Comments on: What to Carry on a First Date: The Gentleman’s Arsenal

By: Dustin M. Wyatt

Dustin M. Wyatt — Sat, 25 May 2013 03:48:16 +0000

I think it’s entertaining to read things like this, and the comments they tend to garner, but ultimately the manliest thing to do is to just be yourself. If you don’t normally wear a sports coat or carry a hanky, it’s a little disingenuous to start carrying one just to impress your date.

Whether or not to carry a firearm is one of those things, again, that comes down to your typical habits. If you CCW everyday, then a firearm shouldn’t be a big deal… just understand that its unexpected discovery mid-date might freak her out, and bring an abrupt end to the date. It might not be a bad idea to invest in an under-the-seat lock-box, to stash it in during your date, if you carry every day.

This is my take on the condom thing. You need to make a choice. If sex is a hardcore no-go, and you’re committed to that fact, then you can skip out on protection for something that isn’t going to happen. If you don’t have a hardcore conviction that sex isn’t a possibility; then you owe both her and yourself enough respect and consideration to have protection in case you both decide to take it to that level.

I would question the emotional maturity of any modern individual, whether male or female, who made assumptions about the fact that someone possesses condoms. You wouldn’t assume that someone that owns a fire extinguisher intends to set their house on fire, or that someone with seat belts in their car intends to crash.

By: Matt

Matt — Thu, 18 Apr 2013 09:20:51 +0000

I think there is some major confusion about the whole condom ordeal. There is nothing wrong with always having condoms around, not my thing but its better than not using one and it certianly better than those horrible responses to the condom questions like “let me run to the store” or “No…goodnight, bye”.
But there is a way to have condoms. You can keep one in a jacket pocket or somewhere in the car, like that pocket behind the seat. Or some side compartment, do not put them in the glove box or middle compartment. See? Those are ways to have condoms. What you don’t want to do is be that guy with the magnum condom peaking out from the wallet or have it some other place where your date will obviously see it. Its a shallow move that anyone can see right through.

By: Chris

Chris — Sat, 09 Feb 2013 01:16:23 +0000

The Condom Debate. I offer a challenge and a solution, do NOT have sex outside of marriage. I took and intend to keep taking this approach. As a result all of my ex-girlfriends and even my ex-wife respect me. Some of them have even intimated that they respect me more than their husbands because I held out. Many concepts of manliness are tide to discipline and self control. This solution offers both and has the bonus of building a two way street of respect.

By: Gerald

Gerald — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 02:12:52 +0000

Just read the old comments…

Are there really people packing heat for a first date? In which warzone is the datespot?

Gun yes… but condom no.. if she wants to seduce on first date you just pull out the gun…or what?

anyway..

“Perhaps, I am just seeing the wrong girls. Perhaps, the quality of girls–or their teaching, rather–has declined.”

It has, “women” under 30 today suffer often the same problem as men. They are just older children, and its not a white trash only problem.
But just dont try overdoing “good manners” to people knowing nothing about it, they cant appreciate it and youll only look weird to them.

By: Zachary

Zachary — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 18:51:28 +0000

Don’t forget the chap stick. Especially if you struggle with mouth breathing. Although, I strongly sagest tackling that dilemma beforehand.

By: Church

Church — Sat, 08 Dec 2012 22:36:50 +0000

Reading these comments, it’s nice to know that some men still are willing to have a little class, and disappointing to know that some women are still without it.

By: Eric

Eric — Sat, 17 Nov 2012 04:41:33 +0000

In the unlikely event that Nina ever decides to visit again (or anyone with a similar view to Nina’s) I highly suggest looking at a certain article that conforms to the “real man” ideal that Nina described. That article is titled “The Baby and the Bathwater.” It helps to keep in mind that this article I’m referring to comes from The Art of Manliness AND predates the current article.
What I’m trying to say is that this website helps build manliness like someone would build a house. Things like virtues and integrity are the foundation: Absolutely central to build on that must remain strong. Things like what to carry on a date, on the other hand, are the furniture: Something nice to display your style but are not at all intended to replace a failing structure.

By: Nathan

Nathan — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 05:44:51 +0000

I am one of those from the “younger generation,” as one commenter termed it, and I am sorry to report that most of the “women” (more girls, I would say) of my generation are emphatically turned off by a true gentleman. I don’t get it. It seems that they don’t understand what a man is supposed to be or that they just don’t want a real man. Every time that I have tried to act in accordance with how the AoM recommends that I act, I am suddenly slammed in the face with rejection by an uncultured female. Now, don’t get me wrong, I have no intention of changing my ways because of these experiences–a true man holds fast to his virtues of gentlemanliness. However, I find it sad that there is such a lack of women who know how to be women, and to accept the advances of a fine gentleman. I kid you not, the last time that I attempted to give my jacket to a girl when she was cold, she was insulted that I thought she couldn’t “handle it.” How ridiculous! Similar experiences go for when I last tried to offer a handkerchief, open the car door on her side before walking around to mine, and even PAY FOR DINNER! What is going on? Perhaps, I am just seeing the wrong girls. Perhaps, the quality of girls–or their teaching, rather–has declined. I don’t know. But, if I am wrong then where in the world are the gentlewomen; the ladies?

By: Jackie

Jackie — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 01:01:00 +0000

If I was to find out that the guy brought a condom on the first date, he would NOT get a second one. Period.

By: An English Gentleman

An English Gentleman — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 21:46:08 +0000

A gentleman always carries a packet of disposable tissues. This is to offer your date in case she needs to powder her nose, suddenly sneezes, or gets an eyelash trapped in her eye. If this last event does occur, consider yourself quite lucky: offering to help her search for the eyelash while you stare into her eyes makes for quite a filrty opportunity indeed!