Last night I went to go see I Love You, Man. It’s a Judd Apatow movie about a guy who doesn’t have any man friends to be part of his wedding party and goes on a quest to find new friends. The ads for the movie don’t do it justice; it was really great, and I was laughing the whole time. It managed to be both hilarious and pretty insightful at the same time. While it’s a comedy, the film makes good points on the importance of male friendships  and the difficulty many men today have in creating and maintaining them . If you’re looking for a movie to go see this weekend, I’d recommend it. Slappin’ the bass! (See the movie, you’ll get it).
How are you doing in the Art of Manliness March Madness contest? Did the loss of KU or Memphis break your heart and bust your bracket? Check out everyone’s position here.  (You can find me at #357 out of 389…..Putting Utah in the Final Four only seemed like a stroke of genius…sigh)
Let’s take a look at some links:
The Number 1 Reason Why So Many Boys and Grown Men Surf Porn (and What to Do About It) (@ revolutionary man) Porn addiction problems aren’t something most men like to talk about. When it does come up, it’s usually in the context of some preacher at the pulpit condemning men to eternal damnation or some uber-feminist telling men they’re a bunch of pigs. Not very conducive to helping men overcome a serious problem. In this article at Revolutionary Man, Jayson Gaddis, a professional counselor, explores why men look at porn and how to help them overcome it without the counterproductive brow-beating. Give it a look see.
14 Tactics For Getting Ahead At Work- No Matter What Your Job Is  (@ the simple dollar) In this tough economy, we’re all looking for ways to set us apart from others at work. The Simple Dollar offers 14 tips on how you can do just that. They’re pretty basic, but we can all use a reminder every now and then. A few of my favorites:
- Build positive relationships with everyone in the workplace
- Own up to your own mistakes.
- Stand up for yourself when you want a raise or promotion. (See How To Get a Raise Like a Man )
Learn Blacksmithing Basics  (@ mother earth news) Looking for a new manly hobby? Try blacksmithing. Imagine yourself, wearing a brown leather apron, soot on your face from the bellows fire, smashing your hammer down on a hot piece of metal to create a useful and beautiful object. That’s pretty dang manly. This post gives you an introduction on how to get started with this timeless craft.
12 Ways to Waste Money in College  (@ debt free scholar) Young people are graduating college with an enormous amount of debt load. The skyrocketing cost of higher education is part of the problem, but many college students’ money problems could be solved if they became more prudent with their finances. This post explores some areas where college students waste money while in school and what they can do to prevent this. My suggestion to the list: Don’t go to Wal-Mart at 3AM in morning with a bunch of your dorm buddies. I always ended up buying dumb crap when I did this.
In Defense of Manliness  (@ enlighten next) An interview with Dr. Harvey Mansfield, author of Manliness . Mansfield is a professor at Harvard who has gotten a lot of flack in the academic community for standing up and defending traditional masculinity. The rest of the issue of EnlightenNext is also pretty interesting. Issue 41  is dedicated to exploring the theme of masculinity in the 21st Century.