Comments on: The Art of Conversation

By: maia

maia — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 23:55:30 +0000

you think it’s bad not being able to memorise people’s names? I can’t remember people’s faces – even if i work with them, at most half i will remember! and i’m a bit deaf – saying ‘can you repeat that?’ after ever sentence is a 100% conversation killer, but not hearing half of it is a slower one:( Nor can i be natural – i never feel natural in company, not due to shyness but embarrassment and self-consciousness. And i’m female, so everyone expects me to be good at it – men especially can’t bear talking to me, most women will make the extra effort cos they’re used to it. Which is fine, as i like female friends best, except when it comes to the other half of life, so to speak.

By: Stefani

Stefani — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 18:24:28 +0000

I personally thought this article was interesting. I seriously feel that women need to read this article to learn how to speak to people. Many women do not know how to start conversations at parties, which makes them look somewhat bitchy. Many men are very good at conversation starters, and do the many “Do’s” in this article. Then again it all depends who you are speaking with. Listening is key when a man is speaking to a woman, but too much listening can get you in trouble. I think sometimes interrupting a women is a good thing, so she knows you are actually paying attention. I believe overall this was a good reading, and also good advice.

By: Andrew B.

Andrew B. — Sun, 14 Oct 2012 02:45:24 +0000

I’m only in Junior High and I thought this was a great article. I’m usually not very good at conversation, so this helped me a lot.

By: Anthony

Anthony — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 14:47:03 +0000

The article is concise and thoughtful. Additionally when speaking in a small group it is best to make eye contact with everyone occasionally in a manner that is smoothly natural comfortably brief; either from side to side or inside-out and visa versa. Its a great way engage a group or command a presentation.

By: Jarek

Jarek — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 14:39:28 +0000

Hey!
That’s my first comment here, although I have read some articles before. This one is truly a great one! The art of conversation is one of the most important, yet one that is quite usually forgotten by many. Reading your post is a great reminder though and following those rules is a great way to enhance your relationships! Thanks for that!

By: Chris Cummins

Chris Cummins — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 00:34:11 +0000

That secret of charming people with your words is not use words but silence and questions that build from what they are saying. The greatest conversationalists that charm the most people rarely say much about themselves. Also, practice curiosity as a habit in your private life AND personal life. If something intrigues you, stop and spend some time with it. Read books on a variety of topics, build relationships with people outside of your comfort zone. You build your ability to engage with others by inquisitiveness about life.

By: Joshua Streeter

Joshua Streeter — Mon, 24 Sep 2012 18:37:19 +0000

Great article. Quite a few pointers to add to my conversational repertoire. One question though, why “Act genuinely interested…”? Why not “Be genuinely interested…”?

I’ll pass this article on, as I’m sure many will find the information very useful. Much more in depth than the simple, “God gave you one mouth and two ears,” that we’ve heard since we were born.

By: ken

ken — Mon, 24 Sep 2012 16:38:36 +0000

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By: Jovan Nguyen

Jovan Nguyen — Wed, 20 Oct 2010 01:44:48 +0000

Useful things I do when in a conversation: eye contact, listen, talk humor, smile, be polite, be open-minded, don’t be a douche critic.

A useful thing I do before engaging in conversations at a party: smoke weed.

If I don’t want to talk to mediocre idiots, I walk away. I win.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 17:44:41 +0000

The most admirable conversationalists I know are the ones that don’t say much, but when they speak, it’s worth hearing. It’s better to speak less and say more.