Comments on: Don’t Should All Over Yourself

By: Matt Whitney

Matt Whitney — Sat, 18 May 2013 02:18:27 +0000

Brett,
Thanks for everything you do. Your articles always inspire me and this one is no different. Hearing a wise man telling me it’s okay to say no and not do what I “Should” all the time is freeing.

By: Daniel Rojas

Daniel Rojas — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 03:07:15 +0000

Hey Brett, you were a superb student even if you did not liked what you study.

Congratulations for the posts and the website.

By: Wayne

Wayne — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:12:50 +0000

Brett,

Thanks so much for the inspiration. I reached a point of my life where I struggle with the exact situation and your blog allowed me to identify with my feelings. Now I can formulate a plan for myself to “choose” my course in life. Many Many Thanks

By: Daniel

Daniel — Sun, 17 Feb 2013 10:43:08 +0000

Great article, I see so many men my age (mid twenties) should themselves into terrible jobs and even worse relationships (myself included). It wasn’t until I stopped doing what I thought others wanted me to do that I started being happy with my adult life. You might want to add a prequel article about teaching your son/daughter to learn choose over should at a younger age to help facilitate their transition to adulthood.

By: GENE

GENE — Wed, 13 Feb 2013 13:36:09 +0000

Thank you for the great article. We all at some time or other compromise ourselves getting lost in the toll of should and not reaping the rewards of the could. Each day the price of should mounts up if not checked into what could of been in a more self empowered life of gratitude without servitude to what does not gratify your state of self esteem of being.

By: jimmy

jimmy — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 17:31:22 +0000

Great piece and for those who want to delve deeper check out Daniel Levinson’s ‘Season’s of a man’s life’. Among other things it contains a warning as to what can happen at mid-life when you’ve been driven by the ‘should monster’. For me this is about value systems. Either you live by your own or someone else’s. Each has it’s own consequences.

By: RQ

RQ — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 16:05:18 +0000

Wow, after writing a personal journal entry asking myself what I’m doing with my life, this post couldn’t have come at a better time. Thanks so much for sharing!

By: Father Muskrat

Father Muskrat — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 19:51:39 +0000

Great read!

By: James McKnight

James McKnight — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 15:43:38 +0000

Thank you. This has eased my mind greatly. I am currently denying a job and scholarship for a Master’s in Counseling that my family thinks I “should” take; however, I am going to choose what I want to do and apply for mission trips with an organization or to go out and search and find myself, even though it is risky. Today I am a man.

By: letgoletlive

letgoletlive — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:32:31 +0000

Hi Brett,

Great article. It was just what I needed to hear today. I made a choice yesterday that was the right thing to do and it made me feel great. I knew it wasn’t what I should do. I spoke with others who said I shouldn’t have. I had to make a choice or just should. There was a time when my vocabulary consisted of shoulds, woulds and coulds. It was pointed out to me and I began to take notice of how frequently I said these words. Now, when I am about to say them I think to myself, “Shoulda, woulda, coulda. I shoulded all over myself today.” You might have to say it out loud to get it.