Comments on: Building Your Resiliency: Part I – An Introduction

By: Benjamin Hatton

Benjamin Hatton — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 12:07:56 +0000

I came here tonight searching for how to fix my life with my GF. I found what I needed in about ten articles on here. This one above happened to Mention PTSD. I spent over two years in Iraq, 05 to 07 and was wounded twice. The below is a list I made tonight and these are the real gods honest things that I either want to or really do think.

This is what I know for sure..
1. I know everyone thinks I am rad.
2. I know I am really rad.
3. I am a sexy man.
4. My GF is even sexier.
5. My daughter is the best period.
6. My family and friends love me.
7. I am a really kind person.
8. I am very smart.
9. I am driven and can literally do anything.
10. I am lucky to have everything i do.
11. I have been afforded many great opportunities in my life.
12. There will be many more of #11.
13. I got plenty of cash for anythting i could ever want.
14. You(GF) are beautiful and you love me.
15. I am beautiful and I love you.
16. I do deserve good and happy things.
17. I did what I had to do, not my fault.
18. I am not a mean person, I hate violence
19, I love to hunt, fish and tinker.
20. I am Ben and I am cool.

I CANNOT ALLOW MYSELF TO REALLY ACCEPT A SINGLE ONE OF THOSE BECAUSE I CANNOT.

1. TRUST.
2. SLEEP.
3. CALM DOWN.
4. DRIVE WITHOUT BEING RIDICULOUSLY SCARED/HYPERALERT
5. SEE CRAZY RANDOM STUFF BEHIND THINGS.
6. DREAM
7. BE NOT ANGRY
8. GET OVER IT
9. LET MYSELF BE LOVED
10. LIVE Any KIND OF LIFE LIKE I KNOW I Can

There, that is PTSD Ben logic style
barneyed to the lowest level
that is the best I can possibly explain it.

So I know I have all the reason in the world to be awesome,yet at every turn I cannot just be “good”

I’ve got a permanent 100 percent disabled status because of this..

So I seem to have that word, but I live in a shadow of my former self.

By: Will Charpentier

Will Charpentier — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 13:28:43 +0000

A friend of mine, a Navy chaplain, was aboard USS Iowa when one of her forward gun turrets exploding, killing 43 men. There was a great hue and cry in the news about what was done wrong and what should have been done better–all the usual media noise.

I asked how he handled the sudden influx of “customers” that routinely follows such an event among a close-knit crew. This gentle Baptist preacher’s reply surprised me: he said, “Sometimes, you just have to have a little s**t in your blood.”

That might be the very essence of resiliency: not that you won’t eventually be overwhelmed, but that you won’t be beaten. Thus endeth the lesson….

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By: Matthew F.

Matthew F. — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 14:36:56 +0000

This is such a great article. Everything beyond this article is fantastic as well. Everything you mentioned is something that I want and need as a man. I also believe deeply that this article is one that men all over this country need to read and to take a hold of and learn. It just gives that boost to people that want to see something real and to see a true man. Every man wants to be tough but to actually be that type of man is so hard sometimes and with this article it helps those men become better for their family, friends and most of all for themselves.

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By: cassidy summers

cassidy summers — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 23:58:05 +0000

I really enjoyed this introduction. I plan to read the rest of the resiliency articles posted. I never even knew what resilience was until I read this article. I’m excited to learn more about it. This topic goes perfectly with how I am feeling at the moment.

By: Brian

Brian — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 22:14:44 +0000

@Biz

“Meditations” will not only teach you resiliency, but also humility. It’s amazing how grounded and humble Aurelius was, despite controlling such a massive empire.

By: Tony

Tony — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 07:46:26 +0000

@Nate… that’s not the battery, it’s the light bulb. .

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