Comments on: The Duties of the Best Man http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/ Men's Interests and Lifestyle Mon, 20 May 2013 16:49:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: knom http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-383795 knom Mon, 29 Apr 2013 16:16:09 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-383795 Interesting twist, could use some advice….
My best friend of 10 yrs will be getting engaged soon, and will probably ask me to serve as BM at the wedding.
Problem is, after 10 yrs of being best friends, he has spent the past year barely speaking to me. He has done and said things that have betrayed our trust and our friendship. I’d have gone through anything for him, but this has really torn me apart.
Your first reaction is that she’s controlling him – except in this case, she actually wants him to spend more time with me (as she wants to spend time with her own friends also). Really, it’s not her – it’s HIM. He’s changed and our friendship is pretty much gone.
Still, he will most likely ask me to be BM, and honestly I just don’t have it in me. Yes I want him to be happy and I wish them both the best, but other than that I could really care less. The best man is supposed to be someone close, someone you respect, someone you would trust with the most important day of your life. I don’t fit that description for him anymore.
I came here looking for answers to “what is a best man?” so I might know how to respond if he asks. Anyone else ever BM’d when they felt they shouldn’t? Do I suck it up and fake it, or decline and throw away whatever chance of friendship might be left?

By the way, some great posts, I’ve been BMx2 and the advice is dead-on.

]]> By: MAMAH CYRIL http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-379553 MAMAH CYRIL Sat, 20 Apr 2013 03:38:08 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-379553 I’m gonna be a bestman for the first time tomorrow.it will be fun

]]> By: Jay http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-350481 Jay Mon, 18 Mar 2013 21:13:55 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-350481 I am right in the middle of it all right now. As the best man to my best friend for over 27 years. The wedding is this coming weekend and up until now things are going pretty smooth. The only advice i have up to this point is get to know the bride well enough that she also has faith in you. You are the one she needs to talk to and organize things with as the groom is usually out of the loop on some things. Also as she is getting ready at the ceremony you will be the go to guy for her as well. As most weddings the ladies all stay hidden away until the last minute and the groom can’t see her in her dress. Take on any stress from both the bride and groom the whole day. And remember if you get married there is a good chance your groom today may be your bestman tomorrow so set the bar high lol.

]]> By: Cody http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-317940 Cody Thu, 24 Jan 2013 02:56:42 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-317940 I’m really glad i found this site, i’ve bookmarked it already lol
i’m going to be the best man at my friend’s wedding, and i’m really worried about the speech
i suck at public speaking =/

]]> By: Prince http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-315427 Prince Fri, 18 Jan 2013 14:13:12 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-315427 It was my brother”s weddn whr I wrkd as a best..i think relatively things were properly done before the wedding ceremony…since it was my first time to be acted as a best man..The kind of pressure I received was not easy but then all in all I also experiencing the role of a best man…As I’m speaking right now a friend is also doing wedding and as such I’m doing possible best to work intensively in order to make it success..

]]> By: James http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-306773 James Tue, 08 Jan 2013 02:32:19 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-306773 This is awesome! I’ve been the best man once before for my brother but have now been asked to be best man for a best friend. I am older now and feel like I should be more responsible, so this was helpful… thanks for the tips!

]]> By: C. Wilson http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-306667 C. Wilson Mon, 07 Jan 2013 17:20:03 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-306667 When I was asked to be the Best Man I had no idea what was expected of me. This was the biggest help and the guide line for the speech very helpful. This pasted weekend the wedding went off if out any troubles. Thank you in behalf of Mr. & Mrs. Furey

]]> By: rezaldon http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-306365 rezaldon Fri, 04 Jan 2013 14:54:07 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-306365 great post Gents! love it. the strippers are a no go, i will be the BM in September this year for 1 of my very best mates from school, and feel very beefed up with info now. thanks!!!

]]> By: spud hughes http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-283598 spud hughes Wed, 14 Nov 2012 00:11:06 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-283598 does any one know the history of the photo of the two men in the office, I had to look twice, the guy on the left looks just like me.

]]> By: Donna Williams http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/22/the-duties-of-the-best-man/comment-page-1/#comment-279810 Donna Williams Tue, 30 Oct 2012 21:19:23 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=10795#comment-279810 One of the duties is to look after the ushers, and help them with their roles if they require it.

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