Comments on: How to Apologize Like a Man

By: ll

ll — Tue, 21 May 2013 08:53:19 +0000

I am contemplating divorce from my husband of 12 years because I can no longer take his attitude that he’s always blameless and right, resorting to pretzel-like logic to blame me instead for things that go wrong, even when I had little to do with them. It is simply unbearable….and he’s wired such that he sees a completely different reality, even when I lay out the facts and points of the matter. He simply needs a spouse who will let him vend his frustrations and blame his mistakes on, because he isn’t man enough to admit them.

I have given up all hope…I’m simply not the kind of submissive female. I’m rational, intelligent, and I have some dignity. If it’s my mistake, I apologize, remedy it and quickly make amends. This is only fair to those who suffered from my errors. Sadly, my man is not man enough to do this.

By: jim f

jim f — Mon, 06 May 2013 13:42:55 +0000

This is an awesome article. I like the point that you have to accept your imperfection as part of life. Embracing it will allow you to grow while suppressing it will cut you off from others. Also, not using words like, “I’m sorry, but…” is like making excuses. That’s not an apology. Own up for what you did. Very well written.

By: ben m

ben m — Sun, 28 Apr 2013 02:06:49 +0000

I like it it ALL makes sense to me im going to apologize to my wife right now and pledge to change my my behivor i love her so much and i feel bad when i make her sad but i dont want to be a little weenie there are some good tips here to solve some of the problems i had with apologizing . thank you

By: tawny

tawny — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 12:45:29 +0000

Pride most definitely is a factor. I think my ex has alot of pride. ANytime I’d point out if he was disrespectful or unfair to me, he’d get mad and clam up or walk away with a sour face. Then if we try to talk about it, he would bring up something about me from the past or tangent onto something about me….it was like he was shifting the blame onto me to relieve himself. It felt like a defense mechanism to lash back for hurting his ego or pride whenever I’d say he hurt my feelings or did something offensive towards me.

He also used to do the “I’m sorry BUT” deal. It totally made me feel like he was just trying to justify his wrongdoing towards me when the apology was immediately followed with a BUT.
I was guilty of apologizing just to bring peace to the moment. But I know now this was wrong because it set the tone to where he ended up expecting me to be the peacemaker all the time.

I believe it doesn’t come naturally for people to apologize. But I feel its something that should be learned and practiced thru out life. When pride gets in the way, it blocks off the open mindness, empathy, respect, and care for anyone but themselves.

By: Tyler

Tyler — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 04:56:58 +0000

I’m a Junior in Highschool and today on the way home I was driving behind one of the buses, (filled with mostly freshman/sophomores some juniors/seniors), got t-boned and flew on the sidewalk and into the gravel by a freeway entrance. A friend and i were talking over facebook about the accident and a girl that I like saw the comments. The comments really upset this girl. Is there anyway that any of you guys can help me out. It is going to really upset me if I have already dug a hole so deep I can’t get out of it. I am going to talk to this girl tomorrow, but I honestly can not think of any way to apologize to this girl. Please help…. Anybody. I would really appreciate it.

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By: BigTaru

BigTaru — Fri, 30 Nov 2012 20:43:12 +0000

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 01 Nov 2012 01:11:25 +0000

I know this is a guys website but I was texting my boyfriend and he was using his moms phone and I didnt know and I cussed a couple times and later recieved a text from his mother saying ‘Nice mouth! This is his mother’ and I have no idea how to respond to that.

By: Briellen

Briellen — Wed, 24 Oct 2012 21:09:38 +0000

I love my boyfriend to death and he is almost always super sweet…but the times I do feel hurt by him he will never apologize, I am always always on the apologizing end. I am fine with saying it even if I don’t feel I am in the wrong cause I want things smoothed over but I do feel like there is some “secret” mans rule to not apologizing…I grew up with my parents apologizing to eachother so now I am in shock when he won’t ….I ask him why and he won’t answer and says he does not apologize…but like I said other than that he is always super sweet and kind and loving…I just don’t get the apology thing. I tell him how it makes me feel and I almost wonder if he just shoves it away thinking I am exaggerating.

By: jo

jo — Sun, 14 Oct 2012 21:46:50 +0000

apology makes the world more happier