Comments on: The Virtuous Life: Chastity

By: Al

Al — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 12:26:05 +0000

My wonderful older brother actor Robert Lansing (still has fan sites on the internet) once told me, “…never let society or culture dictate what sort of romantic relationships you will have…you can marry, or not, be poly, or whatever is right for you…and you can have any relationship(s) in an ethical, thoughtful fashion…” I have to say he was correct. With the huge divorce rate, saying the only “correct” way to have sex, or be “mature” is too have sex in a traditional even marriage relationship. I somehow feel the author might secretly be a divorce attorney. Love and sex can be “important” in many styles and types of relationships. Perhaps in the future the author will learn how to be less judgmental and more practical and not so closed minded.

By: Paul Hakel

Paul Hakel — Sun, 13 Jan 2013 01:34:21 +0000

Excellently written. Exactly true. I sometimes like to joke that “sexual freedom” is freedom from sex (or at least extramarital sex). The Sexual Revolution caused whole distortions of sexuality in the world. Sex is for marriage alone – any guy who doesn’t get this is not yet a man. Self-control and chastity lead to health, wealth, wisdom, and good relationships.

Cheers!

By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 20:18:48 +0000

I respectfully disagree that you should wait until marriage to have sex, I agree whole heartedly with the sentiment, sex should be special and saved for someone you really care about. in my humble opinion

By: lina

lina — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 17:11:02 +0000

Absolutely fabulous!

By: [转] Benjamin Franklin’s List of 13 Virtues - As the deer

[转] Benjamin Franklin’s List of 13 Virtues - As the deer — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 19:59:15 +0000

[...] Chastity: Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation. Ahhh, chastity. A word that can make teenagers blush and grown men cringe. A word that conjures up thoughts of medieval belts, “true love waits” pledge cards, and ranting preachers. Many believe the concept of chastity has no place in a modern, enlightened society. Indeed, in many ways the virtue of chastity is the most difficult to write about. Unlike the other virtues, it is hard to define chastity apart from its relationship to religious beliefs. Yet, while the precise definition of chastity will vary from man to man, there are aspects of this virtue that all men, regardless of belief system, should aspire to. [...]

By: Surface and Depth

Surface and Depth — Fri, 28 May 2010 18:51:12 +0000

This is merely a question of MEANING, in my opinion. A question of quality or quantity.

Some assign value to greater quality while others assign value to greater quantity.

The greatest fallacy is to believe that quality and quantity can by synonymous. In any analogy, more quantity, less quality, and vice versa.

What gives a diamond value is its limited quantity, and even more so, its rare quality.

What seems to be missing in the comments about this article and the virtues in general, is that they are of a SPIRITUAL nature. We have art and math, nature and science, ying and yang. Living a virtuous life is about transcending your primitive nature. We stop growing physically early on in the human life. This is when the growth points inwards, aka morals, values, virtues.

The point here is not about details of whether or not you stuck your organic penis in a girl’s organic vagina. Yes, your organic physical matter is REAL, but so are your feelings and the meaning that you assign to your experience. They are REAL.

Modern, empirical science has taught us to objectify EVERYTHING, even ourselves. It often tells us that only what can be observed is REAL. It often only sees the SURFACE, because the surface is easily observable, yet fails to acknowledge DEPTH, because depth must be EXPERIENCED.

This article is about respecting and valuing yourself. Living a virtuous life is about doing the challenging things that build your character. The virtues are timeless and they are not religious, although they are often the common denominators of all religions. They are not mandatory. They are optional for you to choose. They are not about gender roles. They are about the masculine and feminine energies that balance one another in the Universe.

This article is about your EXPERIENCE. Be completely honest with yourself and you will lead a virtuous life.

By: steve

steve — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 08:56:21 +0000

man thank you for this. lately i’ve been on a casual sex hunt (aren’t we all) that i’ve taken to a level of slight ridiculosity. so to read this and think about it, the doubt i’ve felt becomes a little reassured that said hunt is not really the way to go. i am going to call my ex fuck-buddy and apologize for being a dick and a stereotypical man-doucher. keep writing buddy.

By: Dartist

Dartist — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 23:51:50 +0000

Excellent post, Brett and Kay, excellent post.

I am single man and still waiting until marriage (yes, still a virgin, scary, I know…) but it can be done and no, I don’t regret my choice, and no, nothing has fallen off yet. I am a normal, healthy, social, intelligent, and decent-looking guy, but I haven’t met the woman I want to marry yet, and so until I do…

By: Perspective

Perspective — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 06:53:59 +0000

Pimpster you are a child

By: Adam

Adam — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 02:00:12 +0000

Sex is death, chastity is life. Chastity is the natural state of man in the same way that health is the natural state of man. Would you want moderation in health?