Comments on: A Man’s Guide to Pregnancy: How to Take Care of a Pregnant Wife

By: FeatherBlade

FeatherBlade — Tue, 26 Mar 2013 03:00:47 +0000

C.M.B – your girlfriend “got pregnant”? All by herself?

A good first step would be to take responsibility for your part in her pregnancy. A good second step would be to coordinate with her and her parents on how you are going to support her during the pregnancy and after the kid is born.

You need to finish school and find work. If you have any interest in building trades, you can get paid apprenticeships and work that pays better than most anything that a college degree offers.

Time to step up and be a man. It’s a bit earlier than most of your peers, but men your age have been taking care of their women and children for millennia. You can do it.

By: T.Y.K

T.Y.K — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 09:41:12 +0000

C.M.B. It’s not complicated, just have a good attitude. Think about how you would feel if you were your girlfriend, and be kind and considerate. It’s all about attitude.

By: C.M.B

C.M.B — Thu, 21 Mar 2013 13:46:58 +0000

okay um so I’m 17 and my girlfriend recently got pregnant and I have absolutely no idea what to do and I’m panicking and freaking out so badly, not to mention scared and still in shock. if anyone has any advice on what I should do apart from what this article says ( which I also have taken into account ) could you please reply to this or send me to another website that could help ? I need as much help and advice as possible. note that my girlfriend and I do not live together just yet because of our age, but I am with her almost every day. thank you in advance !! I really need help on this :(

By: Joel

Joel — Tue, 12 Mar 2013 05:15:15 +0000

@PinUpGirl, why are you marrying this dude?

@Mark, some of us still believe in marriage. The advice is about taking care of a pregnant wife. If you want to find articles about how to take care of a pregnant “partner,” I’m sure Google can help you out.

Great article. My wife and I are at 7 weeks and I am loving learning all I can! Hope to find more useful information on here.

By: Tara

Tara — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 23:31:02 +0000

I fervently wish my other half would have found this site, not just for me but also for his ex wife during her pregnancies, because your initial list of things to do has yet to happen for me and never happened for her…he’s gone so far as to ban me from having a pillow to sleep with for support because it interferes with his comfort…i wish you could have a face to face chat with him…thank youfor this site though its wonderful to see someone trying to guide men through this process.

By: Marise

Marise — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:53:27 +0000

who ever has a man that does half these things is a very fortunate woman!

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 26 Feb 2013 02:27:23 +0000

Eh, is it not a little close – minded to write this piece about helping a pregnant ‘wife’?

A growing number of people no longer believe in marriage. Maybe it is the church scandals, the incredibly high level of divorce or maybe even the decreasing spiritualism in society.

Way to show you’re modern men….let’s all go back to the 1950s….if a woman is pregnant, she better be someone’s wife.

By: SG

SG — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 08:00:18 +0000

I am amazed at this article and most of the comments. I am truly happy to see there are good, caring men out there! Unfortunately, I didn’t see my husband in any of this. He slept through most of my labor, when I was in tears from pain and terrified. When I got upset with him he just yelled. He left for hours after she was born, late at night, and I couldn’t get ahold of him. He said I complained to much, and that there was, “always something wrong with me”, when morning sickness hit hard. He refused to help out with the few cravings I did have, and told me I was selfish. Never once told me I was beautiful, and actually rejected any sort of intimacy. If I was uncomfortable, or couldn’t sleep- I would be scolded for annoying him. And last but not least, when I slacked on home-making duties due to severe morning sickness I was told I was lazy and all I did was sit on my a$$.

You don’t have to bend over backwards, you don’t have to be perfect- just be there.

By: PinUpGirl

PinUpGirl — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 14:41:06 +0000

Great article! I’m 37 weeks & my fiance never really did any of those things you listed! He went to two sonograms. I was at high risk during me 23rd week & I spent that day in the hospital alone because he was too hungover to accompany me.
I do all the household chores, still bend, lift & put my own shoes on. I have been pushed off to the couch because my aches keep him up at night. I have never gotten a foot or back rub and am in a lot of discomfort. If I have a midnight craving or am hungry I have to make it myself, swollen feet and all. Can’t forget to get him something while I am at it or he will bitch.
All these women who have received good treatment, be so thankful. I’m 23 & this is my first child & my whole pregnancy has been so lonely & very tough. He always makes fun of me because of my baby belly calling me a whale even though I’m in perfect shape for being as far along as I am, I was thin to begin & caring like everyone elsem
I can’t wait until the baby is born, I don’t think I ever want to experience pregnancy again……..

By: Chasnew22

Chasnew22 — Sun, 25 Nov 2012 19:15:36 +0000

@nathan – my wife miscarried once before and after reading your question we discussed what would be the most comforting for her to hear when she is pregnant again. She answered that above all else be genuine with her. Acknowledge that while there is no way of predicting what will happen, you are going to do everything in your power to prevent it from happening again. Talk to your doctor about any safety precautions that can be taken and make them happen. Finally, be there for each other, someones your presence can alleviate much of her stress.

Good luck with everything and thank you everyone for all of the great advice!