The Art of Manliness Weekly Roundup: I Love You, Man Edition

by Brett on March 28, 2009 · 4 comments

in Blog, Roundup, Uncategorized

Last night I went to go see I Love You, Man. It’s a Judd Apatow movie about a guy who doesn’t have any man friends to be part of his wedding party and goes on a quest to find new friends. The ads for the movie don’t do it justice; it was really great, and I was laughing the whole time. It managed to be both hilarious and pretty insightful at the same time.  While it’s a comedy, the film makes good points on the importance of male friendships and the difficulty many men today have in creating and maintaining them. If you’re looking for a movie to go see this weekend, I’d recommend it. Slappin’ the bass! (See the movie, you’ll get it).

How are you doing in the Art of Manliness March Madness contest? Did the loss of KU or Memphis break your heart and bust your bracket? Check out everyone’s position here. (You can find me at #357 out of 389…..Putting Utah in the Final Four only seemed like a stroke of genius…sigh)

Let’s take a look at some links:

The Number 1 Reason Why So Many Boys and Grown Men Surf Porn (and What to Do About It)(@ revolutionary man) Porn addiction problems aren’t something most men like to talk about. When it does come up, it’s usually in the context of some preacher at the pulpit condemning men to eternal damnation or some uber-feminist telling men they’re a bunch of pigs. Not very conducive to helping men overcome a serious problem. In this article at Revolutionary Man, Jayson Gaddis, a professional counselor, explores why men look at porn and how to help them overcome it without the counterproductive brow-beating. Give it a look see.

14 Tactics For Getting Ahead At Work- No Matter What Your Job Is (@ the simple dollar) In this tough economy, we’re all looking for ways to set us apart from others at work. The Simple Dollar offers 14 tips on how you can do just that. They’re pretty basic, but we can all use a reminder every now and then. A few of my favorites:

  • Build positive relationships with everyone in the workplace
  • Own up to your own mistakes.
  • Stand up for yourself when you want a raise or promotion. (See How To Get a Raise Like a Man)

Learn Blacksmithing Basics (@ mother earth news) Looking for a new manly hobby?  Try blacksmithing. Imagine yourself, wearing a brown leather apron, soot on your face from the bellows fire, smashing your hammer down on a hot piece of metal to create a useful and beautiful object. That’s pretty dang manly. This post gives you an introduction on how to get started with this timeless craft.

12 Ways to Waste Money in College (@ debt free scholar) Young people are graduating college with an enormous amount of debt load. The skyrocketing cost of higher education is part of the problem, but many college students’ money problems could be solved if they became more prudent with their finances. This post explores some areas where college students waste money while in school and what they can do to prevent this. My suggestion to the list: Don’t go to Wal-Mart at 3AM in morning with a bunch of your dorm buddies. I always ended up buying dumb crap when I did this.

In Defense of Manliness (@ enlighten next) An interview with Dr. Harvey Mansfield, author of Manliness. Mansfield is a professor at Harvard who has gotten a lot of flack in the academic community for standing up and defending traditional masculinity. The rest of the issue of EnlightenNext is also pretty interesting. Issue 41 is dedicated to exploring the theme of masculinity in the 21st Century.

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1 Tony Toronto March 28, 2009 at 5:23 pm

The ads for the movie don’t do it justice;

I was very turned off by them; only when Paul Rudd and Jason Segal went on The Hour with George Stroumboulopoulos, did I then realize that there would be some quality to this film.

Great review

2 Victoria March 29, 2009 at 8:58 am

The movie sounds fun. Dr. Mansfield’s definition of manliness and defense/reasoning is kind of weak. He points out “manly” women and defines manliness as a quality that all all of society should strive for, or so it seems.
He speaks of “traditional” manliness that has only been traditional for a short time in history.

There IS manliness, but it is not confidence in oneself, single-mindedness, the ability to lead, etc.
It is opening the door for a “lady” and, with grace, passing through the door first when she refuses to enter before you (for the record I will enter first if it looks as though it is more efficient overall for the other person to have opened the door). It is occasionally dealing with it and letting a lady open a door for you. It’s telling your significant other they’re attractive, and when they present scientific (scale-related :) ) data that they’ve gained weight telling them “so what” instead of getting a new scale.
It is stopping rape, and stopping abuse as a man, because men still have so power in society that people think women were “asking for it”.

I think this blog does a much better job of showing what manliness is than Dr. Mansfield does. He talks of a world where men are men, where a token “manly woman” is accepted, and the rest are screwed.
The Art of Manliness blog would like to have a world where all men are confident in themselves, considerate, and skillful.
I know which I prefer to read.

3 TTTimo March 29, 2009 at 7:33 pm

I’m not too sure what Dr. Mansfiled meant about Christianity and women saints, but I know the Bible is full of examples of great manly men. Moses, who stood up to Pharaoh. Gideon, who lead an army by faith, despite being fearful and being ‘the least of his tribe’. Obviously, David vs. Goliath. St. Stephen, who stood for his faith and died for it.

And Jesus, the manliest of all. Some might see him as weak, but he stood up where it mattered. He did not give in to raging impulses, but dealt righteous fury when there was injustice (the Pharisees, temple vendors). We all know his kind and soft side, but many ignore the fact that he stood up for and defended the down-trodden, the social outcasts, justice and righteousness.

4 Justin C. December 10, 2009 at 7:51 am

Correction: I Love You Man was not directed by Judd Apatow

Great blog Brett, but, the movie, I Love You Man has no connection to Judd Apatow. It was directed by John Hamburg and written by Hamburg and Larry Levin.

Here’s a great interview with the director on Elvis Mitchell’s The Treatment

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