Comments on: How to Give and Take Criticism like a Man

By: Andrae

Andrae — Fri, 03 May 2013 00:07:14 +0000

You know, this article really speaks to me. I will definitely take this advice and apply to my life from now on.

By: shallangwa

shallangwa — Sun, 03 Mar 2013 20:11:22 +0000

the truth most people always want to be right or think they doing the right thing but criticism helps you see your mistakes for better improvement

By: Landon

Landon — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 06:17:26 +0000

How directly does this apply to personal issues? I only say this because some mistakes may not be able to immediately address, such as acknowledging mommy/daddy problems.

By: James Jenneman

James Jenneman — Fri, 21 Dec 2012 17:18:04 +0000

One caveat: Watch it with the “clarifying questions” when receiving feedback. Identically worded questions can come across as defensive or sincere depending on inflection. To my mind, defensiveness is the worst of the human characteristics: It indicates a lack of desire to change an improve.

By: Dr. Rod Berger

Dr. Rod Berger — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:04:29 +0000

What a great review of how to handle criticism and dearly needed. We Normal Males can have fragile egos and knowing how to deal with criticism goes along way towards positive role modeling. I will post a new submission tomorrow about the global issue of getting fired and rebounding from one of the most significant “criticisms” of being told we’re not good enough and accessing our friends for support. Glad others are on this topic as well. Thanks!
Dr. Rod
http://thenormalmale.wordpress.com
drrod@thenormalmale.com

By: D.K.

D.K. — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 23:38:04 +0000

In the service they teach you the “feel-good sandwich” when you take someone aside (criticize in private, praise in public). You start as you mention with something positive about the individual, then you bring up the issue/complaint and then you finish with another positive comment.

By: B. Franklin

B. Franklin — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:54:13 +0000

@ Dave-Hater,

I read Dave’s statements objectively and I believe he has a firm point.

I believe that you have demonstrated yourself to be of low class – and perhaps stature, as well.

Your attack on his person, rather than his idea is a perfect example of what he wrote – when you are a known loser (as you’ve proven yourself to be) there’s no point listening at all to criticisms or compliments for that matter.

Now if you took the time and thought about how Voltaire might have responded you might have put yourself into a better light and thus got your point across. Which is a subject in itself…

Why is it so important for you to impose your view? How does that make you feel better? Those answers define the type of man you are.

By: Benjamin

Benjamin — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:28:26 +0000

The Gordon Ramsay comment about weather or not he is a good cook or chef is an un educated comment. Ramsay has enough michelin stars, even some 3 stars in there, that proves his skills as a Chef. He is fast, energetic and pationate about food. He is also an opportunist, Chefs work so fu*&ing hard, if you’ve never working in a high end restaurant then you will never know what its like. Fast pased, pressise work, varying temperatures, a perfect environment for tempers to flair. Thats the reality of the world behind your nice little quiet romantic table. So Gordon Ramsay takes the opportunity to make millions on tv shows! You wouldn’t? He’s still a great Chef, and still cooks. On his show he is a character. In real life he is a very very hard working chef who busted his ass off under Marco-Pierre White for many years. He’s worked more hours in his mid 30′s than most people will work in their entire carrers. That is not an exageration. He’s done his time, got his skills, now he’s doing his tv thing, doesn’t take anything away for what he’s accomplished and the skills he has.

By: Matty

Matty — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 23:25:07 +0000

This article is a little long for me to get my head round, although the feedback sounds like its great.

I have always found I don’t take critism well, I never argue I just mull over it for weeks and get depressed and hope I forget.

Myself and my flatemate/friend have just come back from having a couple of drinks (not loads, but a few to be tipsy anyway he critised me over part of my personality. Over something he thinks I do and although he said it doesn’t bother him too much (well it obviously does if he mentioned it) I hate that fact he said that, I didn’t argue, but now I sit here upset thinking about it and wish he didn’t think that of me, wether is true or not, id hope its not true.

So now I can’t help thinking about how he percieves a part of me that I don’t like, Im really really really really depressed about it and don’t know what to do.

By: Frank Williams

Frank Williams — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 03:06:41 +0000

I thought this was a great article, and was informative as it was funny.