Comments on: “Finding Yourself” Is a Crock

By: Jill

Jill — Fri, 07 Dec 2012 23:40:07 +0000

>>The key to happiness IS to find yourself, no matter how long it takes

This is crock. If you haven’t found yourself ( like wtf does that even mean?) by the age of 25 then you need counseling or you you’ve so unrooted that you’re a nomad. Grow up.

By: mke

mke — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 15:34:59 +0000

the article’s saying you have to go through commitment and action to really find yourself , but that sitting at home and think about being a man won’t make you a man

By: Nicky Lip

Nicky Lip — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 00:51:24 +0000

So then “getting married” and “having kids” is the only way to happiness, huh? Sounds like you depend pretty strongly on external forces to determine your internal happiness level… what if, and God forbid, but what if a plane crash or something took all of that away from you? Then what are you left with?

The key to happiness IS to find yourself, no matter how long it takes. Deep, honest thinking is the only way. It sounds like you subscribe to whatever kind of thinking society has told you to think up until now… if marriage and family hadn’t become a “normal” thing, how would you find yourself? How would you DEFINE yourself?

To be completely frank, it sounds like you are a bit envious of someone in your life who is able to “find himself” and not work or take on responsibility… don’t be mad, just find YOURself and you too will be happy.

Peace and love.

By: Jason Sneed

Jason Sneed — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 21:22:09 +0000

This is a good article about commitment

By: Brett

Brett — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 21:13:13 +0000

@Phillip-

1) I did not write this article. Cameron Ming did.

2) I think you have misread this article and taken a very narrow view of the point of it. But there’s nothing that I can say that hasn’t already been explained in the above comments, so I’ll simply leave it at that.

3) This post is more than a year old, so just as a bit of advice, I wouldn’t bother responding to people’s comments. It is very unlikely that they’re checking in here.

By: Phillip

Phillip — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:35:29 +0000

Brett,

So joining the peace corps or going to grad school or medical school are “excuses” for not getting married in your early to mid 20′s? What if the right girl for you hasn’t come along yet, or if she never does? Are men who become priests not manly and self centered becuase they didn’t marry and have kids?

By: Phillip

Phillip — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:28:33 +0000

Jonothan,

What if that “one” girl, who’m you can have that kind of life with never comes a long? Should you wait until she does to have the adventures and experiences that go into being a man wait until or if “she” comes a long. I’m 31 and still waiting for her, but until then I’m living my life.

By: Phillip

Phillip — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:04:19 +0000

Matt B,

For you marriage and kids are the only way to real growth, not everyone. Every guy who isn’t interested in a 9-5 desk job and a wife and 3 kids in the burbs isn’t Peter Pan.

By: Phililp

Phililp — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:01:44 +0000

GBurger,

Actually he literally is saying get married and have kids, to have a fulfilling life and be a real man

By: Phililp

Phililp — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 19:57:22 +0000

While I agree that playing Halo all day and hitting the bar every night isn’t “finding yourself” , getting a 9-5 job a house un the burbs and wife and 3 kids won’t make you find yourself either. It can make you a better man, but it’s not a given. I know weak pathetic men who have dead end jobs in a cubicle they hate, and barely know their kids. I know great men who have never had a normal 9-5 job and aren’t married, or are and don’t have kids. Does the man who travels the world doing aide work or as traveling doctor or nurse not have a claim to being a real man, becuase he opted out for the standard “american dream”? Our society has an odd duality, we admire characters like Indiana Jones, yet we also claim that a life like his, no marriage, no kids, a risky globe trotting job based primarily on treasure seeking, is a “non manly” life. I think being a real Man is about finding your true calling in life, be it in corporate america, the military, or traveling the world