Comments on: DIY Marriage Counseling

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 22:37:05 +0000

Great advice!

By: Rob

Rob — Sat, 16 Mar 2013 19:37:38 +0000

Wonderful. This info is going to help me save my marriage. Thank you.

By: Cara Rogers

Cara Rogers — Fri, 08 Feb 2013 17:30:53 +0000

Interesting article, I’ve been searching around looking for good advice on counseling and where to turn. Here I find a turn inward post that says save the money follow some simple rules and save your own marriage. I like the idea and may start putting some of these to use. I do however think that it is sometimes good to have a third party to weigh in on situations. Thanks for your amazing post.

By: kevin ward

kevin ward — Wed, 16 Jan 2013 03:17:50 +0000

I’ve been married 5 months after 5&1/2 yrs of dating and living together. Two weeks ago my wife said she loves me but is not in love anymore. She wanted a temporary seporation. In hopes to save our marriage I moved to my brothers house. I’ve been away for 6 days and we hardly communicate. She did however invite me to dinner a couple days ago, and it was good to be home although brief. I know she struggles from depression due to family issues, and stress from me. She wants and seeks counseling for het depression, and wants marriage counseling afterwards. Did I make the right choice in honoring het wishes for me to leave? If so how soon should wait to try talking to her on a regular basis and expect to move back in?

By: Rose

Rose — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 03:48:37 +0000

my big question is, What about those of us who feel like their just friends for benefits and not husband and wife? Another problem would be him wanting to be with another girl while in the same time be with his wife? fyi, the wife knows about it and just gives in to his demands so he would be happy.

By: TIYARAFY

TIYARAFY — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 13:12:36 +0000

Hi Sir or Madam, My boyfriend and I are going out for 1.5 years- long distance relationship. And he keeps raising my hopes – he would marry me etc. But why is he a member of a dating network? And why is he still having some kind-of intimate conversation with his ex? I mean they are done with each-other so long ago. How do I handle the ‘mommy’s boy’ kind of lover? I feel I am not number one in his life but his mum? What to do? Somehow, I feel he pretends to tell me he is ok but I can feel and see he isn’t – why? And how can I change that? I feel its always me against him against the world. How can I get him to stand for me and not for the opponent? I settle issue via talking about it he keeps quiet and laughs- what to do? I feel not loved or trusted. I also feel I am the only one correcting issues and I don’t want to sound like the born complainer- what do? Was thinking to speak to him about all of these issues in dept – should I or just let go? But I must amit if so I might break one day. I am not having the respect I think I deserve – what to do? Thank you so much for your help in advance and have a blessed day.

By: Jaime

Jaime — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 20:25:31 +0000

Hello

I’m Jaime, I’m 32 years old, I live in Nicaragua Central America. I found this website while searching Mariage Counseling for my wife and I.

Right now I’m having a hard time with my wife, actually our main issue is that she has never forgotten the past, she is always highlighting it.

I would like to know if I can get some help from you guys.

Thanks

By: John

John — Fri, 21 Sep 2012 14:10:22 +0000

Thanks, my marriage has gone through a rought ime recently, but you have given me some ideas to help to work through our problems together.

By: Thomas

Thomas — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 22:08:13 +0000

I am here “manning up” to take the time to say, “Thank you for the DIY post.” You just can’t hear good advice enough. Really. It’ s amazing how it just seems like yesterday when I had the book in my hands, “The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work.” I held onto that book like a life preserver. I read every word on every page like it was my last chance to save my marriage. It was. Unfortunately, the life preserver in my case was like jumping off the Titanic. it wasn’t enough. But it wasn’t the book’s fault. Still the book is awesome, as is your column. You are so right about the difference between complaining and criticism. It’s using terms like “I feel…” instead of “You did…” I appreciate your writing and your efforts. You’ve just won a new reader.
Thomas : )

By: M

Mon, 09 Aug 2010 05:10:36 +0000

Another word for Phillip: SEXIST!

Ugh. Maybe if you stopped blaming your problems on some abstract stereotype about women you’d have more romantic success? Or would respecting other people be too much of a change for you?