Comments on: 30 Days to a Better Man Day 28: Write a Love Letter

By: C.J.P.

C.J.P. — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 11:13:24 +0000

I don’t have a girlfriend, wife, lover, fling, or any of that. In fact, I’m nearing the one year mark of being all alone in the world. I have lived the past three years in some pretty austere conditions that make it pretty hard to find a good woman. I am doing the 30 day challenge a bit late but I couldn’t just write a poem (I write a lot of poems and songs already). So I decided to write a love letter to a woman I don’t even know, the woman I’m searching for. I wrote about how I longed to find her and then I sort of transitioned into all the wonderful things that I love about her. I ended by telling her how I longed to meet her and to prove my love to her and become her champion.

I wrote it on parchment with a quill and ink. I rolled it up and tied a gold ribbon around it and put it in a bottle. I took the bottle to a pedestrian overpass that I go hang out on at night when I need to be alone with my thoughts. I placed the bottle under an overhead light and split before anyone saw me.

It felt good to write the letter. Even though whoever picked it up will likely never know me, I reason that perhaps some lonely woman who needed a love letter got one that night. It felt good to me at least.

The only identifier I put on the letter were my initials in closing. I’m thinking about doing this again, though I’m not exactly sure why.

Thanks for the post on this and everything else on AoM. It’s a great site.

By: Jim

Jim — Thu, 14 Mar 2013 05:45:52 +0000

I am currently based away from my partner for 6 months for work. I used your guide to craft my first love letter last week. Thank you!!

By: matthew

matthew — Thu, 14 Feb 2013 04:31:04 +0000

that is the perfect way to write a love letter!! I’ve followed these steps and created a beautiful letter for my love:D thanks

By: Richard

Richard — Wed, 16 Jan 2013 12:17:31 +0000

I love this article, it really goes into great detail and helps even those of us who have written a few love letters in our time. Also comforting to know that some of the things I write in my letters aren’t just weird or stupid and that it is perfectly natural.

Goggles, I kind of understand how you are feeling. This is happening to me as well and it feels like, as the cliche goes, your world is tipped up-side-down because of her. You forget what to say even if you have planned it all the way up until you actually see her, then your head goes blank because she is just there!!
For me personally, this girl that made me feel this way, I ended up slipping out to her that I loved and I don’t regret it at all.

If you feel it, you feel it & if you are freaking out just remember that you only really need 20 seconds of courage and after that it will be fine =) Good luck man!

By: Goggles

Goggles — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 19:32:17 +0000

First time reading this and the responses! I am really impressed at how long this article has help up and am completely awe struck by its information. I plan to use this information very soon. I am curious to ask though of the other individuals here, I am 30 and have been dating the same girl for two months. As far back as I can remember I am always smooth and able to maintain composure on any circumstances. But this girl I cant think straight I completely fail at times and am wondering if maybe I had never known love in the past and is that what this may be? Secondly is it too soon to tell her this, as she has been hinting that she wants me to tell her how much i like her for a day or so now. Any and all help would be awesome!

Time to peruse your member section and join! Again very impressed with the site and hope you keep up with the awesome articles!

By: NightSG

NightSG — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 01:02:57 +0000

Going to have to agree with Dan on the privacy. I’ve written quite a few love letters that didn’t say even half of what I wanted to say because I knew she was going to show them to at least her mother, and fairly often her sister and others as well.
I’ve got a journal dedicated to all the things I want to say to her and her alone, and I hope she will understand that when it’s full and I give it to her.

By: Mandlaka

Mandlaka — Thu, 03 Jan 2013 22:44:18 +0000

I have been coming back to this article for over a year and I still get wowed by it!
Just like Matthew, I am in the very early stages of a new relationship and I intend to use a letter to let this woman know in no uncertain terms what i feel for her. Sure, I could get thrown back but what I know thus far indicates that she is worth that risk.
So thank you so much for putting up this post because I will certainly be back to read and re-read it many time in the coming months and hopefully years.

By: Matthew Holz

Matthew Holz — Fri, 30 Nov 2012 16:06:07 +0000

I have read this page twice now, once out of curiosity and the second to reread and learn from the post. I took the advice at the end and have been writing many love poems to the point where I have many pages of poems. Today I begin writing my first letter to a woman, I do not know my feelings toward her but it is my hope that my feeling will turn to that of love and that those feelings may be mutual. Thanks much for the posts on writing letters, I have done much reading and now it is time to begin.

By: Biggyrat

Biggyrat — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 06:12:14 +0000

I have been writing my wife of twenty four years a love letter at least twice a month for years. She never tires of it, and I will continue to compose those syupy sweet notes. So get yourself some nice stationary gentlemen, and lay it on thick, with numerous pronouncements of ooey-gooey deliciousness. The ladies love it, and the fringe benefits aren’t bad either.

By: Soon to be married

Soon to be married — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 19:08:29 +0000

I am very lucky because my fiance is doing this “30 Days to a Better Man” blog. He is already a wonderful and caring man, and this is really making me love him more to see him to interested in improving himself. He writes me sweet cards all the time and always tells me he loves me. I guess I am very lucky and blessed.