lucky AoM reader a Char-Broil Quantum® Infrared Outdoor Grill. Are you ready for a chance to win dad (or yourself) a present that knocks the socks off a “Kiss the Chef” apron? Keep on reading.

The Prize: Char-Broil Quantum® Infrared Outdoor Grill

Char-Broil has been helping dads be king of the grill since 1948. Throughout its 63 year existence, Char-Broil has been a leader and innovator in outdoor grilling. Char-Broil’s latest contribution the the world of outdoor grilling is their line of Infrared Gas Grills. Grills installed with Infrared technology allow grillmasters to cook at a wide range of temperatures with fewer flare-ups, all while using less gas. The result? Better tasting food, cooked efficiently and simply.

Char-Broil Grills wants to give one lucky Art of Manliness reader a Char-Broil Quantum® Infrared Outdoor Grill. This bad boy comes with four stainless steel burners that allow you to sear your steak with high,  intense heat or slow-cook a rack of ribs with a nice low heat. In addition to the main grill, the Quantum® Infrared Outdoor Grill comes with a Stovetop™ Sideburner, allowing you to cook things up in a skillet while you grill your meat. And getting the grill fired up is a breeze with Char-Broil’s Surefire™ electronic ignition system. This is a $575 grill and one man is going to walk away with it for free.

How to Enter to Win a Char-Broil Grill

Simply leave a comment below sharing a tru-ism your dad has dispensed to you. You know. Those sage words of advice that fathers pass on to their sons about life while driving in the car, fishing, or grilling meat.

Deadline to enter is Tuesday, June 21 at 11:59PM CDT. We’ll then randomly select one lucky winner. Enter today!

1701 garron edgington June 17, 2011 at 10:40 pm

not necessarily cliche but it helped me out during a hard time

“Son, right now you are just having a weak momment. You need to put your nose to the grind stone and keep going”

1702 Robert W June 17, 2011 at 11:00 pm

Two my dad used t tell me were,
1. Everything thing you do is a self-portrait, so always do your best.
2. I gave you your last name unsullied, keep it that way.

1703 Dr. Jason June 17, 2011 at 11:10 pm

You’ve got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em…

Good advice for any occasion.

1704 Ben June 17, 2011 at 11:33 pm

“Money isn’t necessary to make it in this world, but it sure does make it easier.”

1705 Jeff June 17, 2011 at 11:36 pm

My dad told me when I started driving to be polite to any police officer who pulled me over. He said, “We can sort it out later, but on the side of the road an officer with a gun and badge is in control and his name is always, Sir.”.

Paid off more times than I care to admit.

1706 Harold Chase June 18, 2011 at 12:26 am

My dad was a butcher; he showed me the back of his left thumb and told me, ” I bet I cut this thumb 500 times. One day I made a decision not to cut it anymore. I never cut it again.”

1707 DaveC June 18, 2011 at 12:55 am

“The Cheapest you can buy is the Best.” The Best you can buy will last longer than the cheap price stuff and cost less in the long run.

1708 Mark June 18, 2011 at 1:33 am

My Dad always tried to give me a solid understanding of the value of a dollar. Before making a decision, he would always make sure I understood the difference between “a need and a want.” Having a car that can go from 0 – 60 mph isn’t a need, he would say, just a want – and that’s why so many people can get trapped under so much debt and financial pressure. They never stop to think, is this something I really need?

1709 Jimmy June 18, 2011 at 1:50 am

The only way to eat steak is medium-rare. Words to live by.

1710 Grant June 18, 2011 at 3:00 am

My dad used to say, “if you don’t have time to do something right, I wonder when you’ll have time to do it over.”
It’s helped me to commit to doing the best possible job time and again.

1711 Bucky June 18, 2011 at 3:18 am

Didn’t have a dad. Can I still be entered?

1712 michael June 18, 2011 at 3:27 am

My dad did a lot of things that I found out I didn’t want to do, so I learned through cautionary tale if you will. I love the man with all my soul, and sadly he’s battling his own personal issues such as some mental health obstacles.

“Son, you only live once, so do what you love and manage your time well. And NEVER look back.”

1713 Walker June 18, 2011 at 7:53 am

Take good care of your body and the things you own and they will reward you later.

1714 Juan Cabrera June 18, 2011 at 8:12 am

“Walk straight”

1715 Eric June 18, 2011 at 8:41 am

Squeeze the trigger, don’t pull it.

1716 Will June 18, 2011 at 9:06 am

One thing my dad always told me is “Son, you may never hear a word about something you’ve done right, but when you do something wrong sooner or later its going to back back and bite you in the ass”.

Remembering that has always led me to try to do what is right in any given situation.

1717 Will June 18, 2011 at 9:07 am

One thing my dad always told me is “Son, you may never hear a word about something you’ve done right, but when you do something wrong sooner or later its going to come back and bite you in the ass”.

Remembering that has always led me to try to do what is right in any given situation.

1718 bob lang June 18, 2011 at 10:12 am

measure twice, cut once.

1719 bob lang June 18, 2011 at 10:16 am

don’t start a fight, but if you have to fight…hit them in the nose… works.

1720 Matt June 18, 2011 at 10:25 am

Be alert and aggressive… like a muskrat in hot water!

1721 Timothy Wilson June 18, 2011 at 10:49 am

40 years ago, when expanding their house, he went to town to buy a circular saw (20 minutes one way). He bought a cheap saw, and less than a week later, it quit working. Another trip to town, a little bit more expensive saw. That one lasted about a week. After putting a penny in the fuse box, locking on the power switch on the saw, and tossing it in the driveway until the saw caught fire (as he watched with pleasure), he made his third trip to town. This time, he bought the best saw he could afford. He still uses that saw today.
“Buy quality tools, take care of them, and they’ll last a lifetime.”

1722 Giles Thomas June 18, 2011 at 10:53 am

My father , a police officer , used to tell me “Rules are there for the guidance of the wise and the blind obedience of fools .”
It has served me well

1723 Jared Lowery June 18, 2011 at 11:30 am

Told to me on my wedding day by an old bagpiper. “When your wife asks what’s wrong, don’t tell her nothin’. YOU tell the Priest nothin’.” Some of the best Fatherly advice I’ve ever received. By the way, just celebrated our 10 year anniversary.

1724 Mike June 18, 2011 at 11:35 am

My father told me this after my first job years and years ago.

“Son, you will always lose money chasin women but you’ll never lose women chasing money”

1725 Trey June 18, 2011 at 11:35 am

It doesn’t matter, son, you have to play your ball where it lies.

1726 Lisa June 18, 2011 at 11:40 am

Sometimes you gotta cut the pipe to find the clog.

1727 Harold Chase June 18, 2011 at 12:19 pm

When I bought my first motorcycle my dad told me an old saying; “There are old ones and bold ones, but there are no old bold ones.” Thirty years later I have managed to stay in one piece.

1728 Garrett Sergeant June 18, 2011 at 1:03 pm

“Never let the facts stand in the way of a good story”_Robert Sergeant

1729 Ken Owens June 18, 2011 at 1:25 pm

My dad was full of good sayings and advice. I wish I could follow them more consistently.

The one I always think of is, “plan your work and work your plan.” Often followed by “boy,” no matter how old I was.

Also “It ain’t enough to know it’s rainin’, son – you got to know how to stop getting wet!”

1730 Brian June 18, 2011 at 1:48 pm

“Quality is better than quantity; buy what you need, not what you want”.

1731 Matt June 18, 2011 at 2:46 pm

When helping me understand and obtain the mentality I needed when playing football my dad gave me this advice:
“It’s great to be a nice guy, but sometimes we all need to leave that guy in the locker room and find our inner warrior”

1732 Thomas June 18, 2011 at 2:48 pm

Get off your ass!

1733 Aubrey June 18, 2011 at 3:04 pm

“Sometimes you just have to say: what the funk”
(you know what he said instead of funk)
And a tru-ism from Barry Goldwater to his song: If you don’t get any by midnight it is time to go to bed

1734 Wesley C June 18, 2011 at 3:05 pm

“work hard, study hard” is what my dad always told me whenever he would drop me off for school. What more needs to be said?

1735 Renzo Werner June 18, 2011 at 4:10 pm

When walking towards him to ask him a questions he tells me

“What’s your problem, apart from your face?”

Never gets old.

1736 reagan t June 18, 2011 at 4:40 pm

”work hard now so you can play hard later”

”treat women with respect”

1737 Wade June 18, 2011 at 4:55 pm

My Dad was a mechanic, worked hard his whole life making a living with his hands. He’d always say, long before Nike came along, “You just gotta do it.” I miss him.

1738 Michael S. Hilton June 18, 2011 at 6:34 pm

“If you see something that needs to be done, do it.”

1739 Randy June 18, 2011 at 7:29 pm

If we got the lead out of your ass, the silver out of my hair and the gold out of your grandfather’s teeth, you could retire early.

1740 Randy June 18, 2011 at 7:33 pm

My grandfather, who actually raised me said, “Never avoid the hard work, it will always be there waiting for you”.

1741 Harold Chase June 18, 2011 at 7:39 pm

“Work for yourself and you’ll never be unemployed.”

1742 Drew B June 18, 2011 at 8:08 pm

“Always use the right tool for the job.” This truism has helped me out quite a bit, and saved me a lot of headaches over the years.

1743 Demetri June 18, 2011 at 8:20 pm

Don’t pass up an opportunity to tell those whom you love, “I love you.”

1744 Clifdweller June 18, 2011 at 8:58 pm

You only need enough money so that you don’t have to worry about how much money you have.

1745 Luke W June 18, 2011 at 10:03 pm

“Use your head for something besides a hat-rack.”

Another favorite, “If you let anything in the world get in the way of a goal, for God’s sake don’t let it be fear.”

1746 Rob M June 18, 2011 at 10:51 pm

Always make sure someone is holding the hind legs when castrating calves.

1747 jonathan rainone June 18, 2011 at 10:59 pm

He would tell me that money is fleeting but friends are forever.

1748 Vaughn Harris June 18, 2011 at 11:12 pm

“Life isn’t fair. Life is.”

I used to hate to hear that until I realized how true it was.

1749 Peter June 18, 2011 at 11:14 pm

There’s always the unexpected.

1750 RM June 19, 2011 at 12:05 am

“Take a deep breath.”

1751 Jon LaLone June 19, 2011 at 12:22 am

When I did not get the job that I really wanted, Dad said, “son, go out for ice cream and celebrate! God is always in control and His will is always best!”

- Jon

1752 Jeffrey J. Steinberg June 19, 2011 at 12:42 am

When a man says his word is as his bond – get his bond.

1753 Jeffrey J. Steinberg June 19, 2011 at 12:43 am

Ambition is a poor excuse for not having enough sense to be lazy

1754 A June 19, 2011 at 12:47 am

For those of you who don’t have a great father figure in your life, I offer you this piece of advice which has helped me through the years: Don’t blame others for problems in your life, even if they’re not your fault, because then you take away your ability to fix them and you give that ability to others.

1755 Ken June 19, 2011 at 1:29 am

my dad once said “son, red heads are crazy, date them, have fun with them, but by god don’t every marry one.”

1756 Jeffrey J. Steinberg June 19, 2011 at 1:51 am

I don’t know why we are here, but I’m pretty sure that it is not in order to enjoy ourselves.

1757 farkmeil June 19, 2011 at 2:56 am

When I was a teenager I habitually blew off or forgot appointments. My dad sat me down and reproved me with these simple words. “Be where you’re supposed to be, when you’re supposed to be there.” It worked. The simplicity of it somehow sparked me into a commitment filling fiend.

1758 nate June 19, 2011 at 7:01 am

My father was very sick when I started college. About a week before he passed, he said to me: “No matter what happens with me, finish school and keep your life in order. You will do your mother better by becoming a man with a good job than by coming back home to take care of her. Take care of yourself because you are the only one that is going to take care of you.”. That has stuck with me ever since, and he was right. My mother was fine and her and the rest of my family have been better served by me working hard and living a good life. Even with a head full of morphine, he knew what needed to be said.

1759 Caleb G. Duke June 19, 2011 at 7:11 am

I grew up with three younger sisters. Needless to say, I felt deprived sometimes at home of the ability to rough-house with a little or older brother. I had to learn how to treat females with respect like they deserved, and no one could have taught me better than my father. After getting in trouble for ‘accidently’ knocking one of my sisters out with my Tonka Truck, my dad gave me a good whippin’ and left me with the words, “Son, you need to learn how to be strong enough to be gentle!”
My father’s words have stuck with me ever since, and I am proud to say, although young, I have learned to be a man that treats his wife with unconditional love and respect. She often lets me know how grateful she is for my character with her. I also have three younger sisters that look up to me now for being the kind of man they intend to marry some day.

1760 Thomas Slawnyk June 19, 2011 at 9:59 am

My Dad always gifted tools to me and my brothers when we were growing up. He told us to “invest in good quality tools because they will last and serve you for a lifetime”. When we were kids, we didn’t care much for the tools or advice but today I am grateful for having a tool box full of good quality tools that I use almost daily. Thanks Dad!

1761 MB June 19, 2011 at 11:38 am

Always do your best!

1762 Timothy J. O'Driscoll June 19, 2011 at 12:20 pm

“The worst they can say is no and if you don’t ask, then the answer will always be no.”

1763 Timothy J. O'Driscoll June 19, 2011 at 12:21 pm

“Slow and steady wins the race.”

1764 Mike June 19, 2011 at 12:54 pm

In the game of love only one can play. If three play one will laugh and one will cry.

1765 Robert June 19, 2011 at 1:23 pm

If you’re going to be a big man at night, you’ve also got to be a big man in the morning!

1766 Nathan G. June 19, 2011 at 3:41 pm

When ever I would make a mistake die to rushing through something, Dad would always tell/ask me, “Why is there never enough time to do it right, but always enough time to do it over?” I never really appreciated it until I was in college, where I found I would get better results from really putting a solid effort into things, and paying a greater attention to detail. It is probably my favorite piece of advice to pass on to people younger than I am.

1767 Isaiah June 19, 2011 at 4:25 pm

On his deathbed, my father held my hand and told me, “Take care of your mother and don’t be afraid.” I was only four, but I have never forgotten those words.

1768 Alex Scheer June 19, 2011 at 4:27 pm

My step-father taught me that you can love a boy as your son even if he really isn’t.
I love you Dan.

1769 Brandon G June 19, 2011 at 5:05 pm

My dad was a carpenter, and I grew up working with him, so it was:

“Measure twice, cut once.” and a bonus: “Don’t cut off your fingers.”

I sure miss him. Every time I smell sawdust, a wave of memories hit me.

1770 JustinR June 19, 2011 at 5:09 pm

On women, “can’t live with em, can’t live without em”

1771 John June 19, 2011 at 5:41 pm

If you run, it will hurt more when I catch you!

1772 Mike Phelan June 19, 2011 at 5:49 pm

I am a Physician and was lucky enough to train under my Father in the Residency program. He used to say that when you are faced with a difficult situation and aren’t sure what to do, sometimes the best thing to do is “sit down and smoke a long cigar”, meaning give it a little more time and don’t act hastily. That goes right along with the “first of all, do no harm” portion of the Hippocratic oath. Some of my colleagues still quote him to this day!

1773 tj June 19, 2011 at 6:52 pm

A very sarcastic but humorous tru-ism my father has dispensed down to my brothers and I goes like this:

“you ain’t cheatin, you ain’t tryin.”

My father is a man of integrity and would never cheat on anything, what this actually means (he says) is that you can never try too hard, you can always give a little more.

1774 Derek Keener June 19, 2011 at 7:16 pm

One day, when I was around 8 or so, I was trying to put something together, like some Erector Set toy or something like that. And, like so many children, my hands acted as though I had 10 thumbs (and still seem that way most days). So after around an hour or so, I threw my toy across the room, screamed out, “I can’t!” and had a good cry for a couple minutes. My dad, upon hearing the crash of the recently bought toy for me, came in the room to see what the problem was. And so, through slurred speech and runny nose, I told him that I couldn’t put it together. Being the simple guy he was, he told me, “Now Derek, can’t never could.” Its taken me the better part of 20 years to really understand what he was trying to tell me, and this Father’s Day, the first since his passing 4 months ago, I thought I’d pass on this little jewel. Happy Father’s Day to all those dads out there, past, present, and future.

1775 Donna B. June 19, 2011 at 7:22 pm

My favorite Dadism to this day is “This will hurt me more than it’ll hurt you.” I never believed it, until I had my son.

1776 Emil Witt Behrmann June 19, 2011 at 8:04 pm

“I love you son”

1777 C W Hutchins June 19, 2011 at 8:31 pm

When it comes to anything in life don’t cheat. When you cheat you are cheating yourself. You cheat yourself of the self satisfaction of knowing you accomplished what you were doing within the rules. You cheat yourself of the self satisfaction of knowing you are equal to all those who came before you and those who will come after you.

1778 Jake June 19, 2011 at 9:13 pm

“You play the game with your hands, not your mouth.” – A piece of wisdom that my dad apparently got from his dad, and passed on to me. It was in reference to baseball, but it really applies any time that you’re spending too much time talking, and not enough doing.

1779 Dawn June 19, 2011 at 10:02 pm

Dad was a man of few words…..but always ended every conversation or every visit with “I Love You; you’re my little girl.” No matter how old I was getting…He always told me that he loved me…I was his little girl. He left us almost 3 years ago at the age of 82. Dad taught me to drive; to swing a bat; to fish. But most of all he made sure I knew that I was loved. Those few words meant the world to me and stayed with me my whole life…and I pass them on my own family….frequently.

1780 Alok Singh June 19, 2011 at 10:08 pm

My father said this to me after I got into a fight with some bullies who were harassing my brother and I got into trouble with my school zero tolerance policy. I felt terrible about being suspended for a week, so he said ” Son, there is a right and wrong time for everything. When it comes to fighting, whether physical or not,, the only time is to protect others and your own integrity. So don’t worry. So long as you know this, I’ll always support you in that decision.”

1781 Steven Taylor June 19, 2011 at 11:31 pm

If I have taught you anything about relationships, it is to not make the same mistakes I have made.

1782 Dave C. June 20, 2011 at 12:21 am

Don’t piss into the wind….met it literally and metaphorically

1783 P June 20, 2011 at 12:27 am

“Never put money down if you’ve never seen the other person play.”

1784 Jacob June 20, 2011 at 3:59 am

My dad always had a good one – Never give a woman a third chance to break your heart

1785 DB June 20, 2011 at 4:26 am

Nothing in life is free

1786 Dwayne Hatchett June 20, 2011 at 6:16 am

In regards to sickness/suffering my dad would say, “There are a lot of things in this life worse than dying.”

1787 Adam Benrud June 20, 2011 at 8:02 am

Whenever I asked my father why I should try so hard at “X, Y or Z”, 9 times out of 10 it was “The satisfaction in a job well done.” Cliche I know, but its pushed me forwards more times than I can count.

1788 Jason LaLone June 20, 2011 at 8:24 am

Father: “Pray for Wisdom”

1789 Leonard Birney June 20, 2011 at 8:30 am

My father was a man’s man. He grew up during the great depression, joined the Marines, fought in the Korean War, became a plumber, ran his own business and raised a family. He could build or fix anything. He loved his family intensely, especially his wife of 57 years who he always put first in his heart. He taught me how to live life properly, treat women with respect, be frugal with money, fire a rifle, fish, drive, be a good husband, work hard and trust God. He would help anyone in need however he could. The last word’s he said to me on his death bed a few hours before he died were ‘You are a fantastic person, do not ever forget that!’. He has been gone for three months now, and my life will never be the same. I Love and Miss you Dad!

1790 kevin June 20, 2011 at 8:35 am

“don’t bite your nails, you will look like an animal.”

1791 Kevin K June 20, 2011 at 9:42 am

If you are going to go… go! Don’t just go half way!

1792 Brian David O'Keefe June 20, 2011 at 10:12 am

“You’re only as good as your last game.” My dad would say this to me to make sure my I didn’t rest on my laurels after I had a good game in high school (in whatever sport and season it was at the time).

1793 The Concept Catalyst June 20, 2011 at 10:36 am

My Dad used to remind me, “The difference between hope and despair is a good nights rest.” It’s true, when you wake up after a good nights rest, your perspective will be more positive. In fact, you may have found the answer you’re looking for.

1794 John Felder June 20, 2011 at 11:03 am

“…You know what to do, and what we taught you, and the right way to do it, so go do it!…”

1795 Josh June 20, 2011 at 11:06 am

On getting promotions or something ‘unfair’ happening at work: “Keep your head down and do your work. Everything else will take care of itself.”

On everything else: “Use your head… it’s the little things that count!”

But the biggest thing was how my dad taught me to “put my name” on everything I did. He was a long time contractor before he got his job in the white collar workplace and worked himself up to an executive VP of a fortune 100 conglomerate. We would walk into a room we hadn’t been before and said “this electrician was a craftsman.” I looked at him puzzled, then he showed me that the screw on each plate… on the switches and the electric outlets were all parallel with the floor. He said you never overtighten those screws, and a craftsman will make sure they are all completely uniform. 99% of the world won’t know, but those that do show real appreciation…
As a developer, 99% of the people will never see my code, but those that do will see my ‘name’ on everything I code. I won’t tell you how… because that is part of it. I do it for me, knowing almost everyone won’t notice. But that extra effort gives you pride in your work.

1796 Kerwin W. June 20, 2011 at 12:12 pm

Always take care of your tools and they will always take care of you.

1797 Carey Murdock June 20, 2011 at 12:37 pm

I’m a songwriter and my band and I had this mini -fridge in our practice room that my family often borrowed on camping trips to the lake…. Well one of my pals stocked it slap full of Miller High Life cans. My family was going camping that weekend and my dad took the little fridge up to the lake and plugged it in next to the camper without ever looking inside of it. (He just isn’t a big fan of drinking).

Well I drove to the lake that night to be with my family and, sitting around the campfire, my Dad asked me to go get him a Coke out of the Fridge. I said “Sure Dad.”
When I opened the fridge door and saw all the Miller High Life my Dad had walked up behind me and said over my shoulder, “Son, I’m trying to keep this a dry county.”

1798 Edwin June 20, 2011 at 12:56 pm

invest while you’re young

1799 Jesse June 20, 2011 at 2:10 pm

On marriage. “Always bring home flowers when you can; you might be able to make up for the times when you forgot them”

1800 Derick T June 20, 2011 at 2:36 pm

On moving forward after a success:
“You can’t sail on yesterday’s wind.”

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