Comments on: 30 Days to a Better Man Day 14: Write a Letter to Your Father

By: Luis

Luis — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 18:02:52 +0000

I got home late last night to find a letter from my Father, in the letter my father starts out by saying that it has been years since we last communicated, he then asked me to lend him $500. for a business he is starting up. I would rather have never recieved a letter than this letter, I am confused and wondering how to reply, I mean I don’t hate him, nor wish him bad, I just can’t believe that asking me for money is his best shot at connecting with his son. Any suggestions

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#6 – Dear Dad « Fictional Beer — Thu, 13 May 2010 09:25:50 +0000

[...] got hung up because the item 14 on the 30 days list was ‘Write a letter to your father’. That was a lot tougher for me to face than [...]

By: Joe

Joe — Thu, 13 May 2010 09:23:15 +0000

I finally did it. Only took 6 months and some personal growth.

http://fictionalbeer.wordpress.com/2010/05/13/6-dear-dad/

By: Benjamin

Benjamin — Sun, 02 May 2010 14:55:57 +0000

This is a good article, but what about the son who has been clearly told, “Stay away from me. You are a piece of trash.” by his father. That is what my father did in 2004. The rest of my relatives were in agreement with him, so I only have myself. I wrote him a letter telling him that I forgive him which only led to more verbal abuse. Sometimes there are instances when letters like this are useless and/or only create more pain. For me to move on, I had to forgive and forget (everything about him). That has been a viable solution.

By: Son

Son — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 01:38:17 +0000

Thank you for suggesting this. Really needed this.

By: Carl Golden

Carl Golden — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 23:20:32 +0000

Much like Kate did, for our father’s 75th birthday, the five of us kids came up with 75 memories that we had of Dad, and we put them all in a letter and sent it to him. We know that he really appreciated all that he wrote…..but better yet, each of us got a copy of that letter, and the memories that it brought back for all of us was great! All of us had forgotten some those incidents or stories, and to have all those memories come back to life was awesome.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 23:40:53 +0000

Let me briefly share my experience with my father and writing him a letter. I was in my mid-30′s and my parents were going thru a very rough time in their marriage and were seperated. Since I was any early teen, my father and I had always had a very strained relationship. So I wrote a letter to each of my parents telling them how much I loved them and how I wanted to have a relationship with them individually (rather than the mother/father unit). I mailed my letters out to my parents. My mother called me the minute she got hers, but my father – he never responded. I was heartbroken.

I was upset, hurt and angry at my father for a long time. After a while I came to the conclusion that his non-response (not even a f*#k you) wasn’t about me. Although he would never be the ideal father, that should not prevent me from being the best son that I know how to be. So I call him on his birthday because that is what a good son does. I send him a birthday card and gift because that is what a good son does. I send him a father’s day card because that is what a good son does. When I talk to him on the phone I talk about subjects that interests him, because that is what a good son does.

It is not about me having the father that I want or the kind of relationship that I would like to have with my father – it is about me being the kind I man that I can live with and that includes me striving to be the best son that I can be regardless of whether my father deserves it or not. After my father passes away, I don’t want any regrets on my behalf of what I could have done differently. I guess I should look at all of my relationships this way and be the best that I can be.

By: Joe Proctor

Joe Proctor — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:30:37 +0000

I started the 30 days program about 45 days ago. I got stuck on this one.
*scratch that*
I avoided this one for weeks.

Hopefully I can finish it tonight. Thanks, ‘Knock Knock’ video.

By: jeremy

jeremy — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:32:53 +0000

Thank you for this. Reading this has helped me to think about my relationships with my fathers in a way that I usually avoid at all costs.