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Manly Advice from Robert E. Lee (Plus a Book Giveaway)
Posted By Brett & Kate McKay On October 27, 2008 @ 7:06 pm In A Man's Life,Lessons In Manliness | 147 Comments
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Richard G. Williams, Jr. Richard is a regular contributor to the Washington Times’ Military History Column and the author of The Maxims of Robert E. Lee for Young Gentlemen. Visit his blog: Old Virginia Blog 
Becoming a successful man in America today, as always, includes giving due consideration to your father’s admonitions and wisdom.
For the most part, your father is wiser than you are—and he always will be. Wisdom comes chiefly through getting older. Since your father will always be older than you, he will always be wiser. Men should also read the words and deeds of great men of the past—especially fathers. One such example is that great Virginian, Robert E. Lee.
Most remembered for his military leadership of the Confederacy, Lee should also be known for his wisdom as an educator, husband, and father of four girls and three boys. Lee was a man’s man and his example of self-control, self-denial, patience, humility, and principled approach to life is worthy of emulation. As Lee’s military career kept him away from his family for extended periods, he maintained a steady and intimate correspondence with them. His letters often contained words of wisdom for both his wife and children. Lee imparted his accumulated wisdom to not only his own family, but also to the young men of Washington College (renamed Washington and Lee  after Lee’s death) while he served as the school’s president. Lee took the opportunity of offering advice seriously. After accepting the presidency of Washington College, he wrote: “I have a self-imposed task. I have led the young men of the South in battle. I must teach their sons to discharge their duty in life.”
Though Lee’s reputation is seen by some as tainted by slavery, Lee was, like many 19th century Americans, cognizant of its evil. Writing in December of 1856, Lee noted: “There are few, I believe, in this enlightened age, who will not acknowledge that slavery as an institution is a moral and political evil.” And Lee would have agreed with his father in law, George Washington Parke Custis, that slavery was “a curse upon [our] section by the folly of [our] ancestors.”
Despite this blemish, Lee’s letters and correspondences reveal the character of the man as pointed out by author Bishop Robert R. Brown: “There is no recorded instance when his conversation in the field or barracks could not have been equally acceptable in a lady’s drawing room. An examination of the two-thousand letters which still exist fails to uncover the slightest suggestion of vulgarity.” Fortunately, many of these letters are in the process of being made available online in a searchable database .
For the sake of brevity, I’ve culled what I believe to be the “Top 10″ of Lee’s admonitions appropriate for men in 2008. These are among the best pieces of manly advice I have given my own two sons:
Now, sons, heed the advice of your father. Go forth, be wise, discharge your duty in life, and prosper.
Richard has been kind enough to offer a copy of The Maxims of Robert E. Lee  for an Art of Manliness giveaway. It’s full of wise maxims for any man to live by. And it’s signed by the author to boot!
So how can you get your hands on a copy of the Maxims of Robert E. Lee ? Share your comments on Lee’s maxims or share your favorite maxim to live by in the comment box. Every person who comments will be entered into a drawing for the book. The contest will end Monday, November 3. We’ll announce the winner on Tuesday (Election Day here in the U.S. Make sure to vote~) We’re looking forward to reading your comments and maxims!
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 Old Virginia Blog: http://oldvirginiablog.blogspot.com/
 Washington and Lee: http://www.wlu.edu/
 being made available online in a searchable database: http://home.wlu.edu/%7Estanleyv/pentrans.htm
 The Maxims of Robert E. Lee: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1589803108?ie=UTF8&tag=stucosuccess-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1589803108
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