Tru-isms from Dad: The Char-Broil Quantum Infrared Grill Giveaway

by Brett & Kate McKay on June 14, 2011 · 1,852 comments

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Maybe your dad is like mine. He’s never been much for sitting me down for a formal meeting in order to dispense fatherly advice. Instead, he dishes it out in bits and pieces whenever the moment is right. I’ve racked up a catalog of these little tru-isms my dad has shared with me over the years. Yeah, a lot of them are cliche, but they’ve stuck with me because of the context in which they were imparted.

One that sticks out is the bit of advice my dad gave me after I totaled my first car. It happened just two weeks after I turned 16. Rear-ended a guy. Man, I took it hard. I didn’t go to school for two days because I felt so sorry for myself. I had taken my first steps towards freedom and independence, but in a matter of seconds I was back to relying on my parents to haul me around.

In the middle of one my pity parties, my dad just told me, “This too shall pass.”

And you know what? As simple as it sounds, his piece of cliche advice made me feel better. Now, whenever things get bad and I think they couldn’t get any worse, I hear my dad’s voice in my head saying, “This too shall pass.” And it always does.

In honor of Father’s Day and dads who dispense tru-isms about life, Char-Broil Grills wants to give one lucky AoM reader a Char-Broil Quantum® Infrared Outdoor Grill. Are you ready for a chance to win dad (or yourself) a present that knocks the socks off a “Kiss the Chef” apron? Keep on reading.

The Prize: Char-Broil Quantum® Infrared Outdoor Grill

Char-Broil has been helping dads be king of the grill since 1948. Throughout its 63 year existence, Char-Broil has been a leader and innovator in outdoor grilling. Char-Broil’s latest contribution the the world of outdoor grilling is their line of Infrared Gas Grills. Grills installed with Infrared technology allow grillmasters to cook at a wide range of temperatures with fewer flare-ups, all while using less gas. The result? Better tasting food, cooked efficiently and simply.

Char-Broil Grills wants to give one lucky Art of Manliness reader a Char-Broil Quantum® Infrared Outdoor Grill. This bad boy comes with four stainless steel burners that allow you to sear your steak with high,  intense heat or slow-cook a rack of ribs with a nice low heat. In addition to the main grill, the Quantum® Infrared Outdoor Grill comes with a Stovetop™ Sideburner, allowing you to cook things up in a skillet while you grill your meat. And getting the grill fired up is a breeze with Char-Broil’s Surefire™ electronic ignition system. This is a $575 grill and one man is going to walk away with it for free.

How to Enter to Win a Char-Broil Grill

Simply leave a comment below sharing a tru-ism your dad has dispensed to you. You know. Those sage words of advice that fathers pass on to their sons about life while driving in the car, fishing, or grilling meat.

Deadline to enter is Tuesday, June 21 at 11:59PM CDT. We’ll then randomly select one lucky winner. Enter today!

1601 Jim Langer June 16, 2011 at 9:47 pm

Always treat a gun like it’s loaded.

1602 Robert June 16, 2011 at 9:51 pm

He left when I was seven so I don’t remember many. “Promises are made to be broken” which I took to mean don’t promise anything you don’t intend to follow through on. To this day I don’t talk about or promise my family what I am going to do, I just do it.

1603 Rene June 16, 2011 at 9:52 pm

One Summer, while working with my dad, he saw me working my tail off trying to do my best. On our way home he just said: “Son, it is better to work smarter, not harder.”

1604 Kenneth Andrews June 16, 2011 at 9:56 pm

For me it was always “don’t sweat the small stuff.” It really put things into perspective the more you realize how much falls into that “small stuff” category. My dad taught me how to cope with life so much easier with that simple tru-ism.

1605 D "Dirk" C June 16, 2011 at 10:02 pm

Never judge a man by the shirt on his back.

1606 Kenny Sutherland June 16, 2011 at 10:03 pm

Measure twice, cut once, and have a plan to fix whatever you messed up in between.

1607 Chad June 16, 2011 at 10:07 pm

He would always say while I was misbehaving at a restaurant, “If you can’t behave, we’ll have to take you out until you can get it right”.

1608 Nick Estelle June 16, 2011 at 10:21 pm

I was nailed in the face by a soccer ball at a very early age, so I was afraid of the ball for most of my childhood. My Dad’s advice? “Grit your teeth and get in there. It will be done hurting when it stops.”
It didn’t make much sense at the time, but it’s helped me through many tough situations since then. Thanks, Dad.

1609 Jeremy June 16, 2011 at 10:58 pm

My dad taught me, “actions speak louder than words” and as I get older I continue to see the truth in that

1610 alex June 16, 2011 at 11:09 pm

buck up.

this will teach you to work with your brain, not your back – referencing my summers doing roofing (he did concrete through college)

optimism is the key,

and a slew of Abe Lincoln and Mark Twain quotes…

1611 Eric June 16, 2011 at 11:13 pm

My old man seldom gave advice that didn’t involve screaming, but I have something I intend to tell my son when he’s born in a couple of months. I don’t care if I win the grill, but here it is:

If you meet a man who tries to mount your hand when you shake it, or squeezes as hard as he can, just smile and shake it politely. That man is an asshole, and hand-humping you was probably the highlight of his day.

1612 Lex June 16, 2011 at 11:30 pm

Dad was big on table manners. When my brother and I started shoveling food into our mouths, he would emphatically state, “We’re not feeding horses!” Being from Queens, NY, we had never seen horses being fed, but the point was made.

While my first marriage was failing and I was trying to figure out how to handle my next move, he sat with me and said, “You’re your own man and I’ve never told you what to do. I will give you this advice, however. When you get gangrene, you cut off the limb to keep the body alive.” I don’t know where he came up with this stuff, but his tru-isms were, and still are, effective. Thanks Dad…and Happy Father’s Day, all.

1613 Spencer June 16, 2011 at 11:33 pm

In an argument with your wife, you may think you’re right, you may know you are right, it doesn’t matter, in the end–she’s right.

1614 Quinn June 16, 2011 at 11:34 pm

In high school, my dad would always wake me up in the morning with, “Reville, reville, another day in which to excel.” I couldn’t stand it at the time, but when attempting to make improvements in my life, I’m always reminded that I don’t have to wait for something special or big to jump start the necessary changes. Also, even though I may have a shitty day at work or in the gym, the next day is always available to do better.

1615 Matt Peveler June 17, 2011 at 12:00 am

“The courage to move on keeps you living” was what my dad said once when I felt like I was not where I should be in life.

1616 Thomas June 17, 2011 at 12:07 am

“Any beer is good beer as long as it’s not your beer.”

“Boy Scout Juice” (Diesel fuel)

1617 Nick June 17, 2011 at 12:08 am

My Dad would always say “There’s more than one way to skin a cat”. It didn’t make sense then, and it only slightly makes more sense now. Who are these people out there skinning cats anyway, and why do they need multiple approaches to a seemingly straightforward task?

1618 Matthew Wright June 17, 2011 at 12:33 am

My father has always told me that the fish rots from the head down…

1619 W. Hunter Wojohn June 17, 2011 at 12:55 am

Always remember your last name and who’s carried it before you.

1620 Matt June 17, 2011 at 1:08 am

Always open as many doors as you can and let someone else close them.

1621 Levi Haag June 17, 2011 at 1:27 am

My father taught me that somedays you eat the bear, and somedays the bear eats you

1622 Daniel Hoffman June 17, 2011 at 1:32 am

“If you walk through a stable, you’ll step in shit!”

1623 Andrew June 17, 2011 at 1:45 am

“Always treat someone like a million bucks.”

1624 chris irwin June 17, 2011 at 1:47 am

My dad always told me to never make excuses. Excuses are like a- holes. Everybody has one and they are usually sh**ty. Just own up to what I did. He also told me if I do what I think is right, I would have no problem defending what I did, even if I turned out to be wrong.

1625 Habib June 17, 2011 at 6:04 am

-One thing my father mentioned was to never judge a person by how they look, how they look on the external is not always a indicator of the internal wealth or material wealth.
- he told me regarding being married, try as you want, you will never fully/ completely understand woman i.e. your wife, but you will never be able to live without them.
I look back and am grateful that he spend the time to teach me lessons in the art of manliness

1626 ben Wansley June 17, 2011 at 6:09 am

Never miss a good opportunity to shut up. Normally said right before I put my foot in my mouth.

1627 Scott June 17, 2011 at 7:04 am

Don’t slam the door!

1628 The Doctor June 17, 2011 at 7:25 am

My father used to say to me “If you cheat a man out of a nickel, you’ll lose a dollar.” When those times came in my life when I was less than honest in my dealings with others I have seen that it is, indeed, true. Whether it be dealing with a friend and losing the friendship, or in monetary manners, it IS true.

Thanks, Dad.

1629 Jay June 17, 2011 at 7:51 am

“If you can’t take it, then don’t dish it out”
Never knew what it meant as a kid, but have used it several time with my kids when they are messin’ with each other.

1630 Matthew Wells June 17, 2011 at 8:07 am

If you are going to do something, do it right the first time, or I will make you do it again!

1631 Chris June 17, 2011 at 8:09 am

When a mistake is made (when people used to write by hand): “Erase completely”

1632 Andres June 17, 2011 at 8:45 am

“ALWAYS wear a condom” o_O thanks DAD.

1633 Jeff Vidrine June 17, 2011 at 8:45 am

“If you go out with the boys, you’ve got to get up like a man.” Dad’s favorite aphorism pronounced at 6 am the morning after a late night. This sage advice, served up in Dad’s redneck drawl, has served me well by motivating me to this day.

1634 Robert Leiby June 17, 2011 at 8:47 am

Live each day as if it were your last.

Truer words were never spoken. This little truism has really helped me get the most out of life over the years, and to also enjoy the little things, because you never know what lies down the road.

1635 Jim June 17, 2011 at 9:09 am

Never mess with a man’s wife, job or car.

1636 Kent June 17, 2011 at 9:18 am

“If it’s got tires or tits it’ll give you trouble”

1637 Kevin Hoxie June 17, 2011 at 9:20 am

Measure twice, cut once.

1638 Bruno June 17, 2011 at 9:25 am

“If you’ve got a problem, solve it.”

1639 Joe Redgrave June 17, 2011 at 9:26 am

Don’t rely on anyone but yourself, I’m not going to be around forever.

1640 Gerry June 17, 2011 at 9:54 am

I am the 9th child in a family of 10 kids. Dad always told us “if you see some garabage on the ground or something out of place, take care of it”. He probably did this so that our house wasn’t a trash heap. I also belived he wanted us to know that it is your job to take care of your own life and don’t assume that someone else is going to take care of things.

1641 PuterPrsn June 17, 2011 at 10:06 am

Sort the screws BEFORE you start your project.

1642 Kent Goodier II June 17, 2011 at 10:16 am

Take everything in life in moderation.

1643 Christopher June 17, 2011 at 10:23 am

If mom isn’t happy, nobody is happy.

1644 Pat McCourt June 17, 2011 at 10:32 am

“A place for everything and everything in it’s place.”

When he first uttered it, I was a messy five year old kid, so, naturally, I thought it was just a silly way of saying “clean your room.” As I’ve gotten older, though, I’ve discovered it’s value as a figurative expression and have come to appreciate its depth. What’s more, my dad recently told me that it had been a favorite expression of his father’s, who died when my dad was only a boy. So as valuable as it’s been on its own merits, it means even more knowing that its wisdom has connected me to a great man I never got to meet. Happy Father’s Day.

1645 Mike June 17, 2011 at 10:56 am

Commenting on a longstanding relationship, Dad took me aside and said ” son, if she were a car you were test driving, they’d make you bring her back for new tires by now”.

1646 Randy Crenshaw June 17, 2011 at 10:56 am

No one one else will do “it” but you.

1647 Heath June 17, 2011 at 11:24 am

Paying for something yourself triples the value.

1648 Jamie Baker June 17, 2011 at 11:26 am

My father taught me that there are no entitlements in life. You need to work for what you want.

1649 David Peck June 17, 2011 at 11:33 am

Throughout my life, whether the situation was good, bad, or ugly, my dad would always say that you’ve got to “take what the game gives you.”

1650 Jayson Anderson June 17, 2011 at 11:48 am

“Work hard and do your best” Simple and easy to live by.

I have a great dad! I’m so blessed that he was not a “cats in the cradle” father.

1651 Bill June 17, 2011 at 11:48 am

Like many my Dad, who was very handy, gifted me with measure twice/cut once, buy the best quality you can afford, and if it’s worth doing it’s worth doing right.

Here is another from my Dad: “Character is doing the right thing when no one is watching.”

Tough to conform to and forces you to consider the motives of your public actions – but when followed, satisfying at a deep level in so many aspects of life.

1652 bMac June 17, 2011 at 11:48 am

My Dad and I went up to our cottage together late one season, ostensibly to take some extra furniture there to leave, but really because Dad knew his heart was not in good shape, and he wanted to visit his brother and friends who had a traditional hunt club down the river from our place. Dad was a teacher and principal who could never get away for hunting season, but he needed to make this trip. I was 15 at the time and just getting into my serious rebellion years, listening to rock ‘n roll and letting my hair grow out. I can remember sitting next to him as we drove along the 401 in the dark, and he told me that I should do all things in moderation…. follow the middle ground… don’t go to extremes.
Over the years, even though I didn’t always follow his advice, that trip, and those words have resonated strongly with me. My Dad died two months later. He left me some good advice… and a wonderful love for the Ottawa Valley that I will cherish forever.

1653 Brian Hermann June 17, 2011 at 11:51 am

“Stop picking on your sisters.”

1654 Jonathan Slonim June 17, 2011 at 12:00 pm

Work as hard at home as you do when you’re getting paid.

1655 Jeffrey J. Steinberg June 17, 2011 at 12:10 pm

One of the lessons of history is that Nothing is often a good thing to do and always a clever thing to say.

1656 Jonathan Slonim June 17, 2011 at 12:12 pm

I forgot another good one: “Lift with your legs, not your back.”

1657 Ronald Squire June 17, 2011 at 12:20 pm

In regards to my wedding and upcoming marriage…

“Learn these two phrases my son and your life will be much happier…Honey, You’re right & I’m sorry. Trust me”.

1658 Sterling Woody June 17, 2011 at 12:38 pm

Whenever I share with my Dad a dilemna or situation that I need some advice or help with, he will always start and end the conversation with these words, “This a good problem.” It has made me view most situations from an optimistic viewpoint and have the confidence to know that the results will be “good”.

1659 Jesse June 17, 2011 at 1:01 pm

Whenever I looked tired and/or frustrated:
“Boy, you look like you’ve been rode hard and put up wet.”

1660 Josh June 17, 2011 at 1:21 pm

My dad always told me, don’t squish the burgers onto the grill and let the steak rest in its own juices. All the rest came in time. Kudos, Pop!

1661 Meredith June 17, 2011 at 1:27 pm

Yesterday at the US Open I told my Dad and sister that I entered him into this contest. My sister said “did you use the putt it past the hole one?”

Apparently it’s her most memorable dad-ism too!

1662 Ed K. June 17, 2011 at 1:30 pm

After being married for 26 years, the one that has stuck in my mind was his advice before the wedding.”Son, if you do this, no matter how mad you get, she won’t go back home and you can’t make her.”

1663 Eric Peterson June 17, 2011 at 1:56 pm

About women:
“pick your crazy”
“women are like food the best are worth every penny”
“tits are like the sun, they brighten your day but if you stare, you are gonna end up hurt”

1664 Eric Peterson June 17, 2011 at 2:04 pm

About driving
“always race for second place. That way you can laugh your way over the finish line while they get a ticket”
“hey numbskull brake into the damn turn! Accelerate out!”

1665 Eric Peterson June 17, 2011 at 2:15 pm

Random:
“live like you want to”
“if you cook I’ll do the dishes…. What? No you can’t cook you’d burn water!”
“watching you play pool is like watching bad baseball in a gay bar”
“never grow up”
“when you grow up be mature and thoughtful. Who am I kidding! When you grow up have fun in everything you do”

1666 Ron Schwieters June 17, 2011 at 2:28 pm

Once you join the Military . You are goverment property. That’s it.

1667 Charles June 17, 2011 at 2:40 pm

I got married a little under a year ago now, and I remember a conversation I had with my dad a few weeks before the wedding in his sun room. I was telling him about how I was worried I wasn’t going to be able to provide everything that she wanted these next few years as we finish out undergrad and grad school. He looked over at me and said, “Son, marriage is not about buying her all the fancy crap she could ever want or need. To keep her happy, she needs to feel wanted and know that you spend time with her, and that you use whatever size your budget is to do things for her.” I know I have only been married close to a year, but these words still meant a lot and have reminded me to take care of my wife and my marriage everyday.

1668 James Ekleberry June 17, 2011 at 2:41 pm

On the way to my freshman year of college, my Dad took the opportunity to impart some true wisdom:
“If your going into battle, wear a helmet.”

1669 Sam B June 17, 2011 at 2:53 pm

Only boring people get bored. In truth being bored means you are sulking because you are not getting to do what you want.

1670 Todd B June 17, 2011 at 2:57 pm

Dad always told me “Don’t be too nice because people will take advantage of you.”

1671 hans M June 17, 2011 at 3:21 pm

When I was getting married:

Son, in his serious tone ” a happy wife means a happy home” remember that…”

1672 Michael Weissman June 17, 2011 at 3:27 pm

My father once told me that “sometimes, it’s not always about the dollar. Don’t worry so much about the price if it’s something that will make a memory forever.” Funny thing is, that memory was free.

1673 Dan June 17, 2011 at 3:39 pm

The story goes: When i was a little boy I came up to my mother and asked her a question about how something worked.
Mom: “I’m not really sure, why don’t you go ask your father?”
Me: “I didn’t want to know that much about it.”

1674 Dan June 17, 2011 at 3:41 pm

Dad’s advice on getting married: “Make sure you find the right woman. Marriage is something you only do 2 or 3 times in your lifetime.”

1675 Eddie June 17, 2011 at 3:49 pm

“I’d rather be an idiot for five minutes than be an idiot for a lifetime.” – My dad on why one should never be afraid to ask anything.

1676 albert June 17, 2011 at 3:51 pm

Dad was a politician and he always said to me “Son, don’t go into politics, you’re
too honest!

1677 MIchael June 17, 2011 at 3:59 pm

One evening, when I was in my early twenties, I met a girl whom I very much liked being around. At the end of the evening she kissed me, and I thought, “hey! this could be going somewhere.”

When I tried getting in touch with her, she blew me off which left me in the dumps. It also made me resentful of her for, what I felt was toying with me. A fatherly figure in my life told me, “remember this: a kiss is just a kiss.” while it seems trite, at the time, it was exactly what I needed to hear. I didn’t know what was going on with her at the time; maybe she was involved with someone else, or maybe she was not in a position to develop a relationship with someone. Regardless, she could have been doing what seemed appropriate at the time; we enjoyed each others company and she just felt like kissing me. At the same time, kissing me did not obligate her to anything else.

This little nugget stayed with me, as I learned to learned to be more open with women about what I wanted from the relationships. It turned out they had a hard time being open about it as well. If they were immature or not in a good spot, then they wouldn’t know what they wanted. As a result, I knew not to get too involved with them, they would ditch me the minute something else piqued their interest. By finding ones who knew what they wanted and what we had in common, I was able to build relationships with women that actually amounted to something. And all of that grew from a small piece of wisdom: “Remember this: a kiss is just a kiss.”

1678 Neal C June 17, 2011 at 4:05 pm

After breaking up with a serious girlfriend in college my dad told me, “Son, women are like buses. If you miss one, another will be by in a minute.”

1679 Baron Smith June 17, 2011 at 4:39 pm

My dad always said, “if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing it right.”

1680 Brian June 17, 2011 at 4:48 pm

“No one ever looked smart when they were yelling.”- A phrase my Dad said one day that has stuck with me over the years, think about it a minute and you’ll find its true.

1681 Benjamin N June 17, 2011 at 4:59 pm

My dad gave me a lot of great advice through my troubled teenage years. The best advice he ever gave me was simple and concise – “Make a plan, then stick to it.” It’s advice that I’ve applied to everything, from finances to school to lifestyle goals, and I don’t know where I’d be without my ability to plan and succeed. Thanks, dad.

1682 djelking June 17, 2011 at 6:21 pm

“if it don’t fit, make it fit”

1683 William P June 17, 2011 at 6:47 pm

My father passed away 16 years ago last week. The most important thing I learned from the short time I had with him, was family first. He died in a car accident on the way to help his grandfather out.

1684 Geoff June 17, 2011 at 6:52 pm

“It is better to keep your mouth shut and be perceived as ignorant than open it and remove all doubt.”

1685 Rob June 17, 2011 at 7:10 pm

“There are two kinds of people in this world: The quick & the buried”

1686 Zack Engles June 17, 2011 at 7:46 pm

My dad always says be a true man lik in the old days not a wanna be man in todays world.

1687 Matt June 17, 2011 at 7:53 pm

The best tru-ism that my dad ever gave me was, “Once you own a piece of land you know you really have something. Because they aren’t making any more of it.”

This always stuck with me. I had never thought of land and owning a home as a truly special thing till I was imparted with this wisdom at a young and impressionable age. When my wife an I were able to buy our first home 2 years ago I was ecstatic with the thought of owning something that was of true value.

1688 chris June 17, 2011 at 8:12 pm

“Lefty loosey, righty tighty.”

Served me well until I started working on my bicycle’s bottom bracket.

1689 Randy Tabler June 17, 2011 at 8:18 pm

If you see a job, its your job

1690 Jim June 17, 2011 at 8:20 pm

My dad always says “Six and one-half dozen the other”

1691 Nick June 17, 2011 at 8:21 pm

My dad, being a carpenter, always said “Measure twice, cut once.” I often find I measure twice, cut once, curse multiple times, measure again, and cut again.

1692 Sunny June 17, 2011 at 8:23 pm

One of my father’s favorites is don’t count your chickens until they hatch

1693 Anthony June 17, 2011 at 8:24 pm

My father has told me many tru-isms while growing up. The one that has stuck the most is, “Son, there are those who wait, and those who go. Which one will you be?”

He told me this when I was learning to drive a car at 15 years old. It has become one of those tru-isms that has applied to so many situations over the years. It is something I will never forget. I will pass it on to my own children when the day comes.

1694 Matthew June 17, 2011 at 8:51 pm

If you want it, you have to work for it.

1695 DanB June 17, 2011 at 9:14 pm

Two things have stuck with me.
For a good period of his life, my Dad jumped out of airplanes (at the direction of the US Army) for a living. When I told him, in my college years, I was going to go skydiving, he first asked “How are you going to pay for it?” (Fiscal responsibility took more than one lesson, I’m afraid.)
After I told him my plan, he just said, “Roll when you hit.”
The “Roll when you hit”, was great advice for many things. Life has obstacles, life has jarring events. You can roll through them, if you just maintain your momentum, and stay focused.

1696 Caleb June 17, 2011 at 9:38 pm

It might be the easy way, but it isnt the cowboy way.

1697 Justin June 17, 2011 at 9:41 pm

When dad found out that I was going to have my first child, he told me not to worry if I had moments before the birth that I wasn’t going to be a good dad because when my child was born I would know what to do. He was right, it only took seeing my new daughter to know that I was her dad and that being a dad meant everything to me.

Miss you dad, happy father’s day!

1698 V. F. June 17, 2011 at 9:50 pm

“Keep your independence in life, especially your career. Otherwise you are simply being taken advantage of by others.”

I do not think he meant this in a strict way, but keeping this in mind has helped me as I choose the places I work in preparation for running my own operation later in life.

1699 Chuck June 17, 2011 at 10:00 pm

Two things my dad said were “Always be on time” and “Who cares what anyone else thinks? But the biggest lesson I got from him was not something he said but what he did. If something needed doing, he just did it. No talking about getting this or that done at some point. He just went and did it.

1700 Rohan June 17, 2011 at 10:07 pm

My Dad always used to always push me to better at whatever I did, school, sports, even driving when I was a kid and I used to get pretty mad at him for ragging on me all of the time.

Then the day after my 17th birthday while we were driving to the airport he said to me “I know you think I’m being hard on you, but its only because I care. Remember that I’m only hard on you because I care about u=you and want to be the best. When someone stops ragging on you to do better it means that they’ve given up on yow and just don’t care anymore.”

I never forgot that.

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